Why is it that when people do me wrong I have no remorse whatsoever in shutting them out, disowning them, and never talking to them again??? (Family & Best Friend)
Why is it that I dont feel sad about it anymore?
Is it because I realize that I dont NEED them in my life, or that I dont WANT them?
This is what has been bothering me. There was some drama in my family, and I told the people I was close with to not pick and choose sides because no matter what, they will lose someone on one side. Both my aunts picked sides, and I couldnt.
The thing is that everyone did not like my mom, and me and her are two peas in a pod, we come in the pair... You lose her, and you lose me... Just like the old saying, dont nobody talk about my momma' but me...
And now the people think that they are still cool with me even after they disrespect me and my mother?
Am I wrong in adopting the Forget and Move On policy? Instead of the Forgive and Forget policy...
Help please.
Best answer gets 10 points.
2007-12-13 15:07:22 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
For staying and defending your mother - you get 5 stars from all of us here. Relatives will always have something good or bad to say about their own relatives - its a vicious cycle that stops when you tell them to shut up if they have nothing better to say about someone else. It shows how ignorant and how bored they are with their sorry lives. You can be the same person with them - cool and all - unless they disrespect your mother. Its up to you if you want to continue having communications with them, I personally would avoid them as much as I can.
2007-12-13 15:57:14 · answer #1 · answered by Equinox 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I dont have an ans to what or how you come this far but I do feel the same way. Only I am the mama but my girl isnt the same kind of pea like me. Family members, whether you need them or not is almost like having supporters on your side. In your case, your mother is very lucky to have u support her. Afterall I believe you do understand her more deeply than your other relatives. So hope in time you will make your mum proud for raising you is worth it. I am a single parent and raising a child alone is not easy. Even more sad when the child you raise turn against you and sides others who dont know the whole picture. So cheer up. You'er doing the best thing for your mom and in time your relatives will know dat 2peas alike must be both very special people indeed.
Regards
Marge.
2007-12-13 15:31:02 · answer #2 · answered by invisible000 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I personally don't think their is anything wrong with shutting relatives out and disowning them. I don't nned them in my life and I sure don't want all thir petty squabbiling in my life. The last straw for me was my crackwhore sister doing everthing possible to make my life and that of my mom's miserable.
I packed up the house, the family dog and moms wheelchair and moved to the other side of the planet (Philippines).
I have have no contact at all from anyone in my family and don't miss it a bit.
I aonly maintain friendships with certain members of my wifes family here. Gues what ? The ones acting up and causing problems got 86'ed here too.
Life is too short to put up with petty B.S.
Paul
Living in Paradise in the Philippines since 2002.
2007-12-13 16:28:11 · answer #3 · answered by oneiloilojeepney 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can understand your Loyality and Respect for your Mom, and I hope she deserves it. Always stick up for her and be by her side "IF" what she is doing or saying is Truthfull. But if it is Wrong and just something to get Gossip started , then you need to step back and Tell your Mom, She is on her own with this one..
2007-12-13 15:20:43 · answer #4 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the three of you i.e. Dad, Harry and you should take some day off to communicate to a minimum of one yet another and be frank touching directly to the entire communication. go away your genuine mom out of it as regardless of she does or says is possibly to be misunderstood fantastically via Dolores. not something like an excellent heart to heart communicate.
2016-11-03 05:18:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude ur a man's man. good job for feeling how you do. just stay by her side always, no matter what, because shes the one who gave you life, not them
2007-12-13 15:15:09 · answer #6 · answered by nmcs 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your mom..she gave birth to you...she will love you like no other will..she cared you in her for 9 mths..yes stick by her..good man
2007-12-13 15:19:37 · answer #7 · answered by sweetness 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try living a life free of "herbal" substances and fomented beverages and then maybe you will discover your feelings.
Good luck.
2007-12-13 15:15:23 · answer #8 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋