My boyfriend and I was broke up for 3 months..he started talking to some other girl but nothing ever happened between them.We have been back together for almost 3 months(been together almost 6yrs) I cant stop thinking about him and this girl. It runs though my head all the time. What if's..Does he think about her?. Why do I keep doing this? I'm driving myself crazy please help
2007-12-14 00:54:26 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
will it ever stop?
2007-12-14 01:16:44 · update #1
I think it has to do with the insecurities "inside you"... It's human nature, so please do not think I am trying to be mean here. Change your mind set. People need space & even a chance to get out there to find out what it is they really want! He came back. That says ssoo much!! Be happy! Be the best girlfriend you can be! He will see this in you & want the same things as you do, to be HAPPY! Start today with affirmations that you can be proud of! Tell yourself, Hey - I'm happy, he chose me! Over & Over again tell yourself this... And start LIVING! Life is full of experiences... so what if you had to live through a tight spot, you can now enjoy the glory days to come!!! Think Positive & Positive will be the outcome!
2007-12-14 01:17:41 · answer #1 · answered by T. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem. My husband and I split up twice so far and each time he was with someone. the first was the worst though. I did some things i am not proud of during that time but.. And yes. I still think, well, when is the next time gonna be from time to time. If nothing happened between them then chances are, he doesn't think about her. Chances are, when he was with her, it made him realize how much you really meant to him. your feelings are natural. Just sit down and let him know how you feel and start off with don't be mad. Tell him it bothers you and you need to know if he got it out of his system and if things are truly serious between you. try not to get upset. My husband and I have been together 11 years total now. We have grown so much from our mistakes, our failures and our love. I trust him with all my heart now because i can see the changes from before. Sometimes, things get easier with age. (i'm not that old, just 30!) It will get easier if you let it. Think of things you have done that might have not been right and compare to what he did. and remember. he wasn't intimate with her. Hope this helps!
2007-12-14 09:27:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all have a past and believe it or not, he probably wonders about what you were doing during that time as well. You will lose out on what has potential to be a really great thing, whether it is a relationship with him or someone else. The possibilities are endless when you continuously ask the "what ifs".
Enjoy your relationship for what it is today, the two of you are back together for a reason, right? You are not able to give all of yourself to a relationship when you have those kind of hang ups and that really isn't fair to you or him. Enjoy today!!
2007-12-14 09:03:02 · answer #3 · answered by reneej 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its pretty normal for you to think much about the past relationship your bf had with another girl. questions like "what ifs" can really drive you insane. But have you thought about the fact that its you, who is PRESENTLY in the relationship. C'mon, free yourself from all those fears, questions, & doubts , coz that could ruin whatever you might have right now. dont forget about the big green eyed monster, would you let that monster rule your thoughts? you and your bf reunited so why not use this time to build a much stronger foundation. get rid of those insecurities, keep in mind that you are his girl, and you wont let anything happen to ruin your relationship. dont let the thoughts from the past interfere and destroy you...past is past, your future is waiting for you, handle it well! Go Girl!
2007-12-14 09:28:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love him? Imagine life without him, if this is devastating to you let it go. He is with you now, nothing happened and you have 6 years together. Enjoy and cherish the moments with your partner, tell him and show him you love him.
You have your own insecurities that is why you keep thinking about her, remember these are your insecurities and no more. Every time you think of her, remember it is your insecurity not his infidelity. Good luck.
2007-12-14 09:10:33 · answer #5 · answered by Dianne S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Carring around the past is like carring around a BIG BAG OF ROCKS and they are heavy, stops your energy from going in the rite direction. Drop the "what if's", and get after the "WHAT IS". good luck
2007-12-14 09:52:38 · answer #6 · answered by happywjc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will tell you if you keep this going, you will get more crazy in thoughts and it will rip you two apart. Just ask him what went on with them two because you are having this bad feeling inside.So in order to get past it you need to know Just talk to him.....Best of luck.. OH MAYBE TRY PRAYING
2007-12-14 09:27:05 · answer #7 · answered by Toni A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you hold on to the past,you need to stop living in that time and let it go,he's back with you now,your relationship wont go wher u want it to if you dont let that go, is she still contacting him? ask heim if he thinks about her and see what he says.
The point is if you want the telationship to survive,let his past go,and live for tomorrow.
2007-12-14 09:23:12 · answer #8 · answered by I DONT CARE 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it just simply means you truly love this guy.... that's how i am with my ex
2007-12-14 09:00:50 · answer #9 · answered by stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it will never totally stop.
2007-12-15 00:22:21 · answer #10 · answered by m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋