I'm 14, and I just found out I'm pregnant. My father shot himself in the head last month, My mom hates me so when I found out I was pregnant I ran away to my friends house. My boyfriend (Baby's father) Left me for a slut at our school, I have no money and no job, My friend pushed me into doing drugs and liquor even when she knew I was pregnant, I'm a wreck and I have no reason to live, can anyone help me, I'm really scared
2007-12-13 13:06:25 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
It was the first time I'd ever done pot, After I did it, I thought constantly about the baby & it's health. I'm a good kid, But ever since my father died, I went down hill, My mother is addicted to drugs so I was screwed up from the start, I want this baby and I know I ahve a huge responsibility but it's so hard.
2007-12-13 13:17:46 · update #1
Well being 14 and pregnant isnt the end of the world, trust me on this one ... I made it ...
Here are a list of numbers that I personally trust and can help you reach certain destinations in which people can help.
Drugs and Alcohol are always an issue and can make matters worse, but I wont preach to a person that at 14, truly knows the difference between right and wrong.
Just so you know, its not the end of the world and its not. I have been there and have seen the other side ... more times then I care to admit, but can say I have been there and I'm 38 and still alive and kicking! WoW! Does that mean I am now old? LOL!
Give these numbers a call and see what you cant come up with! Then let ME know how you are!
Reaching out for help here or otherwise tells me that deep down, you have strength, your just a bit weak and need a boost up!
Good Luck and email me if you need!
Adolescent Crisis Intervention & Counseling Nineline
1-800-999-9999
Abortion Information
800-772-9100
Adoptions- Rosie Adoptions -(if you are pregnant)
1-800-841-0804
Post-Abortion Project Rachel
1-800-5WE-CARE
Al-Anon/Alateen Hotline
Hope & Help for young people who are the relatives & friends of a problem drinker.
1-800-344-2666
Alcohol/Drug Abuse Hotline
1-800-662-HELP
Again... Good Luck and Email if you need additional assistance!
2007-12-13 13:18:54 · answer #1 · answered by Elizabeth A 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you are in deep trouble. But be strong. Remember some things:
1st. Your mother probably doesn't hate you. She probably is upset because very strong things happened: your pregnancy, your father's suicide, drugs and liquor...
2nd. You now have a child living inside you. Isn't it enough reason to live?
3rd. You said "your friend pushed you into doing drugs and liquor". Think twice. Is she really your friend, pushing you into what's not good for you? I think you should first push yourself out of this, then try pushing your friend out. It may be hard, but then you'll be proving you're a good friend.
4th. If your mother doesn't talk to you, you should search somebody else to talk to. You said "you ran away to your friend's house". I think you should go to a relative's house.
5th. You should see a doctor. Your baby may be suffering a lot with your liquor and drugs.
6th. Remember: YOU ALWAYS DESERVE THE BEST YOU CAN REACH!
2007-12-13 13:59:54 · answer #2 · answered by Luis Andrade 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should make an appointment to see someone at your local Planned Parenthood; 1-800-230-PLAN. They're good people, and it sounds like you could use a kind, stable voice. They'll help you go through the options you have with your pregnancy and be able to direct you to where you can get help dealing with all the stresses.
I'm sure your Mom doesn't hate you - chances are she's too busy wallowing in her own pain to even contemplate yours. As I'm sure you know, sometimes when you're hurting, you lash out.
Your former boyfriend is a non-factor. Really - he isn't. Contemplating him or what he's doing is a waste of time.
You should seek out your school counselor, or any sort of counselor. Really, seek out a stable, kind voice to help you. Believe it or not, life can get better.
2007-12-13 15:44:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need help! You are in a desperate situation!
I think you are depressed, as well, and who wouldn't be, trying to deal with what you are going through! You are in no shape to be having a baby at this stage of your life, with your loss at home. If you can't take care of yourself, it would be much harder trying to take care of a baby. Go to a family planning clinic if you don't want to have a baby, or seek out some way to make arrangements to have the baby and make sure it is provided for. If you've got no other place to go, go to the student health or nurse's office at your school and ask to be put in touch with the agencies that can help you. Or go to an emergency room! Just because things seem so terrible is no reason to take your own life, when you haven't had a chance to grow up yet! You need medical help and you need psychological support. Please go do these things, and later on in life, you will be able to look back on all of this and be glad that you did not take your life.
2007-12-13 13:28:16 · answer #4 · answered by rkeech 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being 14 and pregnant is not the end of the world. Young teens have babies everyday and lead happy lives. I highly doubt that your mom hates you, she is probably very stressed and upset about what happened to your father, and she may even blame herself for his suicide. You need to talk to her, I know you may not want to right now, but she may need you to help her get through this rough time in your lives. You should tell your mom about the baby, maybe if you both concentrate on the new life growing inside of you you can both move on. Please do not do anymore drugs and do not kill yourself, there is nothing in this life that should make you want to end yours. There are people out there that love you and want you around for a very long time. Also, you said you have no reason to live, but you have the most important reason to live of all, and that is because life (both yours and the baby's) is precious.
2007-12-13 13:23:10 · answer #5 · answered by harleysangel2000 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Jennifer is not the end of the world. Although I know it may feel like it. Those feelings will come and go. You have to get help now. Please talk with a school counselor. Not only your life is at stake but your baby as well. If you don't want to have the baby, go to DSS and talk with someone in family section (medicaid) they may be able to provide help with an abortion. However, I don't promote abortion... I am all for life.
My daughter also was pregnant at 14. And I think she wanted to hurt herself. But she got through it and so can you. Do you have any other relatives that you can go and stay until the baby is born (if you decide to have it). Even if you decide to put it for adoption. Just don't hurt yourself your are needed and loved.
I am so sorry for your loss. If you would like I can get you a phone call to my daughter. Just reply in your section up there and I would arrange it. She now help teen just like you and her.
2007-12-13 13:25:55 · answer #6 · answered by springful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a grandparent or another relative? If so, maybe move in with them. Stop doing the drugs and liquor because you are killing your baby. Don't kill yourself. Seriously. Because your mom is properly like this because your dad died and if you kill your self then your mom will be wreak(or a bigger one) Try going to a chruch tommorow after school. No matter what church SOMEONE can help. Try the sudice hotline. Just dont kill yourself, your hurting yourself and everyone around you.
2007-12-13 14:29:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop w/ the drugs. you have a baby inside you, and unless you WANT it to die...
First, call a suicide hotline. Then, talk to your counselor and have her arrange a meeting w/ you, your counselor, and your mom. you can make the father pay child support. In my city, there are schools for teen parents. if that is the same w/ your place, go there and complete your education. if not, make the best w/ normal school;go for a few more years if you have to, but comeplete high school and college if you can.
Stay strong. Remember, if your dad was still alive, he wouldn't want you or your mom to be doing the things you two are doing.
2007-12-13 14:08:40 · answer #8 · answered by n.li@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have plenty of reasons to live, even if they do not appear to you right away. You have your whole life ahead of you. And even if right now it appears to be a mess, doesnt mean it will stay that way. You should stay away from people who "push" you into doing thins -anything. Especialy if it is armful. You can either keep the baby and make sure you "make" a good life for him/her, or get rid of the baby in order to give yourself another chance. (getting rid = aborption, giving away to adoption, as your beliefs see fit) I'm so sorry about your dad's suicide and your mom. Can you talk about this with an adult? Your friend's mom, maybe? As for the boyfriend, I'm not sorry : he's a loser, you're better off without him. Best case scenario, he'll give you money if you decide to raise his child.Take care and if you want to chat, e-mail me.
2007-12-13 13:12:53 · answer #9 · answered by Fannie 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You are smart enough to know you need help. So thats something. Many dont even know that. Plus at 14 you are not suppose to have money or a job. Open your phone book and call any hospital, counseling service line, help line you can find to set up someone you can talk to. This site doesnt always have the most helpful answers - and sometimes people are downright mean.
2007-12-13 13:16:16 · answer #10 · answered by lillilou 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋