Is there a such thing has to much love? Or just so much love one person can accept from the other? Can love go to far? Or not far enough? Is it actually possible to love someone to much? If so, how and why?
2007-12-13 14:01:37 · 7 answers · asked by Kitten 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Don i have read that many times today. Im sorry but that kinda doesn't answer any of my questions.
2007-12-13 14:07:29 · update #1
Tulip- I agree there are different types of love. Completely. But one problem I have with what you said is, "That we get to chose how much we love some one". Maybe Im not understanding it correctly but I don't believe that at all. Nor if we 'want to love this person'. We don't just chose if we 'love' a person. It happens. Love happens. Although you decide to get to know a person, your not deciding to 'love' them. Love either comes to you right then and there, or it grows. You can't think "I WANT to love this person, so Im going to" I don't think thats what 'love' is at all. Being 'in love' isn't a choice. It just comes to you. "Wow, Im really in love with this person". Again not, "Wow, I am going to be 'in love' with this person". I don't think thats fair to the other person. Or that you really love the person if you have to think that. This is just my opinion, just as that is yours. Thank you very much for your feedback though!
2007-12-13 14:30:16 · update #2
SNPUC2- Ah, I agree. But, what if, you love a person, they love you also, but soon their love for you dies. Of course you still love them, but your love retracts them away from you. Then does it become 'to much love', and/or obsession? Think about it, the person you love, trying to actually be away from you, for the simple fact you love them. Is it still just love, to much love, or obsession?
2007-12-13 14:47:36 · update #3
ashok - I don't understand at all what you mean. But I do know, I don't think 'love' is a myth. Thanks for your feedback. Though.
2007-12-13 14:48:45 · update #4
There are different types of love and we can see the difference, for instance, the love we feel four our parents is soo different from the love we feel for other relatives. When it comes to love for the opposite sex as in a relationship, we are able to choose how intense we want our love to be. We can decide whehter or not we want to love this person unconditionally or if we want to love this person according to how they love us.
How intense your love is determines how far you want to take this love. However, when y ou start a relationship with someone, do you think of long term or short term? What are you thinking when you are making the decision to get to know someone???
I think that all the questions you are asking really depend on what you think of the types of love you have experienced; therefore, analize your thoughts on what you feel and what you expect from the relationship in question.
I believe that we make the decision of who we love and how much we want to love them. Always the human mind trying not to be weak and this is a down side because some people actually cause pain to other people by trying to be proud or tough.
When you are ready to love someone, love freely with no prejudice and your higher expectation should be your happiness and the other person's happiness as well. To reach ultimate happiness is our goal and i truly believe that love is a major part of happiness.
Good luck
2007-12-13 14:21:07 · answer #1 · answered by tulipanes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe there is no limit to the amount of love you can give or receive from a person. I am talking about romantic love between two mentally healthy adults. Love either grows or dies. I don't think it can stay the same. That would be stagnation. So, the longer you love someone, the more you love them. Why? Because there will be more reasons to love that person. And there is no limit to that. It also will work in reverse if those reasons are not there anymore, but that doesn't change the capacity potential.
2007-12-13 14:41:53 · answer #2 · answered by SNPUC2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A long time ago I thought that love was something that you reserved for some special set of people that you had judged worthy of it.
After a while I got to thinking about what Jesus had said about turning the other cheek and loving our neighbor I put the two together and realized that he had made no exceptions in these statements. It became obvious to me that he intended that we exclude no one from the love that we are supposed to be giving. I started thinking about my idea of love and suddenly realized that I had not been loving anyone at all. I had simply been judging everyone and every thing.
Judging someone worthy of love is not love, it is only judgment. I actually started to cry when I realized this. I saw just how much of my life I had wasted being judgmental, thinking of myself as a Christian, when I was actually doing just the opposite of what Jesus had asked us to do.
I thought about the verse judge not lest ye be judged, and I understood it for the first time.
I realized that I have a lot of catching up to do. So many opportunities were wasted. I now try to apply the love that I have for the world in a universal way like Jesus asks us to do.
If I start to feel afraid and think that I see someone that I should not love because of something I have thought or heard I try to catch my mistake as soon as possible. I tell myself that I have forgot the truth and have fallen for the same old trick that had cost me so many opportunities to be loving in the past. The horror of this realization is often all that is necessary to bring me back to my senses and make me drop the judgmental nonsense I was thinking.
I still have a lot to learn about love, but at least I’m making progress.
Love and blessings
Your brother
don
2007-12-13 14:05:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Love is not an emotion. We don't fall in or out of love. Love is a verb, an action. It is a choice. I have been married for over 15 years now and I can tell you there are many days that I don't "feel in love". But I made a commitment to love, honor and obey my husband, so even when I don't "feel" like it, I choose to love him.
It is not possible to love too much. However, it is possible to show our love in the wrong way or at inappropriate times. True love is sacrificial, unconditional.
"Greater love hath no man than he who is willing to lay down his life for a friend."
2007-12-13 16:45:21 · answer #4 · answered by suetoz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a myth. We are attracted to some body or min stable relations we feel obliged or duty bound. If love was real, there would not have been these stories like Romeo and Juliet. Mankind thinks such things are impossible so they wonder on such stores.
2007-12-13 14:20:59 · answer #5 · answered by ashok 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i believe that if you are placing the amount of love on a spectrum (too much love vs not enough) you are mixing ethics with an emotion that is has no capability of being ethical or logical for that matter. it is neither right, nor wrong, love is not subject to scrutiny, the actions that are falsely justified by love, however, can be.
2007-12-13 15:43:40 · answer #6 · answered by jelena124 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, beyond a point you are no longer loving a person, you are obsessing over them.
2007-12-13 14:04:35 · answer #7 · answered by R[̲̅ə̲̅٨̲̅٥̲̅٦̲̅]ution 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋