How do i stay cool in this situation?

Question

I need to speak to my teacher about my progress academically, thats fine.

However the problem is last time i saw her i was a wreck i had just admitted i was gay. i could barely say the word. So im pretty sure shes going to ask me about wether ive told my mum. (i haven't yet, but I'm get closer)

I'm a lot better with my sexuality now. (i left school, now at college, good environment, feeling good about myself finally)

How do i stop the meeting making me an emotional wreck?

Answer 1

She may not even bring it up. If she's a good teacher then she will just discuss whatever you want to with her, and won't go probing into yout personal life more than to simply say "How are you?" and see what you say back. If she does mention it, you could just say something like "Now's not a good time to discuss it, but can I come talk to you in the New Year if I need to?"

Answer 2

Maybe you could start by grasping the concept that you have nothing to apologise for, and nothing to be ashamed of?

And yeah, I know, I'm an insensitive homophobic pig. But really, I just don't understand why or how learning to live at peace with yourself can be so difficult. Or why you should so desperately seek the approval of others.

F*** 'em.

You're never going to be able to take the reins of your own life until you realise this is YOUR life, and those who have issues with any part of it can go for a long walk off a short pier.

You owe this teacher nothing. Stop assuming that you do, sieze this meeting by the throat and squeeze it until it gets reasonable and goes the way YOU want it to.

Answer 3

Hi Magic D,
I can see you are nervous about speaking to your teacher.

Here's what I'd do.

First I'd diffuse the situation immediately by approaching her and saying--in a light sort of way--thanks for being patient with me last time we talked gee was i a wreck. But I've sorted things out and I am better now." And then from that point on I would not discuss my personal life with her. If you need to speak to someone about stresses outside of school--or just your personal life-- perhaps it's better to seek the advice of a licensed counselor on the campus or elsewhere. That way you and your teacher can just focus on the subject matter at hand. Chances are your teacher feels just as awkward and uncomfortable as you do.

One more thing...before you go in to talk, as much as possible VISUALIZE yourself calm, comfortable, collected and in control of the situation.

The best of luck....

Answer 4

you should just tell her that you dont feel comfortable talking about your sexual orientation to her.

Tell her the truth, shes not going to tell your mum. If you feel good about it, you shouldnt be nervous asking questions.

Progress in college, she just wants to know whether your doing fine in your subjects. (thats what ive done last week)

Its better telling somebody who you can trust instead of bottle-ing things up.

See how the conversation goes, take it from there.

Answer 5

Since you are at college I am assuming that you are 18 years old. I would tell her that it is none of her business about your personal life and that your tuition pays her to tend to your educational needs and not personal situations that may arise. If she persists I would tell her that I am going to report her for harassment and last but not least make it clear you do not want her speaking to your parents about your sexuality at all.

Answer 6

Hum...just be cool...Be yourself and act naturally.You're not an emotional wreck just because you made a remark about your sexual preference.

Answer 7

Hey Magic, maybe you could cry beforehand? I'm serious that really calms my nerves, and you won't be holding back tears. Good luck.