Am i the father??

Question

I hope you guys can help me. On february 11th started her period. We had sex like on the 15th or 16th. We broke up on March 1st. that was the last day I saw her. She was going out with her lesbian friend and couple of guys. I saw her with another guy. On March 21 st she went to my house to tell me she was pregnant. I couldn't believe it. She bought a pregnancy test and came up +. I was so happy when I saw the + sign, but at the same time i was full of doubt. Right know we are living together, but i don't know if a im the biological father. I wanted to do a DNA test, but she refused. She said if i do that she would dissapear.. I don't know what to do. My life is changing. I have to much stress.. I need help. LOVE.. Andres

Answer 1

Sounds like it's doubtful. If she knew you were the daddy, she wouldn't balk at the DNA test.

And if she leaves, you can go to court and get an order for a DNA test, because if it's your baby, you should be able to have a part of his or her life!

Answer 2

She's hiding something. If she won't do that, she's probably thinking the same thing that you are thinking- there's a chance it's not yours. If you sign that birth certificate and find out later that you're not the biological dad, be prepared to take care of that child whether you want to or not. The courts will make you pay child support even if you've been deceived. I've seen it happen a few times. Still, based on the dates you mentioned, sounds like you're the daddy unless she was cheating on you during that time. Not to sound like a jerk, but this is your life that will be changed. I am married with three sons and couldn't be happier. My oldest isn't my biological son but he's still MY son and I don't love him any less than the other two. I've raised him the last 8 years and he's now 13. He's my first. Ask yourself if you can do that. Not everyone can. Get the test.

Answer 3

Well first of all, there's no way for someone on Yahoo to determine if you are the father. Sorry, but electronic DNA tests haven't been invented yet.
You have no responsibility to the child unless: 1. you signed an Acknowledgment of Parentage (kind of a DNA test waiver - not smart on your part because you only have 60 days to prove otherwise, or else you're legally/financially responsible for the child, even if it ends up not being biologically yours); or 2. Paternity has been established through a DNA test.
Think about it - if she truly believed you're the father of the baby, would she have any problem with you taking a test? No. She doesn't want you to take one because she doesn't want it to come out that you might not be the father. Truth be told, she probably has no idea who the father is. You don't need permission to get a DNA test done. In fact, you can buy DNA tests online. Get one done, whether or not you tell her about it. Otherwise, you could be responsible for a child who isn't yours for the next 18 years. Try here: http://www.gtldna.com/

Answer 4

It is your legal right to have a paternity test done. Once the baby has been born, it is a simple swab for DNA in your mouths and you are done. If she is saying she will disappear, then that means that she has doubts as well. If you feel that you can love this baby no matter what, then don't demand one. However, at least in New York State, which is the only state in the USA where I have ever lived, you do not have to have your name on the birth certificate if you are not married unless you have 1. had a paternity test done or 2. signed a waiver, volunteering paternity.

If she is claiming you are the father, take her to court and make her prove it if she continues to deny you your right.

Good luck, and I hope you get the out come that you want.

Answer 5

Wow this is a sad situation. What she is doing to you is totally wrong. You have a right to know if the child is yours, and you have a right to have a relationship with that child if he or she is. I feel you should talk to a lawyer. I have a feeling the two of you will not be together very long, and she might disappear anyway, so it's important that you legally establish whether or not you're the father as soon as possible.

By the way I think odds are good you are not the father since she would have had to conceive so soon after the start of her period, but it is possible. Conception can happen at any time in a woman's cycle.

Answer 6

If your going to do a DNA test you need to do it as soon as that baby is born. Let it be known that you dispute fatherhood with this child. If you wait until the child is born and don't say anything to a lawyer or anybody that can back you up legally you could wind up paying child support on a child that doesn't belong to you. If you wait to long the judge can still rule in her favor and you will still have to pay support for a child that's not yours. This has already been known to happen. If she refuses get a court order for a DNA test. If she runs off there is your proof. That way you have the court on your side. Later' If she tries to say the baby is yours or tries to get support from you the burden of proof will be on her.

Answer 7

Andres, before you sign a birth certificate, GET A BLOOD TEST. You don't want to be stuck with paying child support for a child that is not yours for 18 years, especially if she's prone to disappearing acts. The period comes because an egg fails to get fertilised. The period comes about 12 to 14 days after the egg is produced. Therefore, in the average 28 day cycle the egg is produced around day 14. Sperms can live happily 48 hours in the vagina or the uterus so the most fertile time is day 12 to day 16.

The least likely time to conceive is from day one to day seven. If your cycle is different from 28 days on average you have to adjust the calculations - the important thing to remember is that the egg is produced about 14 days BEFORE the next period starts - so there's always a bit of guess work involved.

That from: http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/ate/womenshealth/207199.html

Answer 8

It's possible you are the father. It's also possible you are not. Why is she so against a DNA test? If she knows you are the father and she has nothing to hide she should be fine with it. Why would she disappear? Wouldn't she want her baby to have it's father? Bear in mind that if you live with her and you put your name on that baby's birth certificate you are legally the kids father and responsible for supporting that kid for the next 18 years---even if it comes out later you are not the biological father. You need to stand up for yourself and demand proof one way or another. If you let her make all the rules and cave into her threats you could end up getting screwed.

Answer 9

A lot depends on how far along she is or if she had the child yet. If she did or you are close I would guess you are. If you want to DNA and the baby is born, there are tests you can have done without her knowledge. You can send for a test kit that you can do a swab of yourself and the baby's mouth and they can tell you if there is a chance or not. The best is to do all 3 of you for the least false positive, but they can do it with just you and the baby,

Answer 10

I'm sorry. But if she's refusing DNA testing...
But if you are the father, she can't disappear with your child, you can call the police and press charges for kidnapping. A girl like that sounds like a slut anyway, so if it's not yours and she splits, don't let the door hit her on the butt on her way out. You don't need to be disrespected or treated like garbage. When the baby is born, request DNA testing from the hospital or her doc w/out her knowledge. I'm not sure if that's possible in your state. Good luck, hope you meet someone worthy of you who won't use you to be daddy.

Answer 11

If she refuses a DNA test that should tell you she has SOME doubt about who is the father. If your not 100% DO NOT sign the birth certificate. If she tries to come after you for child support they can court order a DNA test. BUT if you sign the birth certificate you are acknowledging you are/plan to be the father.