Well, here's the thing. I think I am lonely and it's causing other problems as well. When I see a loving couple together, or people with their friends, I feel resentment for them. I no longer have any friends, my last few turned out to be real jerks and they ditched me. But I feel resentment for other people when they have frendship or a relationship and are happy. How can I get over my feelings of resentment? All I wanna do is make friends and not be lonely, but my shyness and quietness gets in the way because I'm too self-consciebntious of how I talk, because people at other schools always made fun of it, and I don't want that happening again at this new one. I avoid social situations, and feel resentment, yet I want friends really, really bad. I HATE THE LONELINESS! How can I get people to talk to me, and how can I talk to people easier? When I had friends, I felt no resentment, but being alone all the time does it. Please help!!!
2007-12-14 03:47:22 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Son, I used to feel like a social outcast at your age. WE were poor, and I felt very shy and VERY different from most of the other guys (I was a hippie wannabee). I was skinny and weak.
The thing that worked BEST for me was a sense of humor.
Telling GOOD jokes helped bring me out of my shyness, and made me FEEL socially accepted.
There's a LOT more one can do to break out of shyness and find a niche where you feel you fit.
Sometime, come have a "sit-down talk" w/ me, and I'll see if I can't lend some help.
Seriously, like I've said a couple of times: You seem to have a lot of potential and there's no point in you moping around when you COULD get out into the action.
2007-12-14 04:01:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Please don't feel dejected. Happiness and distress are only in feelings only as on it's own it does not have any value. Nothing is permanent here.
You should have strong faith in you. You have got this human form of body which is very rare to achieve . Don't use this body and mind , just to serve your material senses. When there is fire if you put more oil , the fire will burn more intensely. Our desires are our biggest enemy towards finding out our true self.
Study scriptures and that will give you enormous help and you will find an eternal friend who will never cheat you. By few systematic steps you can change yourself dramatically and all of your short comings will disappear in no times.
Try to find some good association and that would make you feel better and you will get relieved from your loneliness and gain some good friendships. If you are ready let me know and I can direct you to somewhere where you could find good association that you never ever tested.
2007-12-14 04:20:46 · answer #2 · answered by Roy 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
to over come your loneliness you have to take that first step yourself ,you need to be the to approach others once you take this first step it because easier ,You need to get into a sport or a hobbies where there are other people to socialise with .You need to start thinking positive as you are so negative about yourself it over rides what needs to be done .you need to feel the fear and do it anyway its you how has to go and talk to people and make new friends no one Else can do this stop feeling that you cant because you can you are a great guy so start to believe in yourself :0)
2007-12-14 06:27:21 · answer #3 · answered by this account is no longer in use 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all calm down. Find the reasons for loneliness, why you do not friends, then make good friends. Time will swing in your favor.
2007-12-14 03:58:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Life's too short for drama. I know what you mean by that. Get out more and see what interests you. To be honest I had that problem too.
2007-12-14 04:21:14 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i can be your friend :)
2007-12-14 07:24:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋