We dated for 3 momths i 29 she 25. All of a sudden she states she was not feeling the spark anymore but she was so into me and wanted to marry me and have kids etc... There were issues of her claiming she neded space and that we needed to know eachother more. She was in a verbally abusive relationship one month before we met ended in a restaring order. She was so happy with me saying how lucky she was and all. She also says she wants to remain friends cause i am a good person. She states she wants to be friends and still hang out. She also states that she broke up with me in a way maybe to get to know me better and for me to just be cool and let her think. She todl me thatt we had a good relationship and she will probably regret this decision for breakup. Family loved us together. She knows i love her and would do anything for her. Is this her way of figuring things out or am i done in her mind. I am just confused on how this came out of nowhere. Any advice of life exper.
2007-12-14 02:54:37 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hunny, slow down, if she was in an abusive relationship, she's scared; that things might change, that is why she wants to know more about you and your past, she whats to know what she is in for and that nothing comes jumping out at her later. Most abusive realtionships start good and then things start coming out of woodwork. You both are still young and taking things slow isn't a bad thing, it sounds like she does love you but once you get hurt, its hard to trust someone else.
2007-12-14 03:16:40 · answer #1 · answered by eeyore6838 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stinks when that happens... Sounds like she needs time and you do as well. She likely has some issues from the past relationship that she needs to deal with.I was in a similar relationship that lasted for 2 years. She needs to find herself and figure things out. Stay in touch and support her where you can. Im confused as to the breaking up with you to get to know you better comment.. dont really know how that works. Good luck...
2007-12-14 03:08:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coming from an abusive relationship she might be worried that things are too good and can't be true. She needs room give it to her. It does not matter if her family loves you as a couple. She is the one who needs to come to term. Right now the best you can do if you don't mind just be her friend or if you can't do that to step back and wait. All the best
2007-12-14 03:03:55 · answer #3 · answered by Iris R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are "in love" with someone after only 3 months then you are going too fast. She's smart enough to pick up on that.
I would suggest you let her have her space and back off. Don't call, email, IM or text her. Let her set the pace.
If you are meant to be with this woman, nothing can keep you apart. Have faith in that.
2007-12-14 03:05:34 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can't make someone love you....
Move on with your life, take care of yourself and your needs. If she wants to be part of you and your life she will come back. If not, then you will both be happier.
Get out and do some new things and meet some new people. Take up a new hobby or somthing.
Good luck!
2007-12-14 03:03:00 · answer #5 · answered by flyfish_777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you were the rebound.
Taking some time to cool off seems like a good idea.
If you are serious about the longterm it will help for her to back up and evaluate the plans for the future.
If this is meant to be, waiting will not hurt, only help.
2007-12-14 03:04:49 · answer #6 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
possibly she felt such as you have been appearing in a various way. possibly she in simple terms made an excuse because of the fact she met somebody else and her thoughts in direction of you replaced. yet basically she knows what she meant by utilising asserting that. i know it is not straight forward, yet very hardly is there clearity on the top of a relationship. Do your self a desire, and stop searching for solutions, it will stress you insane.
2016-10-11 06:46:51 · answer #7 · answered by stairs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only dated for 3 months....maybe she wasn't ready for a committed relationship with you...Just be her friend.....and let things happen....If you are met to be together then you will.....the more you confront her for an answer the further you are going to push her away...
2007-12-14 03:03:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just needs her space for some time. She obviously still likes you but she needs to sort herself out. Give her space and keep being her friend, your relationship hasn't ended.
2007-12-14 03:08:11 · answer #9 · answered by Mikey D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget about her, she's mixed up and is mixing your head up in the process. Three months is not a long time, and already there have been too many problems in my opinion, just move on.
2007-12-14 03:08:08 · answer #10 · answered by Brittney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋