I am 19 and just getting done with my first semester of college. I am not sure if it is a problem, but I don't like being touched by anyone. I dont like hugging parents or relatives and never kissed a girl or anything with a girl. I find girls attractive just from a distance dont want to be touched. Is there something wrong or are some people just like that and never like touching others. I mean I don't feel like it is much of a problem but never thought to much about it, WHat do you think????????
2007-12-13 19:01:59 · 11 answers · asked by One Day 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I dont have a phobia of germs or ocd, I love mudding on my atv and hunting (which includes gutting the deer when I go deer hunting) so its got nothing to do about germs or anything.
2007-12-13 19:04:27 · update #1
I dont want to get married or have kids I guess its not me, I would probably just be better on my own
2007-12-13 19:12:43 · update #2
All my life, I have never liked to be touched. Except by my significant other and now my children. Your situation sounds more extreme than mine because I was able to get close to my sexual partners, just not anyone else. It sounds like you may be asexual. There is help for it. But most people who are asexual don't want to change, because they are happy with themselves. If your unhappy, speak with your doctor. If your happy, there are plenty of sites on the web you can visit. To get information or to talk to ppl like yourself. I put the link to one such site under source. Hope it helps.
2007-12-13 19:11:27 · answer #1 · answered by jadedragon1979 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just feel this way either they are shy or it just makes them uncomfortable. Although it probably isnt anything serious if i were you i would try to make an appointment with a psychiatrist. You may have some sort of condition and there could be a treatment plan to help you get more comfortable with others.
Good luck i hope you figure it out!
2007-12-13 19:06:44 · answer #2 · answered by LaurenLovesYou 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm... Before i met my husband, I was the same way. I did not want anyone to touch me. I wasn't a germophobe. I just didn't like the contact and thought that living my life alone was the only way to go. My point is, different strokes for different folks. Those that are secure enough to know what they want are to be ad,ired. Eventually things changed for me. I met my husband and had my daughter. But if you are okay with how you feel, then cool. More power to you. Atleast you're aware of yourself.
2007-12-13 20:03:41 · answer #3 · answered by Harleau 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to think back when you were alittle younger and how your parents raised you..they werent very affectionate were they? no i didnt think so................. what you should do is go and see a councilor and work out were this fear and or hate of affection stems from ...other wise if left unchecked and no help then you will end up being a very unpleasant person and will have lots of stamina and no where to release it .............. also go to your library and get your self some books on relationships and one more thing ....if you didnt think it was a problem or may be a problem then you wouldnt be here asking now would you? i wouldnt be surprised if a councilor if you saw one asks you if you might like to try hypnoses...you really should think about it as one day you will want to have parnter in your life
2007-12-13 19:13:21 · answer #4 · answered by jess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi J, If you don't like being touch how are you going to find a mate in the future and settled down and start a family??? This to me is a problem and i think you might want to see a counselor about this problem. Your afraid to show your love emotions. Seeks help Please so you can have a happy life in the future.
A Friend,
poppy1
2007-12-13 19:09:16 · answer #5 · answered by poppy1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you probably have other things on your mind at this time. I think someday you will meet a girl who can't touch you enough. I don't think you grew up around a mother and father or sisters and brothers who expresseed their feelings with touch.
2007-12-13 19:08:47 · answer #6 · answered by Jacks036 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah id say thats a problem.
it seems like maybe youre scared to get close enough to someone to care about them?
unless youd be happy to live your life on your own.
then i dont see a problem.
but i cant really say ive heard of any girl who wants to marry a guy who only wants to see her from a distance...
maybe its just a phase?
2007-12-13 19:07:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
hi..im a girl, and i was just like you when i was 18..., when people wanted to hug me, they always said i always pulled back..and i hateddddddd kissing. and then i met my boyfriend, and i hated to kiss him and hug him or anything, but suddenly i opened up and now i dont mind being touched at all! you'll grow out of it...
2007-12-13 19:06:27 · answer #8 · answered by MissUnpredictable 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you have to learn to love with your body man.
but if you don't feel like that then that's OK but try man then you take a shower.
is about love this life you know.
good luck!
2007-12-13 19:07:47 · answer #9 · answered by ALEX 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well no woman is ever going to show you true love if don't show affection and of course that has to do with touching so i don't know what to tell you.
2007-12-13 19:07:16 · answer #10 · answered by JOHNNY M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋