Do you truly think it is okay to be mad at your unborn child because they are not the gender you wanted? Is it okay to favor your children because of their sex... Is it okay to favor your children period? I wanted a boy so bad when I first found I was pregnant, I had myself convinced she was a boy... I even bet my mom and the sonographer a million dollars that she had to be a boy... She was a girl and for a split second I was disapointed but not because she was a girl because I had already bought boy clothes... Be happy that god blessed you with the miracle of carrying kids they are wonderful boy or girl...
2007-12-13 16:43:28 · 12 answers · asked by Presley's Mommy 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Either you are not reading the question right or not reading all of it... I am asking who out their thinks this is okay... Did I say I thought it was okay NO
2007-12-13 16:56:23 · update #1
The ridiculousness of your question amazes me.
I know that a healthy baby is the most you should ask for.
2007-12-13 16:53:55 · answer #1 · answered by kiwi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're absolutely right when you say "Be happy that God blessed you with the miracle of carrying kids, they are wonderful, boy or girl..."
Gender should NOT matter. Healthy SHOULD.
Take this into account: a friend of mine is having a baby with Downs Syndrome. A little girl.
Before I heard this, I was wanting a girl so bad (because we already have a boy) I was obsessing about having a girl and completely disregarding the fact that there's a 50/50 chance it could go either way.
After I heard the sad news about my friend's baby... my gender desires went out the window. All I cared about was that I was lucky enough to have all the tests come back negative for diseases and whatnot... that I was having a healthy baby (boy or girl)
I'm 37 weeks and we still don't know the gender (we opted not to find out for fun)... and with everyday that passes I am so thankful that I have a healthy two year old and a healthy soon-to-be-born little baby.
People often take this for granted. I'm one person who never again will.... and in that delivery room in a few weeks, whether the doctor exclaims "It's a boy!" or "It's a girl!" I'll be just as thrilled either way!
2007-12-13 16:58:26 · answer #2 · answered by shellj_foxy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a daughter now after having miscarriage first. I honestly think even though you might a have a preference as soon as you see that baby you just get over it. I want another girl at this stage just because i know what to expect with a girl but a boy would be fine. Children are blessing an all people should remember that unfortunately some people get caught up in themselves an can fall into the trap of favouritism, thus causing an angry child that just might turn into a bad cookie or just bung you in a bad nursing home...
2007-12-13 16:53:43 · answer #3 · answered by gerkin_sanga 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was a little disappointed at first when I found out mine was a boy. But got over it soon enough. I would love my baby more than anything in the world regardless of sex. No one should feel anger towards an unborn child just because it is not the sex they wanted. They do have a right to be disappointed for a second though. We all have our ups and downs. It took me nearly three years to conceive my baby and now I am 26 weeks. I am just thrilled he is healthy.
2007-12-13 16:52:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is all of us to hope for a certain gender for a bit. And some people think, they do know what their babies sex will be. I know I thought my last was a girl. Then my mom got me second guessing myself. The ultrasound showed it was a girl. I had bought a few boys clothes too.
It doesn't matter if they are a boy or girl, if they are healthy. Every time I look at her, I can't believe that she is my daughter. She still takes my breath just as she did when she was born.
Good luck & congrats!
2007-12-13 17:02:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think that it is right 4 a parent 2 favor one and not the other. B/c as I was growning up my dad was that away. My dad would believe everything that my brothers or sisters told him. And don't think 4 once if I have more than one child that I am goin 2 favor one and not the other. B/c in my book they all should be equal and not one more than the other, or others.
2007-12-13 16:53:44 · answer #6 · answered by brat12328716 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is your child and you should love it either way. It's a part of you regardless of the sex. It's not fair to be angry with the unborn child he or she didn't chose to be that gender the daddy's sperm just happened to swim fast that day. Love them and be greatful you have them because someone else out there wants a baby whether it's a boy or a girl and cant' have one.
2007-12-13 16:48:12 · answer #7 · answered by ash 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's okay, but I would say I can understand the dissapointment. I mean, you got yourself all worked up into thinking it was a boy and then you find out it's not. That and it would probably be really hard to return the clothes especially if you already took the tags off and stuff. That would suck.
2007-12-13 18:10:17 · answer #8 · answered by Adrianna Scar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its healthy to be Mad but dissapointment is natural and you can't control how you feel.
I said that if I had a boy i would send it back. Luckily I had a girl. I only have one child so i don't know any thing about favortism. If you do have a favorite I would keep it a secret.
2007-12-13 16:54:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would favor my daughter because well she is my daughter(unless the doctor is wrong), I kinda thought she would be a boy too but honestly deep down all i wanted was a healthy baby and my obgyn says she is very healthy so... im happy. good luck and congrats!!!
2007-12-13 16:49:00 · answer #10 · answered by Foxy B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋