As a full fledged member of this sometimes trying, sometimes satisfying group, I wonder how big the club is.
To be a member you have to be still providing for your children while taking care of your parent(s).
I have my younger daughter (married) living in an apartment adjoining our house. I babysit my older daughter's daughter while she and her husband work. I also have my 97 year old mother living with us in lieu of a nursing home.
me? I'm the jelly that glues all this together!
2007-12-13 14:26:18 · 13 answers · asked by momwithabat 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
Tsunami......I hear ya!
We added an apartment to our house for our younger daughter because she eventually wants our house with us in the apartment side. In July our elder daughter, husband and 6 month old daughter moved in while their house is being built. Our 5 bedroom house if FULL....of course that's when hubby's mom, brother and his wife want to visit for a week! TWICE. They close on their house TOMORROW......YIPPPPEEE.
2007-12-13 14:34:03 · update #1
Welcome to the club, reddog. (Although you might want to opt out after a few months...lol) Seriously, I glad you are looking out for your mom. It takes a lot of patience, but you will be surprised how much you will learn about her! I know my mom on a whole different level now. (Not all good, but hey, she's human too)
2007-12-13 14:52:44 · update #2
Unfortunately, I lost the last of my "top layer" in 2005, when my Dad died. For the 13 years prior to that I was also the jam in that particular sandwich, taking care of my parents first part time, and then full time the last 10 years.
It had it's bitter and zany moments, but I wouldn't have missed a minute of it, even though it has caused all kinds of hardships for me years later.
And now, I have moved into that top layered posiition, although no one is having to "take care" of me...I babysit full time for all three of my grandsons to "pay my way" in my multigenerational home. (My two daughters, and their three sons, and the youngest ones "common law" husband all live with me, in order to help each other through life....it is much cheaper sharing expenses of one house than trying to maintain three separate ones...and I LIKE my multigenerational home environment--most days!!)
2007-12-14 02:21:22 · answer #1 · answered by Susie Q 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Moved to Sacramento in 1980 to take care of my Mom until she passed in 1989. Then my Dad moved in and I took care of him. My younger brother moved in and just vegetated. The last three years of his life my Dad spent with my older brother 3 hours away and passed on May 31 seven days after his 87th birthday. My younger brother ended up living in the rental I lived in from 1980 and now he is moving to Ft. Collins, CO which is good for me. My niece, his daughter took over the place and if I ever need another place I can stay there hopefully, since she is due in February and will need some one to help with the baby.
2007-12-14 09:10:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what I'm called. I'm just past the boomer age and past the empty nest age. I haven't had kids living at home for at least 7 years now. My daughter will threaten to move back home from time to time, whenever her relationship is going bad. I live close to my parents and since I don't work, I help them out with driving to doctor appointments and such. I don't have any grand kids either.
2007-12-13 17:50:07 · answer #3 · answered by noonecanne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
>grin<
Please allow me to introduce myself, my Yahoo member name is: SandwichGeneration, Gen for short.
Things are a bit easier now; but at the time I selected this name my youngest was still in High School, my mother-in-law and my father had major surgery within 8 weeks of each other, I stayed with my mom while my dad was ill, with my father-in-law while my MIL was ill, and was driving to hospitals, doctor's appts, pharmacies, while still trying to attend band concerts and school activities.
My youngest still lives at home. My sister in law is living with her parents now, so that really decreases the time I'm needed to help them out. My parents are doing better, although my dad still depends on our daily phone chats. My oldest daughter also counts on being able to call me at any time just to have someone who will listen when she is frustrated. I don't regret a moment I've spent with any of them, but it can be tough to juggle my time! I keep telling my husband that we'll need to sell the house, buy a boat, and not tell anyone which port we're stopping at to get some alone time.
2007-12-13 22:52:42 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I might fit this, I don't know for sure.
My daughter does not live with me, but I help her out any way possible that I can. She lives in the another town next to me.
My parents live in their own house, and mine is about 30-40' from theirs. Mine is a 8 X 30' travel trailer that I had moved in here beside their house so that I could be here to help take care of them. I live alone.
2007-12-13 15:40:58 · answer #5 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I'm squashed between two very spoiled Australian, males, 32 and 35, who don't lift a finger in the house. And they are not even my children. And I am 29 going on 63! And am the servant.
2007-12-13 15:12:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't have to provide for my son (although he hit me for some funds last month), but I live with my 79 (soon to be 80) year old mom who is dealing with kinetic Apraxia with aphasia. I think I qualify!
2007-12-13 14:31:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
yes am there also. ihave my mom 84 living with us and shes doing ok. i feel like the glue i also have two sons and their famileis living with us but they are moving out and we are moving to michigan hurray.
2007-12-13 14:29:12 · answer #8 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
My daughter has me and her daughter under her roof and she's only 23.
2007-12-14 08:54:46 · answer #9 · answered by Dianne m 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hum...i have one boomerang son....I throw him out and he just circles back, lol...and I'm getting a room ready for my 85 yr. old mom. She is becoming increasingly forgetful and just not safe to live alone....so, I qualify, too...
2007-12-13 14:47:31 · answer #10 · answered by yoga guy 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋