Me and this married man were messing around/talking to each other for about 2 weeks. I have a b/f and he has a wife. Yes I know it was wrong and everything but I learned. Please just answer the question I am asking. We met at the gym cuz we both play racquetball. Well we stopped talking a couple of weeks ago b/c his wife was finding out and going w/him everywhere including the gym. There is still an attraction there def.! Tonight I was up there playing with my b/f and the other guy was also there playing his friend. One time, I got up and walked by him and he smiled at me.Then later he walked passed me and banged his racquet right by my leg up against the bleacher thing I was sitting on and looked at me and smiled and asked me if my b/f was mad cuz of him. I catch him looking at me when he is playing w/ his friends. I just want to know from a guy what all this means? I feel like he still likes me... he is still flirting with me... am i right? Will he come back for me one day?
2007-12-13 16:39:19 · 12 answers · asked by greenturtle 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
i don't suggest waiting
2007-12-13 16:46:44 · answer #1 · answered by Marina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Yes I know it was wrong and everything but I learned." Ask yourself this: what exactly did you learn? Are these lessons so quickly forgotten with just a brush of his racket against your leg? Or do you desire a harsher lesson? When you play with fire long enough, eventually you WILL get burned. Have you given any thought to what might happen if his wife figures out who you are? That she may come after you? (And trust me on this: wives are very intuitive...she will figure it out.) And does this guy have kids? How do you think helping to destroy that marriage is going to affect the kids? Do you care? If not, you should. And then there's your boyfriend. Does he deserve to have his heart broken this way? If you don't want to be tied down, get out of your relationship. But do yourself a favor and don't look for love in all the wrong places...there are plenty of single guys out there. You're asking for trouble, and it might not be too late to ward off the worst of it. Maybe it's time to find yourself a new place to play racquetball.
And I agree with everyone else here, he's NOT going to leave his wife for you. And even if he did (which is highly doubtful), do you really think he's going to be loyal to you?
2007-12-14 02:49:43 · answer #2 · answered by It's Ms. Fusion if you're Nasty! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is an Australian expression that I have come to rely upon when answering questions such as yours, " You can't put brains in a statue!" Now work out what it means! I'll give you a little hint, this guy seems to have "more front than a rat with a gold tooth", and you are falling for his particular line of %#&@. Personally would not trust him as far a I could throw him! And I am a man. Point taken? You are heading for a whole world of hurt hanging around with a married men (or should that be "married creep"?)
2007-12-14 01:45:07 · answer #3 · answered by Ashleigh 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
These losers never leave their wives; they can't survive without them. Often the wives tire of the game, get fed up and file for divorce. Why don't you just continue to hang out at this gym for another 20 or 30 years and see what happens?
2007-12-14 01:04:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I so hope this is satiric. "Will he come back for me one day?" First off, married men rarely leave their wives for mistresses. And if he did, why would you want him? He's already proved that he's unfaithful to the vows of "till death do us part". If you ever were to be with him, what makes you think he'll be any more faithful to you than he has been to his wife.
And seriously, think of your boyfriend. Why jerk him around? If you don't want to be with him (you obviously want to be with the married guy) then just dump him already so that he can move on with his life and find a woman who will actually treat him WELL. Because you're obviously lacking in that department.
2007-12-14 00:51:03 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You're playing with fire, little girl. I'm only going to say this once: STAY AWAY FROM MARRIED MEN. There will never be any good coming from this. This idiot sounds like a real lulu, flirting with you. He'll break his marriage up someday, because he's a jackass. Don't you be one too.
Stick with your boyfriend and go to another gym.
2007-12-14 00:52:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
"Will he come back to you one day?" No, because you never had him in the first place. He's playing and you're just the toy. Haven't you asked this question a couple of times already?
2007-12-14 01:10:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just want to see what you got to offer him, keep going he don't mean you no good .He will be with his wife and you will be # 2 or 3 in his life. Please look the other way
2007-12-14 01:12:58 · answer #8 · answered by nov22lagirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ah that is soo sweet. Its like a Romeo and Juliet story. Two lovers who cannot be together but love each other soo much. Yes the raquet thing and smiles are just him telling you that he is ready if you are ready. I think the poor guy just wants to hold you against his chest and kiss you softly on the neck again like old times. You guys would make one cute couple.
2007-12-14 00:52:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
He still likes you and as they say the mouse will play when the cat is away. Don't ruin your relationship with your bf for him because it isn't worth it. He will never leave his wife believe me and if she catches him she will probably still stay with him because this probably isn't the first affair he has had.
2007-12-14 00:47:33 · answer #10 · answered by glamour04111 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Are you really that naive?
He wants sex without strings. Nothing more. If he comes back for you you should hold your head high and walk away. If he had any respect for you he would not be cheating on his wife with you.
2007-12-14 01:04:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋