ok- I'm having a huge problem with this. Everything was fine, until she started texting him. (let me give you some background) We tried to get me pregnant, and I lost it last week...And it's been a huge emotional roller coaster for me.
There's probably a 95% chance this baby is his. She's due the first week in Jan. He asks me if he can go to the birth, and wait in the waiting room with his dad...However, every time we talk about it, I start to get heart palpitations, get lightheaded, and have an anxiety attack. I can't let him go. but, having that conversation breaks my heart as much as it probably would if I knew that he went. i cry all the time. And I don't know what to do- please help me. i'm so lost, and think i'm going to breakdown.
2007-12-14 04:06:49 · 17 answers · asked by Danielle 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You are probably getting upset because you are moarning your lose.. and thats normal... But if he wants to be at this childs birth you should let him.. You could even go with him and show support.. Obviously if you guys wanted to get pregnant your very serious about eachother maybe even marriage.. This child could possibly one day be your step child and half brother or sister to your guys child if you try again.. Plus its very rare to have a guy man up like that now days... as hard as it might before you I'd let him go and offer your support and go with him!!! I'm soo sorry for your lose!!! Good luck hun!
2007-12-14 04:18:25 · answer #1 · answered by searching for answers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, let me say how sorry i am to hear your lost your pregnancy. i know how much that can hurt, especially with what is going on with his ex.
if the baby is his and he wants to be there for the birth, he should. i know it hurts, but asking him to not go could damage your relationship more than letting him be there. if the baby does end up being his, he will, hopefully, end up spending a lot of time with the baby and doing what he can to provide for the child he helped create. now, that's not to say he won't have time for you or your relationship, but this is a difficult situation to be in, for all of you. you've let him know how you feel and i'm sure he doesn't want to hurt you, but it is important for him to be there at the birth if the child does turn out to be his.
when you are ready to try again for children of your own, i wish you the best of luck. hang in there. things will get better.
2007-12-14 04:33:17 · answer #2 · answered by emo girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you get with a guy that already has another girl pregnant. You are so selfish you don't want an innocent baby to have its dad there at its birth and you want same guy to get you pregnant? So what happens when he runs off leaving you pregnant and the new girl doesn't want him to come to the birth of your baby? Get over it honey. If he had another girl pregnant when you got with him you knew good and well he had other responsibilites. I am very sorry for your loss but punishing an unborn baby and depriving him/her of being involved with its dad is very selfish on your part. This is a bit too much baby mama drama and the poor children shouldn't have to suffer over daddy not being able to keep it in his pants and knocking up women he's not in a committed relationship with
2007-12-14 04:19:20 · answer #3 · answered by Piparis 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
that was me 5 yrs old! my boyfriend at the times ex was prego and she was about to have to baby.. however there was question as to who;s the baby father was , it was between 3 guys, anyway i drove him down to see that baby and even made the effort to bring diapers, toys and clothes for the baby but she hated me so i was never allowed inside the house......... to make a long story short we broke up over all the fights and i think he may be with her now.. which i thank her now because that was the worst most dis functional relationship i have never been in ... in more ways then one!
now i have a wonderful husband who adores me and we are having our baby!
let him go after all you dont want him to throw this in your face later on! allow him to be a man and know that if he loves you there is no threat in the relationship
2007-12-14 04:35:19 · answer #4 · answered by lorenzo and lily's mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs to be there for his baby. And no just cause he goes to the birth doesn't mean you will lose him, it just means that he gets the natural born right to bond with his little one. I'm a step-mom to a 2 1/2 year old and love that little boy to death. It ain't to difficult to love your own child, but to open your heart and soul to a child that isn't yours is a real gift. He may not be my blood but he's my little man. And his mother and I are very respectful of each other since were grown and realize IT'S NOT ABOUT US AND HOW WE FEEL IT'S ABOUT THIS CHILD!!!! CHILDREN DON'T KNOW JEALOUSY AND HATE AND SHOULDN'T BE EXPOSED TO IT IN ANY FORM!!! Anyways let your man go see his baby!!!!
2007-12-14 04:21:54 · answer #5 · answered by my love...my Jayden baby! 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Are you emotionally and financially ready for a baby. Marriage first. You don't own the guy. He's now financially obligated for that kid, not you. He'll probably get back together with the mother of his kid. Find someone else.
What was the point of getting you pregnant? Go and see a Planned Parenthood.
2007-12-14 04:15:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
he needs to be there to see that baby when its born. he has a responsibility to that child. he can't just not go. think if you were in her place. maybe you can go with him. i understand you guys just went through something horrible together that had to do with a baby but this is the time you stop being selfish and let him go to his baby. i know thats harsh and i'm sorry but you have to let him do this. seriously if i was him i wouldn't even ask you.
2007-12-14 04:18:43 · answer #7 · answered by Kimi 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you two have anything worth keeping you will let him go this means so much about your character and your relationship with this man. This man is about to become a father let him enjoy this. Yes your hurting you want to be where this woman is carrying his child but your not right now so let go and give your BLESSINGS to him and his child
2007-12-14 04:16:09 · answer #8 · answered by sexiebum 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight. You're trying to get pregnant with a guy who either 1.) You have been with less than a year or 2.) Cheated on you. I think you've got some issues that need therapy. If it's his child, you need to let him go. To prevent him from seeing the birth of his child would be selfish and self-centered on your part. It doesn't sound like you're ready to play "stepmom" yet, so I suggest you go your separate ways and you get yourself some help.
2007-12-14 04:13:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 13⤊ 0⤋
This is his child, you shouldn't stop him. Really you can't stop him. This child is going to be in his life for the rest of his life, so will the mother of the baby. So (not trying to be mean) but if you can't handle it, then you need to think about getting out of the relationship. Don't try coming in between him and his child.
2007-12-14 04:10:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 0⤋