My ex husband's girlfriend will not leave me alone. She calls, leaves messages, and text messages me all day. She had my youngest son's medication transferred from the pharmacy by my house to the one by her house. She calls in and picks up his prescriptions before I get a chance to. She registers them into after school sports, when practices are before I get off work. She makes dentist and doctor's appointments for them, then calls me and tells me when they are. She tells my kids that I am not a good mom unless I buy them this and that or enroll them in sports etc. She sends emails to my youngest son's teacher, pretending to be me to get information. She called the glasses place, saying she was me, to see how I paid for the glasses. Every time I talk to him about it, we have a decent conversation and then within a hour she is calling being rude and demainding. I am so tired of all the drama. I want her to just leave me and my kids alone. I didn't marry or divorce her. HELP!!!
2007-12-14 01:33:16 · 23 answers · asked by cyn s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Who do the kids live with?? Who carries their insurance?
If you are the custodial parent..I would send a note to the school telling them that as the parent/legal guardian they are to speak ONLY to you!
The same goes for all medical professionals.
There are many privacy laws that these professionals MUST adhere to!
If you are the custodial parent...and she continues to do these things...I would advise the ex husband to put a muzzle on his pet before you take legal action against her.
That all said...it does sound like she sincerely (if not obsessively and a bit militantly) does care for your children.
If hubby is the custodial parent..then you and he need to have a grown up discussion about Trixies involvement in your children's life and what the three of you can do to raise happy, responsible, healthy children together.
2007-12-14 01:44:39 · answer #1 · answered by foxinsox 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not knowing all the background info to this triangle - but would it help if you guys all got together to sort this out?Remind both your ex and his girlfriend that you are the mother NOT her. That way you'd be able to see how your ex stands up to this OTT girlfriend. You also definitely need to notify the relevant authorities ie: School teachers, club organisers, Doctors etc to be aware that this woman is interfering with the lives of your kids. She has stepped way over the boundaries by messing about with medication that have been issued. I am assuming you have custody of your children.
THIS MUST BE STOPPED AS SOON AS POSSIBLE. This lady sounds like she's doing a takeover bid on your children - and it could go further. GOOD LUCK
2007-12-14 01:57:36 · answer #2 · answered by inki2212 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would absolutally be upside down with worry, anger, disappointment, & feeling useless... I read through all of these responses, & I have to agree with the guy who said if you can't beat her, join her! And I too am a divorced mother! After thinking about this, I think I would talk to the kids & see how they feel without putting the GF down. Then I would call her & say hey, let's get a schedule together as to when you can pick the kids up & when I will. Sit with her at sporting events, school plays, & what ever... Whether she backs off or not, doesn't matter. You get to keep your kids & they get the best of both parents. Swollow the pride! This is what happens when we get divorced & there are kids involved. Time waits on no one. If you let this eat you alive, you will loose. And we momma's do not loose! We find a way to bend, but we never break!!!
2007-12-14 02:01:59 · answer #3 · answered by T. 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
First of all who has "physical custody" of your kids? you or your ex husband? If its your "X" then, although most would think of it a morally wrong, isn't out of line for her to make those decisions. Your ex obviously isnt taking care of business and the new GF is just stepping up, someone has to do it. Now of you have PC then thats a different story. you will need to contact the courts in your city and speak with them about possible harassment charges, IF you feel this is the route you want to go. I know its a pain but once you go down this road there is NO turning back, you will experience resentment and angr for a very long time if not the duration of the CP and NCP relationship. I think it may be best if all 3 of you sit and talk about what is going on, if your able to do so, and your feelings. Certainly it seems the interest of the kids is in mind here and you all seem to just need to come to term in term of repsecting each others roles in their lifes.
2007-12-14 01:49:00 · answer #4 · answered by Slick 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Take the guy back to court and have the judge make it clear to him that you are in charge not his bimbo! Also get a restraining order out on her, she is a control freak. Get in touch with the teacher and set up a password so she knows if it's you or the bimbo. Change all your phone numbers and only give ex your home number, this way you can check the caller id and not answer if it's her. Good luck, you have your hands full.
2007-12-14 02:03:55 · answer #5 · answered by kitkat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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They might realize they need you and come crawling back!
If you do get back together, don't let the same issues that destroyed your relationship crop up again. Have a good, long talk about how you're both going to make it right this time.
2015-01-28 21:38:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can very easily change your phone and contact info. Stop by or write a latter to the school stating that you are having a problem with an unauthorized person doing things for your children and to call you directly to confirm anything or have you stop by in person.
Change pharmacies, etc and then have your ex learn to handle her. Technically speaking, she is committing fraud when she pretends to be you.
2007-12-14 03:06:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Contact the school and set up some sort of "Password" to be given so that they KNOW it's you !! What she's doing is illegal and the school can be liable !! Same w/ the sports/activities. Also, you may want to get an Order of Protection for you and your kids !! Your X needs to Stop being a Wuss and Stand up for You as YOU are the MOTHER!! If his gf wants kids of her own, she needs to have them !!! Good Luck !!
2007-12-14 02:00:26 · answer #8 · answered by casper 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to contact all the people she contacts and tell them that the only people who are allowed to deal with your child is you and your ex husband. For her to use your name and do things in pretense to you is against the law and a minor case of identity theft. If this persist, then contact your local authorities and explain the situation if your ex is not willing to make her stop. She may feel like because you couldn't keep your ex happy, means you can't keep your kids happy. Until she is a step mom, she has overstepped her boundaries. Best Wishes and Happy Holidays
2007-12-14 01:45:05 · answer #9 · answered by Military Mama due 03/09 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I feel for you. I do think that your husband is not handling this like he should.
As much as it would be nice to have her help on certain things,
it is bothering you because she is taking over and that is not right, and I don't blame you for being upset.
I think you should suggest that you establish boundries about what you want. These children are yours and your ex's not hers.
While it may be helpful sometimes to have her do a few things,
it is entirely up to you and your ex to establish these boundries.
If she can't respect these boundries then this is a serious problem for you. Your ex needs to step up and tell his girlfriend that she is overstepping on you and that it is not exceptable. Tell him that this is not a competition, and that you want to do these things because it fullfills you, and you are the mom not her. Maybe she needs to have her own kids
if she can't let you be the mom with your own kids.
2007-12-14 01:50:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋