i was with this guy for 5 years. we broke up for about 2 weeks and he ended up getting another girl pregnant. i was so hurt i told him to marry her. he did. they have been married for 4 years, but me and him have continued sleeping together. i realize now that i want him all to my self. give me pointers on how to get them to divorce without telling her about our relationship.
2007-12-13 15:57:17 · 26 answers · asked by adk_in_ar 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
his wife was my best friend before she slept with him behind my back when me and him were having problems while at the same time coming to me telling me he was no good for me.
2007-12-13 16:19:29 · update #1
just because she is the one who caused u and him to break up, it doesn't give u the right to go after him now. if he wants to divorce her he will, but why lower yourself or be any part of it. don't be the cause of his marriage ending.
2007-12-13 21:18:14 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"we broke up for about 2 weeks and he ended up getting another girl pregnant" That isn't going behind your back. You were broke up at the time, he could sleep with anyone he chose to sleep with during the two weeks you were broke up. You could have CHOSEN to do the same but didn't. So you've been his whore since...what would make you think he would WANT to leave his wife for a WHORE? He's just using you and you have been allowing it...you deserve exactly what you are getting.
2007-12-13 17:12:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to let go. I assure you if you ever did get him back than once the new wore off you will fill with anger over the whole situation and would resent that the relationship will never be the way it was before because his wife and child are in his life forever now. You really need to move on and not tear up this childs family any longer. You may have ill feelings for the Mom and they may even be justified but please do not contribute to tearing the innocent childs world apart.
2007-12-13 16:11:48 · answer #3 · answered by STLgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You haven't learn the facts of life yet but your are learning the hard way like everyone else. Here they are just in case you don't know them all yet:
1. There is no Santa
2. There might be a Bigfoot
3. All men cheat, almost all women cheat
4. Marriage ruins relationships (moving in is the same)
5. Everyone lies (you even lie to yourself)
6. Life is not fair
Good luck and Happy Holidays. Email me
if you want to hear the truth. You can ask me anything.
I don't lie.
2007-12-14 00:54:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not leaving that woman. Most likely you were the other woman and he has been lieing to both of you all along. You are just a booty call to him. He didn't just get his wife pregnant in that two week period., he was with both of you the whole time. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure that one out. Why again do you want this man that cheats? He has been cheating on his wife, he will cheat on you to.
2007-12-13 23:24:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE LINE FROM THE SONG GOES LIKE THIS"TELLYOUR FRIENDS TO GET A MAN OF THEIR OWN". READ CAREFULLY. IT'S OVER. HE PROBABLY PICKED THE FIGHT WITH YOU TO MAKE YOU BRAKE UP WITH HIM.(this was his jerky way of ending it without you finding out he was dating someone else while dating you) SHE WAS ALREADY PREGNANT BEFORE THE 2 WEEK BREAK-UP. HE HAD ALREADY CHOSEN HER OVER YOU. NOW!!! DONT LET HIM CONTINUE TO MAKE A FOOL OF YOU . HE CANT HAVE HIS CAKE AND EAT IT TOO. GET YOUR KEYS BACK. START TAKING A NEW ROUTE HOME FROM WORK. VOLUNTEER AT A FOOD KITCHEN TO GET YOUR MIND OFF HIM. Start visiting all I mean all of your family on the weekend and a few days during the week after work. kEEP YOUR SELF BUSY.The first few nights take a nip of vodka/wine cooler/beer to go to sleep at night. MAKE UP YOUR MIND THAT ITS OVER BECAUSE HE HAS. FINALLY, YOU ARE BETTER THAN THAT. YOU DESERVE A MAN WHO REALLY CARES FOR YOU. A MAN OF YOUR OWN. HE DOESNT DESERVE TWO WOMEN. HE CHEATED AND IS CHEATING ON BOTH OF YOU. YOU ARE WORTH BEING LOVED AND CHERISHED. YOUR WORTH IT!!!!! Step back for a minute. You dont want this kind of a man. Marriage vows dont mean anything to him. Last but not least there is nothing you can do to brake up a marriage, you might cause them to have fights etc.AND watch out!!! men get vicious when they are threaten or if you threaten something they want to keep. They will turn on you and try to hurt or kill you.
2007-12-13 16:35:54 · answer #6 · answered by Angel G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is unfortunate for you that it took you so long to realize what you wanted. You really shouldn't be trying to get this man to leave his wife just because you have had a change of heart.
You should stop sleeping with him, stop seeing him and start afresh with someone new.
It will be hard but be strong and know it will be better for everyone if you do this. Good luck.
2007-12-13 16:05:22 · answer #7 · answered by Onyx ♠ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even if he did leave her for you. do you think he wouldn't cheat on you? (if he hasn't already). Do you really want to end up like her and have a guy that'll most likely cheat on you. and if he makes you turn off the light when you go down on him i'd get tested for diseases and infections (well maybe you should anyway). because if a person treats one person like this, they can treat anyone like this. And you not the victim here.
Also you could always just kill his wife and see if he goes to you for support. That was a joke btw, though maybe its not a good idea to joke with someone like you.
2007-12-13 16:20:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to think of the child- he/she is innocent. If he wanted to leave, he would've already. You are a sex object for him. He did not have to marry her, but he did anyway. You need to let this go. Even if he leaves her, he will always have a connection cause they have a child. If he is doing that to her, he will do it to you! Don't go and get it in your head to get pregnant, that won't help either.
2007-12-13 16:59:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats sick! you cant make him do that. Its his decision. Also Im sure he didnt marry her just because you said so. He is a big boy he probably can make his own decision. Though if he has been cheating on his wife for 4 years then SHE deserves better than him.
2007-12-13 16:02:16 · answer #10 · answered by Hannah A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
MY dear that ship has salied. Wave bye bye. There is an innocent child involved. Even if you can get him to leave he will always be connected to the other lady because of the child. Look for another ship and when it docks take better care of this one. Look at this as a lesson learned.
2007-12-13 16:02:07 · answer #11 · answered by just me 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋