what are the main reasons why wives fall out of love with their husbands? women, how did your husband change?

Question

that caused you to fal out of love with him and then leave or consider leaving?

Answer 1

My husband died....so he left.....so I guess you would have to ask Jesus as to why he had to go.....

But I would have never left him if he was still alive....I loved him!!!

Answer 2

My 1st husband and I married way to young and we realized it and then split up.

Luckily for me, my 2nd husband and I have gotten it right.

We were both married and divorced before we met and we decided that if this marriage was going to work that we needed to be honest with ourselves and each other over what DIDN'T work the first time around.

There must be Honest, Open Communication (no secrets), between the two of you and you should put the other person and their needs before yourself and yours. If you live with the idea of what can I do to make this a better day for ____ you automatically start doing it.

For instance, my husband constantly mis-places all his stuff. So every night I put his wallet, keys, badge and cell phone on the dresser right where he can see them and won't forget them.

I don't always have the energy (brain cancer) to keep the house cleaned the way it should so he cleans all the floors. First he vacuums or sweeps then he mops the floors. That is a big help to me. And he does it without even asking.

I would say that my husband changed all right. But for the better. We are best friends and would rather spend time with each other than anyone else.

If you love someone and their "quirks" enough to marry them, then you know what you are getting into and should still love them and their "quirks" 5, 10, 15, 30 years down the road. Remember you have your quirks too.

Answer 3

My husband doesn't work consistently, refuses to do anything around the house, doesn't take me anywhere and then complains that we are never intimate. I work 55-60 hours a week because he doesn't work enough. I have been covering the bills on my own with very little help from him. And yet he still bitches. He compains constantly about my 20 year old daughter and wants to kick her out, after he was the one to tell her to come back home to return to school. (Which she has done) All he EVER wants to do is play World of Warcraft and I am fed up. I stopped paying HIS bills--cell phone, truck payment and truck insurance, hoping that he would step up. Nope. Cell phone got shut off, truck is being hidden from the repo man. Threatens to leave all the time. Finally I told him if he was going to leave, then leave. If not then shut up about it, I don't want to hear his lip service any more. Whenever he doesn't get his own way, he is down right cruel and hateful. He never used to be this way. We used to laugh and hang out together all the time. Now when I do have a day or evening off work, he plays the game and I watch TV or clean house. He won't do dishes EVER. They will sit there for days until I get to them, Need some serious direction here.

Answer 4

i have always loved my husband even now and i think sometimes when people divorce each other they still love each other. But realize there are things they can't deal with. I like any other women want to feel loved and cherished well what my husband did was go away to military and not answer his phone for four months. People would say this is mean but what is the offense Plenty leaving your spouse and acting like there not alive is just as bad as cheating on them. It causes all the same feelings rejection and Mistrust How can i trust him not to do this again after all we have children i need a man that will give them stability! This was extremely painful and i wouldn't say it caused me to fall out of love with my husband but i hated his behavior and couldn't understand it.

Answer 5

Every relationship falls "out of love" you cant be "in love" forever it's a fact. The in love feelings where you constantly day dream about your man will eventually fade away. That doesnt mean you dont love your husband.

As time passes you get caught up in your routine, you become relaxed and comfortable with each other and you are yourself. You begin to have problems weather it's financial issues, or what ever and things arent going so smooth.

Love is a choice, a personal decision and commitment you make at the altar when u get married to the one u love. You can live a very happy married life and love your spouse more than anything in the world, it's a decision to love them in spite of your differences.

Answer 6

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what are the main reasons why wives fall out of love with their husbands? women, how did your husband change?
that caused you to fal out of love with him and then leave or consider leaving?

Answer 7

My husband changed or shall I say he never took the next step and man up. It's ok to party and things but once you say I DO some of that needs to cut back. So husbands know how to get a woman and love her but has no ideal how to keep her. You supposed to be one where it always seems like your the only one in a marriage

Good LUCK but talk it out with your husband he may not even know that he's changing

Answer 8

I think because people grow and change.. I dont think it is something that they do or say... but its diffrent from when you first started dating.

Also, you will go through ups and down, you have to remember what made you fall in love with him in the first place, and think about those times, hopefully you can work through it.

Answer 9

Women miss that feeling of being "special". The only compliment that I have gotten for years is my dinner is "good"....Hello, how about you look nice or pretty today/night.....or what's that perfume? instead....what's that smell and him holding his nose.....hello! even tho' we have been married for 22 years, I AM STILL A WOMAN! I get tired of feeling like a maid/slave instead of the "other half"....Ya know what....?....I get tired of him farting & thinking he goes to work and his day is OVER....I work full time & cook, clean, laundry, errands, grocery shop, pay bills....my day ends @ 10 - 11pm...okay....sorry, didn't mean to "preach" - let me get down off my soap box....one other thing....do something nice for ME every once in a while, not just people that you're trying to put on a front for.....

Answer 10

Hunny, its time with each other. Life comes at you, work, the kids, the house. When is there time for you two? Us we have date night, which I have to say we haven't had lately, just bought a new home, family in. But Hunny, tonight, we are going out of town just him and me....

Answer 11

okay i think the main reasons that changes how we feel towards are men are the fact that they lose intrest because we dont all look like swimsuit models, that causes him to look else where and abondons are needs..
I cant stand a man that is disrespectful and who does not appreciate who he has in front of him..