I have told my grandma over and over, politely, to please not take out my laundry after it's done washing and dry it for me so I can have it done on all the settings I prefer (my clothes are new and nice and she fries them using the wrong settings). And this has been going on almost two years where she keeps messing with my clothes and I'm beginning to feel like I'm a robot stuck on repeat. Should I just stop asking her not to, it's not apparently getting across to her. My dad says she's a control freak. Is there a way I can stop the old bag from doing this? It's certainly manipulative what she does, right?
2007-12-14 03:15:56 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Stand right there while the clothes are drying... maybe with a club in your hand.
2007-12-14 03:23:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that both of you are involved in trying to get control!!! There is a very simple resolution to this problem. Don't leave your clothes. pretend that your at the laundry mat and stay there until you're completely finished. Read a book study do any thing else while you're waiting to finish. That way when the wet wash is finished you can put them in the dryer on the setting that you want. Since you're not doing this you have to accept some of the blame for the game that you're both playing.
2007-12-14 03:25:16 · answer #2 · answered by Kathryn R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um. She's your grandmother. There are more important things in this world than fighting with her over laundry. If she's a control freak.. well she's this old and hasn't changed... do you really think that YOU will change her now?
Not a battle you can win by butting heads with her. The smart move would be to do your laundry when you have time to do it all without leaving it for her to do it. Or to go to a laundry mat.
2007-12-14 03:39:41 · answer #3 · answered by pip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your dad is right. She is a control freak and control freaks are master manipulaters. I should know I work with one daily. I'll bet she gets upset when you tell her and is even more determined then. The trick is to beat her to it. That may take some super monitoring of the washer and quick feet on your part. Sorry you have to deal with this at home. At least I get to go home at the end of the day and leave my control freak behind.
2007-12-14 03:33:08 · answer #4 · answered by goodgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-03 06:10:23 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...I don't know about manipulative, but it sure is disrespectful. The only thing I can think of is to only do your laundry when you can stay on top of it and get to it before she does. You could also do it when she is out of the house. After two years and she still doesn't respect you enough to listen to you...she probably isn't going to change.
2007-12-14 03:26:32 · answer #6 · answered by sammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The simplest thing to do is do your laundry somewhere else. Another option is doing it when she's asleep and so forth. Why get frustrated with someone that's probably not going to change her ways?
2007-12-14 03:25:44 · answer #7 · answered by low1sk8er 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm deffo detecting it from you! lol she's just trying to look after you put your washing where she can't find it.
2007-12-14 03:26:15 · answer #8 · answered by Wide Awake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lighten up.Be glad you even have a Grandma.Someday you won't.
2007-12-14 03:24:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋