Submissive women are just as strong, smart and outgoing as non-submissive women yet so many say that to be submissive is to be stupid or a doormat. That's just not true.
2007-12-13 15:42:34 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
kate: No it's not illogical...because a woman can be all those things and still submit to her man. Just because you are strong and smart doesn't mean you can't defer to another, allowing him to be in charge, choosing to please him in whatever manner.
2007-12-13 15:51:46 · update #1
Billy: I'm NOT degraded. Where do you get that nonsense?
2007-12-13 15:52:42 · update #2
Goldfish: IDK guess I'm not brainwashed by the feminist propaganda.
2007-12-13 15:56:48 · update #3
The Planet: I mean submissive all the time. Sometimes it takes more strength to be submissive than not---that is where so many don't understand what submission really is.
2007-12-13 16:01:39 · update #4
jedi: kudos :0)
2007-12-13 16:04:34 · update #5
kate: What part are you not understanding?
2007-12-13 16:08:00 · update #6
Vianka: Nah I'm already taken.
2007-12-13 16:11:48 · update #7
Iris: Where is anyone asking you to be submissive?
2007-12-13 16:43:09 · update #8
Laela: You must be right...it must scare some people.
2007-12-13 16:44:05 · update #9
Bill's lil one: Thank you!
2007-12-13 16:55:44 · update #10
Laela: I am what and who I am, to be anything else would be to lie to myself--I'm happy that I'm submissive to my one, I just want to know why others want to be so negative towards women who are submissive.
2007-12-14 02:38:56 · update #11
No feminist propaganda here, but have tried and it just doesn't work.
I have kept my mouth shut and never argue or have gone against my husbands wishes. Have never complained or nagged. Always allowed him to get his own way. Became even more hardworking around the house by bringing ice-cold drinks to him as soon as he came home from work. Would shoo the kids outside if he was tired. Would ask him if he needed anything like a nice sandwich. Gave him sex whenever he wanted and made it all about him.
And you know what happened?
He turned on me and started treating me like lower than a snakes belly out in public and threw a weed-eater towards me when I went to peg out the washing. Another YA member here knows about this.
IMO I believe that the majority of men are not mature enough to handle being in a position of power and will take the first opportunity to abuse it, and I'm not going to live life on my knees, being submissive and getting scorned.
No more for this little black duck. Respect-yes, submissive- no.
2007-12-13 16:57:01 · answer #1 · answered by Shivers 6 · 8⤊ 1⤋
No it isn't bad. As long as the reasons for wanting a submissive woman isn't so you can manipulate and boss about anyway. I think that guys who want an all round submissive girl are only attracted to them because they are insecure about their own authority and ability to be assertive. Not that their is anything wrong with that either.... and the other side of the card is that you want a woman who is submissive in a fetish sort of way!
2016-04-09 02:06:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is relating to another question itself- whats the defintion of submissive?
Submissive does mean to be passive in other words, to let things go, to be the opposite of opposing, to be a mute in a battle.
I wouldn't say submissive is strong, submissive isn't powerful, it's quiet and unvoicetrous
So a submissive women (relating this in gender and women's studies point of view) is someone who is quiet and does as she is told.
All the time
Eww. Of course I wouldn't like a submissive women, wait, not just submissive women, submissive people on whole! Wouldn't that be weird if everything you said and did the only reaction the person would give was a nod?! How boring!!! I don't want someone to be afraid to argue with me, that's being yourself, are view points won't always mach and hell, if I make you mad enough, you are human, say it. As well submissive is also obedient. No one should be fully being caterorized as 'obedient'. Do this, do that...what are you a robot? You have feelings, you have a voice, if I upset you or don't want to do something for me, you have every mortal being right to tell me that.
That is why I would say that I think it's not very ideal and appealing to be a submissive women. It seems sort of step-ford and fake, like a barbie, when women, men, girls, boys, people are not barbies, they are people and they don't hold any obligations toward me. Marriage, relationships, whatever does not hold an obligation for a women to be 'submissive' or 'obedient'. They do however promise to be careing, so yes I would make a sandwhich for my husband, boyfriend (whatever) if he wanted one and yes I would do his laundry to help him out. But whether there is a deeper meaning or thinning line of a rule that says that I must be submissive and do as excatly what I'm told-Yea I would think it's bad.
Why?
It's not real, it's not true, it's not being who you are.
So yea, full frontal submissive, to me in my books is weird.
Being caring and helpful is natural.
Now if you are a truely submissive person, wow, you have golden patience but no that dosen't make me think your not smart, outgoing, stupid or a doormat.
Just really unnatural and that your putting up a front, that's why I guess 'Submissive' women are looked at as weird or stupid.
2007-12-13 16:03:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 2⤋
I can't answer for the concept of why so *many* think it's a bad thing to be a submissive woman...the only opinion I can express is my own. It's the only opinion I can be held accountable for having...which is the crux of my argument.
Submitting to another person, completely and wholly (as you seem to be implying), comes at the cost of giving up your own free will. It means no longer having the ability to make your own choices for your own well-being. It also comes with the price of being unable to defend those that rely on you for their own welfare.
I defend choice. The right of people to choose the paths their lives take, whatever choice that may be. Defending something does not automatically mean that I believe that their choice is right, nor should it have too. In all honesty, I defend a lot of things that I could never personally condone...but the fact does not change that just because I would not make those choices...does not make them invalid choices.
I could never choose submission because the idea of tying my free will up in a nice neat little package, complete with bow on top, sickens me to the point of actual physical pain. The idea of giving complete responsibility of myself over to another person, relegating the purpose of my action into the discretion of another person is nauseating. The idea of crippling myself by the loss of individuality causes my soul to bleed.
You say that submissive women are smart and outgoing...I have no qualms about agreeing with that...submission can't diminish intelligence or natural personality. You also say that submissive women are strong, but you are wrong. Strength does not come from pushing responsibility onto someone else, strength does not come from relinquishing the singular and turning it into the plural. Strength comes from doing what is right, the best you can do, in every instance. Strength comes from saying that you made decisions, and accepting that sometimes those decisions are going to be wrong. Strength comes from accepting that you are now an adult and acting like one, not a child that still needs a guiding hand. Strength comes from a lot of places, but never from giving up your free will.
2007-12-13 20:07:05 · answer #4 · answered by lkydragn 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Hey, nowt wrong with a bit of submission now & then... it's all about context.
I'm a fairly 'submissive' guy, I don't want to waste time & energy arguing or proving myself 'right' time after time.. My ex career/money-mad wife had a different outlook on life though and used my submissive nature to her advantage - as did her so-called mother.
The best time for submission though has got to be the bedroom - garrarrrrr!!!!!!! Yeaaaah Baby!
2007-12-13 22:24:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What kind of submissive do you mean? Submissive as in D/s relationship or in a religious way ie; wives should submit to their husbands? D/s submissive holds the true power because without the agreement of the sub the dom has no power. As far as religion.....nonsense!
2007-12-14 02:15:47 · answer #6 · answered by Tongue-fu 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No one is truly submissive. You do what you do because of what you can get out of it. If you are submissive in return for something you need, then you are taking care of your needs, and that is a feminist action.
2007-12-14 08:42:27 · answer #7 · answered by La Belle Dame Sans Merci 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're living in accordance with what you want, that's fine. But many women who submit constantly to their man do so with a sort of swelling resentment that they never do what they want.
Perhaps you've been lucky in the men you've had as partners. If the men you date are kind and agreeable people then submitting probably doesn't feel like such a big deal.
2007-12-13 23:02:59 · answer #8 · answered by K 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Its not bad to be a submissive women, be who you are. As long as your naturally submissive and not forced to be submissive. Dont let anyone tell you that it is bad, being fake is bad, being yourself is good, not matter what that is.
2007-12-14 04:31:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing what you really mean is a woman who prefers a more traditional role in life like being a wife and mother, over a more *modern* woman who prefers to work and may/may not have kids.
I think that if you are referring to the particular roles (traditional vs. modern), you are exactly right. Feminism really swung women too far in the opposite direction, and I suspect that as kids grow up without either parent being there for them, and tv raising them, once they become parents, many women may choose a more traditional role when they can.
I am extremely independent, have always worked, and have always made good money. Honestly, though, I would prefer to be a stay at home mom, raise my kids, and do crafts all day, and then sit down to a nice family dinner. I would be very happy if I had those options, but right now I don't. My boyfriend isn't earning enough, and we're not ready for kids.
There is nothing stupid about raising the next generation well, and its a skill that we as a society devalue.
2007-12-13 16:02:36 · answer #10 · answered by jedimorgana 3 · 6⤊ 4⤋