For me it is my dad and how he continued to unconditionally love and care for my mom, even after they divorced (I was 1). Their marriage was rocky with slips and falls, but they managed to distinguish between their failed marriage and being a united team of parents. My dad always put my mother's well-being as his top priority to make sure his child is taken care of.
Yesterday he told me about his will and that he has even included my mother to be entitled to the same percentage as his wife of 15 years. His words were "she's the mother of my child and this is the least I can do for her..." :)
His actions have not only given me stable parents and support but he has also positively affected the type of men I would allow myself to be involved with.
Who has positively influenced your life? It can even be something negative that you used to positively change/influence your life.
2007-12-14 03:55:17 · 15 answers · asked by Lioness 6 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Steve: I believe YOU were the one who mentioned loving the mother of your child is the best you can do for her, months ago in an answer that you got a BA for...and you said it before I put this question up LOL
2007-12-14 04:24:23 · update #1
Still thinking about this one. But, just wanted to tip my hat to your dad. Now, THAT's a man of principle.
EDIT: Oh, yeah, I remember that now. And you are evidently an example of that. Very happy for you.
My mom has always set a fine example for me, in countless ways. She's always been kind, patient, consistent, loyal, industrious . . . I could go on.
While she's not perfect, if I could come close to imitating her consistency in adhering to principles, I will be successful.
I've also had many other fine examples in family members and extended family who've led / lead exemplary lives, similar to my mother, who I continue to look up to, and try to emulate.
2007-12-14 04:19:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
What a great guy your dad is. I would honestly have to say that my ex wife would be as of this date. Even though she has been a "b" from hell during the divorce I changed for the better throughout both my marriage and my divorce. I am sure the positive change would have come regardless but I doubt I would be the person I am today. Perhaps a little different. I will probably always care about her well being because she is my daughters mother and I still to some degree care about her and her feelings but I must say she makes it hard for me to be able to say that.
2007-12-14 13:08:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tough one, for me to answer really.. the more I think of it...
I'll give it to my maternal grandmother... for one moment in time, when I was 6 or 7... in moving me to the street-side of a simple walk through our neighborhood, and telling me about how when she was 'my age' all men would walk on the curbside with a women, to shield them.. from splashes from horse-drawn carriages and the muddy water that would hit a man first, before reaching the woman's dress. That seed grew into an Oak Tree of respect -- while nurtured by the steady rains of having an older sister and mother around, everyday. (and a father never there, due to working nights.. really.. it was women all around, that shaped my understanding, reaction and anticipation of women...). My time with her was rare, because SHE worked too, and then moved to Florida -- but, she also taught me how to catch a rubber ball, in the walkway leading to her house when I was 3-4 now that I think about it... and my parents were NOT athletic, nor were my uncles around at all, something I did for my nephews -- like a superhero/2nd father, until they grew into teenagers. So, let's give some cheers, to her...
This grandmother is 93 now, and is giving me ALL kinds of sh*t about not allowing our families' Christmas Eve celebration to be moved (finally!) to my place -- from her/my parents' now smallish Brooklyn living room/kitchen (being her bedroom was also built, beside the living room in the town/rowhouse.
Although there's a ton of women in my chidhood that helped shape my life (including watching, listening to my mother's 10-15 girlfriends who were over all the time, near everyday and evening while growing up -- as was I in visiting their children, by the 20s within a block by walking and ringing their doorbells alone, beginning at 4, 5, 6, 7-8 years old, try THAT today... -- in a childhood that makes the old 'Wonder Years' tv-show look like an old loaf of Wonder Bread, in comparison.)
2007-12-14 12:29:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think my Sister would fit this situation. In times gone passed, she was in an abusive relationship and I did all I could (inc. speaking with feminists about dynamics to help her).
Since then, it was me on the rough side of a relationship and she helped me as much as she could too.
It's all swings & roundabouts.
I guess I could refer to my ex-wife and her so-called mother teaching me how NOT to treat people. Battering children with weapons, throwing objects at them for sitting 'wrong' on the furniture, ganging up to bully adults, lying endlessly, taking abuse as if perfectly normal and generally being two of the most selfish creatures I've ever met.
2007-12-14 12:58:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
My dad was by far the most influential person in my life from the opposite sex. His unconditional love and support for me gave me a rock, solid foundation and he put me on unending quest for learning new things. It took me a long time to find a guy as wise and good natured as he was, but I did it.
2007-12-14 12:37:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
My dad. I've been lucky enough never to doubt his love for a moment in my life, but he also cared for my mom at home with terminal cancer.
I didn't really understand what marriage, and devotion, meant until I saw him emptying my mom's colostomy bag. I thought I knew about those things in theory, but once I saw, it changed me forever. My marriage is stronger because of his example.
2007-12-14 12:14:39 · answer #6 · answered by Bellavita 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
the person of the opposite sex that influenced me to change my life is an old "boyfriend". i had this relationship with him that was not healthy. it was based on physical needs and all we did was party together. i really formed this bond to him and he claimed to have love for me, but when it came down to it all he cared about was sex. he didn't want to be called my boyfriend, but when i tried to date someone else he got extremely jealous and upset. i finally cut all ties with him. Two months later, i started dating my now fiancee and father of my child. this is the man i was meant to be with and if i had never experienced such a crappy relationship, i never would've been able to appreciate him.
2007-12-14 12:15:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
WOW i wish alot of us have mothers and fathers like that but i would have to say my mom. both of my parents are still together 33 years and both have been getting a little sicker each year with alot of health issues. my mom has taken care of us 4 kids and now my little nephew she is the strength,heart and soul of my family
2007-12-14 12:05:34 · answer #8 · answered by gasguy695 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My dad always pushed me to value my education above all else. Everyone in our family goes to college, but he made it clear that I had to do something valuable there.
2007-12-14 12:49:23 · answer #9 · answered by Rio Madeira 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
my best friend allen.
he was there when absolutley no one was there.
he loved me, as more than a friend.
hes been there for me through all of my relationships, and mess ups.
he's seriously the Best Person in the Universe!
2007-12-14 13:38:02 · answer #10 · answered by MommaCass 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋