what should a man do if he marry a woman before he have sex with her but it turns out the sex is bad should he stay if he lover or divorce her because the sex is no good. if sex is no good a marriage will never work?
2007-12-13 17:45:29 · 19 answers · asked by mr MAN 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sex gets better as your relationship deepens and your love for one another grows. If you're having sex with your wife with a mindset of what you want to get out of it, then you've missed the point entirely. Sex is a deep expression of love, and love is not selfish, rather it's giving. So if sex is not good, 1st evaluate yourself. How are you giving love to your wife? Is it in a way that she enjoys and can receive from you? 2nd communicate with each other. She needs to know how to give to you as well. 3rd if either one of you has not given your whole heart to the other, then you don't fully trust the other, and the pleasure of sexual intimacy is askewed if not lost. Tell your wife that you give your whole heart to her, and do it :)
2007-12-13 18:10:44 · answer #1 · answered by BlueTulip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I, too, am a virgin and plan to stay that way until marriage. Yes, my religious beliefs play a large factor in my decision but it's not the sole factor. I like the fact that when I do choose to share myself with someone I'm giving him something that no one else has had, and prayerfully he will be the only one who ever will. I am also extremely modest and shy therefore to lay with guy after guy for the purpose of physical pleasure is out of the question. When I do share myself with someone I will be giving him all that I am and not what's left after prior relationships. It's also a bonus knowing that the guys I'm in relationships with aren't with me just for the sex. There is also the gift that God has given me that I may give to only one special person of my choosing. Keep in mind that once you give your virginity away it is gone for good. Yes, you can have that surgery that will reattach your hymen but you've already experienced the act of sex so it's really rather generic. I hope I've answered what you were looking for.
2016-05-23 12:10:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is the sex bad? You can learn to have good sex together. Is she inexperienced? She is probably nervous and does not know what you want. Help her out with that. You can learn what she likes and you can show her what you like. I would not divorce her over this. There is more to a marriage than sex. This problem is very fixable.
2007-12-13 20:30:04 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is such a small part of marriage yet it commands such a large amount of attention. Sex should be for procreation. One day, should you stay married, you won't be able to perform anymore. Should your wife then divorce you? There must have been other things you liked about your wife since you married her without having sex. If you practice enough the sex will improve. Give it a try.
2007-12-13 17:52:39 · answer #4 · answered by just me 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if 2 people wait till marriage, they both are going to be inexpericenced! That's to be expected, even if only one of them is a virgin. Good sex comes from 2 people that love each other and are responsive to each others wants and needs. It's also something that one gets good at with practice and desire to do better.
2007-12-13 18:24:07 · answer #5 · answered by munkees81 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex can be approved. You have to practice .... BOTH OF YOU!!! Read articles and talk about it.
If you are thinking about divorce just because the sex is bad than your marriage is going to be doomed to fail if you keep that attitude.
2007-12-13 17:53:12 · answer #6 · answered by Meggs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I have never had bad sex, and second you will have to define what you mean by bad sex.
Whatever the problem is I would start by talking to HER about it and not a bunch of strangers on the net.
2007-12-13 18:29:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is not all about sex.Sex is very,very small part of it.If you got married just to have sex,then it won't work anyways.You never say you love her,you never say things are great except the sex.If you want to work it out,you need therapy for sex and marriage.
2007-12-13 17:53:38 · answer #8 · answered by avavu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out WHY it's bad. Have you asked her what makes her feel good?
Remember this men are physical beings while women are emotional beings. Men can get turned on just by looking, women (typically) need to be aroused on many different levels and I promise this.. "HEY BABY! Wanna go to bed?" is a big turn off.
2007-12-13 17:56:52 · answer #9 · answered by william c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage isnt about sex. It's about love. You/her can have sex practices etc to get better.
2007-12-13 17:49:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋