I am seventeen and I have never had a boyfriend serious or not. Is that so wrong? I don't think so but some of the people on my colorguard squad does!
2007-12-13 13:54:44 · 37 answers · asked by kimmievet 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Valentine's Day
i'm 17 and I've never had a boyfriend. I think the best time to find one is when your in university/college because your usually more mature and it's better because he most likely is headed the same direction as you.
2007-12-13 13:58:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's not a thing wrong in waiting until you find someone who's actually a candidate for a long-term relationship. My son wants to try lots of girls before he settles down. I think that's wrong--heartache after heartache.
It's better to choose a man by making sure you have certain things like morals, spirituality, interests in common before you even go out with him. After a while of making sure he's a great guy and you are beginning to care about him, then let your heart go on and fall in love.
If you rush in with your heart first, and things don't go right...it could take years to pick up the pieces.
I'm not surprised what the colorguard squad had to say, but I was damned pleased when, after our wedding, we had to figure out how to make love because we were both inexperienced.
I picked a great spouse--with God's help. I don't in any way deserve this man. I hope that you share my views and save your love and your heart for someone who truly deserves it.
TX Mom
My kids are 17 & 21
2007-12-13 14:06:38 · answer #2 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it isn't wrong or strange. A lot of girls think they have had boyfriends, but it's usually a few crushes followed soon after by a huge emotional break-up and that's proof that they are successful females. And you're getting your criticism from cheerleaders! I'm sorry I'm criticizing them, because I do know some great girls who are in color guard and groups like that, but some are just plain ditzy! Develop good friendships with boys and girls. Your day will come. So many young people just play around with relationships. Don't I sound incredibly old? When I'd give boring advice like this to my own kids, and they'd roll their eyes at me, I'd remind them that I was 17 in the 1960's. That would earn me a "Wow, cool!"
2007-12-13 15:07:54 · answer #3 · answered by Snow Globe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's not bad at all. It only proves that you are sensible and care enough to wait for something good instead of just jumping into to something because everyone else is. I'm 17 too and i've only had one "official" boyfriend. If you go out with someone just for the sake of going out with someone, then it's for the wrong reason anyway. You need to have someone special if you want the relationship to go anywhere. Good luck with colorguard and remember to priortize. Love Julia.
2007-12-13 14:04:44 · answer #4 · answered by *Julia* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, it's not wrong at all. what is wrong is that the other members of your colorsquad want to pigeonhole you without considering what is good for you.
i'm 30, and i've spent 75 percent of the past 15 valentine's days single. i'm still alive, interesting, and very happy.
in fact, it can be a very good thing not to have a boyfriend so soon in life. you're 17, which is a great time to explore what you want to do with your life, your education, your career. those poor girls will probably wake up some day in a mediocre relationship with someone they have nothing in common with while you're out working towards something that gives you great joy.
been there, babe, done that. definately worth every minute.
2007-12-13 13:59:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you are 17 doesn't mean you need a boyfriend. Most people this age that have boyfriends are most likely to break up and have there heart broken, wait a couple of more years until your about 20 and 21, the right man will come to you, and then you will see if he is the right one for you. Make sure that what you have is true love. :)
2007-12-13 13:58:31 · answer #6 · answered by Lois 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
same here girl. I swear there must be something seriously wrong with me that I have no idea about. Honestly I think I'm pretty cool. I'm not a social outcast or nerd or anything. Plenty of my friends have reputable boyfriends. I feel really wierd about it because I don't want to go to college and finally meet my first boyfriend and then he'll be totally wierded out by the fact that I've never had a boyfriend before him...
I know how you feel, and it sucks.
2007-12-13 13:59:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
same here. it does make me question sometimes, but I'm generally happy and ok with it. If you're ok with it too, then who cares what your colorguard squad says? What the hell is a colorguard squad anyway?...
2007-12-13 13:58:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally my friend it is better to srtay single until God sends that right person into your life. It could be when your anywhere, at the store at the mall, at the movies, even when your in your 30's on a job. Just don't go searching or you most likely won't find it right that way. You might find somebody but then end up doing a lot of things against God contray to that, so it is better to wait.
2007-12-13 16:05:05 · answer #9 · answered by Stevo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it is not wrong. I was the same as you until a couple of short term boyfs at uni, aged 20+. Met a guy when I was 25 and married him in March! Just turned 30.
Ignore anyone who says it's not normal - who said they get to decide anyway???
2007-12-13 13:59:22 · answer #10 · answered by AlienCat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋