Generally he is a good guy, he helps her with groceries, helps to clean the house and stuff. The only thing is: he treats her like **** in front of people. He tells her to buy him expensive stuff, drive him around, call her ignorant and stupid to his friends. she finds out , breaks up with him, and 2 days later goes back. Should I convince her to stay away from him or keep my mouth shut?
2007-12-13 17:08:17 · 33 answers · asked by monique 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
damn.. u cant just sit back and watch ur friend take that.. let her know whats up..
she'll probly deny that he's bad for her and she'll continue to run back to him until she realizes that thats not someone that she wants to be with.. just keep letting her know that you dont like to see her treated like that and hopefully she can realize it for herself...peace
2007-12-13 17:11:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People in abusive relationships such as the one you're describing already know they're in a bad situation, but find themselves unable to leave. You may have a very hard time convincing her.
Tell her what you're seeing and hearing, tell her how much pain it gives you, ask her if she can tell you why she stays with him, why she endures his abusive behavior. Let her know first and foremost that her safety and wellbeing is your chief concern, and that she can depend on you for support, no matter what.
Leaving and staying away from him has to be her decision, not yours.
2007-12-13 17:20:09 · answer #2 · answered by Palmerpath 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Point out to her what you just told us and let her make her decision. You may not be able to convince her to stay away from him. If you'r e not scared of him engage him with your feelings about his boorish behavior.
Sooner or later they will break up for good and yours will be the shoulder she comes to cry on. Guess what, her next boyfriend may be of the same ilk. Some women get attracted to the same type of unsavory characters.
2007-12-13 17:13:44 · answer #3 · answered by Akasanoma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she's just as much of an asshole as he is, if she's going to stay there and take it, maybe she love all the other things he's doing for her, so much until she's over looking the bad things, if it's pissing you off, tell them how you feel about this, as a friend, because that's what friends are for.....
2007-12-13 17:19:42 · answer #4 · answered by Kas-O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a good friend the best thing that you can do is to let her know that you are always there for her and maybe even say that you think she can do better but do not push the issue and do not mention it very often because who knows, maybe they will end up being together for many years to come and you dont want her to resent you for talking about her bf.. girls are always defensive about their boyfriends even if they realize you are right.. just be there for her.
2007-12-13 17:17:14 · answer #5 · answered by meeeeeeeee2681 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your mouth shut. End of story. If she is foolish enough to tolerate this kind of treatment, then nothing you say or do is going to make any difference. If you say anything, she'll only get mad at you for it. If it gets to the point where you can't stand to be around them both together, then gently tell her that you'd prefer to spend time with her one-on-one and why. Don't judge, don't lecture, just be honest.....and be prepared for her to not want to be around you.
2007-12-13 17:12:44 · answer #6 · answered by JennyP 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-11 06:22:26 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from past experiance of my own as well as other people that get involved you will be the ***---- in the end. if she asked you i would say something like what do you think?? in other words she is probably well aware of it from what you said but insecure to put up with it and will in time if she has any sense to dump the ego tripped idiot that wants to show off and be a macho idiot.keep your mouth shut or avoid them til she does.
2007-12-13 17:15:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your mouth shut!!! Let her make her own mistakes and when she wants to rant and rave about him just listen, thats what a true friend does. Its nothing that she doesn't already know about him.
2007-12-13 17:12:20 · answer #9 · answered by Niinnaa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably does it only in front of people in order to feel superior or better about himself.
If your a good friend, tell her to stay away if you think he is bad business.
Sounds like he is.
2007-12-13 17:11:52 · answer #10 · answered by soccerpsychic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well bestfriends does need to do something to help their friend if she is having big problem with her boyfriend how he been treating her different . i think you should do something about it or you can even tell her mom about what going on . maybe they can do something about her boyfriend and even turn her life around and just break up with him and find a better new boyfriend who wouldnt treat her alike that .
2007-12-13 17:15:47 · answer #11 · answered by statecalifornia2009 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋