My husband is Dominican and dark-skinned. I am white and pretty fair skinned. Of course I think about how my baby is going to look just like any parent does - regardles of race. I think about what color his eyes will be, if he'll have a little button nose, etc. However, I fell like EVERYONE else focuses on what his skin tome will be. They say they hope he takes after me - even his family says it. I find that so odd andnever know how to respond so I just say that he has two good looking parents so he'll be lucky either way.
Of course I know my husband is dark but I never think about it -- he is just my husnband to me. It's only when others stress it that it makes me think about it. Anyone else having a bi-racial baby experience this?
2007-12-14 01:48:58 · 17 answers · asked by cwrayvoa 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Just U - Ummm, I am not even sure how to respond to you. I am 31 years old and extrememly mature. I could care less about the color of my child and of course, a healthy baby is all that I think about. I beleive that ANY woman who says she has never wondered how her child is going to look is a liar. We all wonder. For mixed children, that is just another characteristic to wonder about. So thank you for your comments but you are very off-base on this one.
2007-12-14 02:04:14 · update #1
AND for the record, I never said that I hope my baby has white features. Everyone is concerned. I think my husband is one of the most gorgeous men on this planet and if my son comes out looking exactly like his father, I will be happy as all can be.
2007-12-14 02:05:40 · update #2
Hi...I have 3 biracial children (ages 6 1/2,2 and 4 months)..when i found out i was pregnant with my babys my family would always ask me if i wish they come out with my skint one or nice hair etc..i didnt think too much of it because my kids are beautiful and regardless of skin tone or hair type they are my babys and i could care less what they thought..my husband is black and dark brown skin tone and i am white (fair)...of course now my family doesnt make such comments,they now talk about how beautiful my babys are... my babys came out with black hair and brown eyes and very very light at birth..a few months after the birth they started to get there color and now they are caramel complexion with real curly lighter brown hair...not sure if this will be the case with your baby but im sure he/she will be absolutely gorgeous!
good luck and congrats with your pregnancy!! block out other peoples immature comments and enjoy this time with you and your husband...
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2007-12-14 02:08:48 · answer #1 · answered by Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ*ℓυν му вαвιєѕ*Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband is Hispanic. I think my grandmother worried about it more than anyone. She always said she wanted a dark baby. I didn't marry my husband so we could have dark kids. Some people just don't understand how rude it is to say things like that. My daughter turned out to have skin almost my color but tans very easily. I am pregnant now with our second and we are hearing the same things again this time. It's hard to ignore what people say, but you have to.
Good Luck!!!
2007-12-14 02:22:10 · answer #2 · answered by mj 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I have two bi=racial sons both look like theirs father in look,the skin color are tan,I am black and my husband white.
For some reason people think I am the babysitters LOL.
Doesn't matter to me,I Love my two sons and they love me that all that matter,not the color of theirs skin.
They are now 10 and 13 year old,me and my husband been married 16 years. Sometime I forget about the skin color until someone said something about it. LOL Can I said LOVE is all that matter,I believe I can,I been so happy with this man of mine,and our Children see this. God bless you,your husband and the new baby.
2007-12-14 02:09:45 · answer #3 · answered by Linda 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
saying that his family wants your baby to have your skin color is really funny. Time to have a check done on the crazy color struck in laws. if your husband is dark guess what hun so will your child white genes are weak look at tiger woods, alicia keys, halle berry, just to name a few they all look Black and so will your beautiful child. dont worry so much about the small things in life just hope and pray for a Healthy bi racial child really thats all that matters. Good luck, Yall so funny
2007-12-14 02:16:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
A person doesn't have to be bi-racial to be dark skinned! let me tell you a story. I am caucasion, an Americam mutt! Every ethnic background on the planet, I think. I tan very dark. At a pool an African American mom and her 2 liitle boys were swimming. The youngest, 4ish, was showing how he could swim under the water. He started at his mom and was going to end at me. Well, when he got to me and I picked him up and was praising him for being such a good swimmer...he just began to check me out. He looked from me to his mom and back. She and I just laughed. You see, I was far, far "blacker" than she was by a long shot!! My eyes were green, my hair was straight and down to my waist...but my skin was very dark. You are going to have a very, very beautiful baby! Don't let others spoil this for you and your husband! Besides, sometimes fairskinned people get sunburned easily! LOL! I wish you all the best. God Bless and have a Merry Christmas!
2007-12-14 02:05:27 · answer #5 · answered by tampagramma 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well my husband is Hispanic and tan, not actually dark skinned. But I am a big mix of things and pretty fair skinned so when I was pregnant with our first I used to think about the same things. And well I knew that our baby wouldn't be as fair skinned as me and I was happy about it. It never bothered me or anyone else in our families though his family would make similar comments as your husbands family and say things like they hope the baby ends up looking more like me or that they hope the baby doesn't come out too tanned. I was surprised but just smiled and said the baby will be beautiful no matter what. And she is beautiful! lol Now my cousin who is fair skinned like me and with blue eyes ended up having twins with her boyfriend who is from Barbados and very very dark skinned. Her cutie babies came out lighter skinned than my daughter with blue eyes! so you just never know what the baby will look like but of course it will be beautiful.......especially to mommy lol! And the way you responded to his family was great, saying that the baby has two good looking parents. Good luck and congrats!!
2007-12-14 02:00:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
My female cousin who is light skinned has a child with a dominican. The baby is slightly fair skinned, a bit more olive color. I can send you a picture if you want, of course, everyones different.
2007-12-14 01:56:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
i am white and my husband is black and we are TTC. It is more excepted these days then back in the day. But there are still many racist people out there. Do we all have a heart, skin, nose, eyes, ears? YES.....I wouldnt even worry about it, anyone that is going to notice skin color is an iggnorant person.
2007-12-14 02:19:21 · answer #8 · answered by MsBabyPhat 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I too can't wait to see how my baby looks, even though I know I will think its the most beautiful baby in the world no matter what. Its natural curiousity to wonder about your baby. Don't let people like that idiot that responded so rudely to your question get you down. Speaking of sounding childish, did you notice how they couldn't even spell the simplest words correctly? Lots of luck with your new baby!
2007-12-14 02:23:43 · answer #9 · answered by Ashleigh 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
oh, i know how you feel...I'm white and my boyfriend is hispanic...I always think about it too...I don't care either way, but I'm sure it does make you think about it when people are always saying things like that to you...personally, I hope my child has his skin tone at least a little because I HATE burning in the sun!!! (ouch) Just hope for a happy healthy baby...that's all that really matters and don't worry babies are so cute anyways
2007-12-14 02:07:48 · answer #10 · answered by AIM+e plus a Melody due 02/20/10 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋