how do you find yourself?

Question

i need to find myself, find who i am & what to do.

Answer 1

My recommendation would be to 'step outside of yourself' and try to observe yourself (words, actions, thoughts, habits) through what I would call 'the eyes of an alien'. Try to get to the point where you don't recognize that the observer and the observed are the same person.

Put your observations together and think about them with the 'alien' mind. If you can manage to do that, you'll probably have some interesting answers to your question.

If you can't put yourself in that 'alien' mindset, then I would say your best options are to ask other people (a WIDE variety, get many opinions and consider them as a whole) who know you what they think, or you could always take some online personality tests that can categorize you (though I think the categories are very general in nature and that you can't be fully categorized as anything other than your own unique self), or you can take interest inventory tests online also, things like that. Just be careful about what websites the tests are located on, and don't take ones you have to pay for. Also, it's normal for the descriptions of your results to fail to be entirely descriptive of you. Don't take them as gospel; think about each trait and decide how much and how little you actually 'fit the mold'.

Answer 2

I love the term 'creating yourself'! (Bobow's great answer!) 'Finding' or 'creating' yourself happens over time I think. We are very different people when we are children and teenagers; as we grow older our good, and not so good experiences help to mould us and as we get older, so does the confidence we have in ourselves. I do feel that once we find a comfortable level of self confidence, we also find a sense of security that we are the person we would like to be. One of the most important things that I like to remember, is that we are forever changing; we are still 'us', the only difference is that we have developed and grown.
I'm not sure how old you are, this has quite an influence on where you are with your decisions. If you're at school / collage or just started work, then the world is your oyster! What you do from here depends on your finances (how you decide to create and / or maintain them), your interests and ambitions, and your motivation. Since I was about 10, I've always made a mental list of 3 things I'd like to achieve (with no time limit), once I've done them, I set myself new targets. It's good fun and as a result, I've learnt how to Para-glide, toured across the Wahhabi Desert, flown an aeroplane, had a book published, fallen in love with my sole mate, become a pre-school teacher and ran my own nursery and am now co-editor for a magazine. My new list is in the process of being made now; I'm 30 next year, so I'm in the process of thinking up a really good one! Start with ambitions and targets and enjoy it all from there. If you're at a transition point and would like to have a change, I've seen people have great fun dealing with this; my dad retired from the police when he was 50, he re-trained as a fittness instructor and at 57 is now a successful personal trainer and manager of a leisure centre.
Explore all of the options that make you feel excited, enjoy your friends and don't let yourself miss out on the things that will mould you over time. Have fun!

Answer 3

Well, that is an age old question. And I think the only answer I can give you is that it takes time. It is an ongoing process of learning who you are. Take some time to do a personality quiz online. There are many available. Maybe that will help you on your road to self discovery. Good luck!!!

Answer 4

You must look for yourself. Where are 'you'? What is 'self'? It's not that hard, just ask yourself two questions:

1.- Where am " I "?

2.- What is " I "?

Let me give you a hint: As long as you think you've found yourself, you won't know where or what " I " is.


Good luck!

Answer 5

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Answer 6

I have to say that there are 2 views to who we are. Yours , which assumes a static essence, and the Christian, based on our being made in God's image, which says we are relational beings, meant for being part of a family.
The rampant modern individualism does cause people to think that their being is a problem to be solved.

Answer 7

Certainly not by hiding from yourself.

First, thrown away all the masks. You will find that being honest with others you become honest with yourself - there you are!

Answer 8

Getting yourself 'lost', is the best way to make your true self step up & prove itself

Answer 9

forget 'finding' yourself....


go 'create' yourself!!!

its a fun experience and you'll encounter many friends and accumulate so many stories on the way.

don't wait to find something. take the initiative and go create it!

Answer 10

Through my pagan spirituality. And I test this sense of being found through philosophy. Philosophy without a spiritual/ontological grounding always bores me.