I already have 2 boys 5 and 3 yrs of age,i love to have a baby girl,but my husband does not agree with me,he says we cannot afford to have more children and there is no guarantee that the 3rd baby i concieve will be a girl?whats your say?
2007-12-13 17:43:15 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Maybe wait until you have more money so you can afford a 3rd child, then look into adoption. You could decide which gender you get then. Good luck!
2007-12-13 17:47:25 · answer #1 · answered by Cierra S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the best thing might be to wait until you and husband can afford to have another child and just maybe he will change his mind. But your husband is right there is no guarantee that if you choose to have another baby that it will be a girl. My sister wanted a baby boy and ended up having 4 girls.
2007-12-13 18:18:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is most likely right.
You are up against the master of all "deal breakers" in a relationship.
I have been divorced twice, because I don't want any children. Both of my former spouses did. Sorry, but I won't give in. I have ended a few casual dating relationships over this as well.
I know another couple that the husband wanted more kids, and the wife did not. She is the one that pays the bills. She knows what they can afford. She had an abortion recently because they can't afford the two that they have now.
2007-12-14 00:53:45 · answer #3 · answered by Marvin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I understand your desire but you must respect your husband's decision.. if it helps, perhaps you could focus on the advantages to your sons at not having a lot of children dividing your attention.. the fewer children you have, the more attention you are able to pay to them individually.
If you really have your heart set on a girl, perhaps later down the line, if you are more financially secure, you could look at adoption - that way you know you'd be getting a girl, and you'd be getting one who desperately needs a family. Your husband is right - you could try for a girl and never have one. My grandmother had 6 girls and only 1 boy. There is no guarantee when conceiving.
2007-12-13 18:57:23 · answer #4 · answered by Kylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would say wait. If you can not afford a child right now do not bring one into the world that might end up being a boy. So you might end up with 3 boys instead of that girl you wanted. Adoption is an option if you want a girl.
2007-12-13 18:19:02 · answer #5 · answered by Caitlin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all if hubby doesn't want more children you can't really force him, and funny story. my great grandma all she wanted was a baby boy. She had 13 Yes 13 beautiful little girls. She actually tried i think until she couldn't anymore. So if you do convice hubby i would def concider adoption. On another note girls are SOO much harder than boys. I wanted a girl so bad. Well my neice is a month and 10 days younger than my son. I would mess with my sister when we were preggo and say we were going to trade babies because she wanted a boy. Well now that we've had our babies. I wouldn't try for a girl if you paid me a million dollars. my lil boy is soo much more content than her girl. Good luck though dear with whatever you decide!
2007-12-13 18:47:26 · answer #6 · answered by ilovewigglesandgiggles 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should listen to your husband. Will you want a 4th if the 3rd isn't a girl?
2007-12-14 16:10:00 · answer #7 · answered by kidfree 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A friend of my mom's kept trying for a girl and she ended up with 6 boys... LOL.
2007-12-13 17:49:28 · answer #8 · answered by Boston 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wait it out...if it comes to be that he agrees and you can afford another child - adopt!
2007-12-13 18:42:45 · answer #9 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My say is that your husband doesn't want another baby, so you have to respect his decision.
2007-12-13 17:46:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋