Ok my husband likes to play fight alot... Some times its funny, but most of time its too rough. I tell him to stop but he calls me a pussy. I mean its never like punching me or leaving bruises. but i must have sensitive skin, but most of the time he squeezes too hard ( my hands or leg) bends my arm, throws a kick backwards into my shins or does something stupid like that.. why is he doing this?...he thinks its funny. he doesnt know when enough is enough... and its ALLL the time! .i have seriously tried to get him to stop . ive tried talking, by either getting upset or (once i went to punch him where it counts) but nothing seems to stop it. he is much bigger than me?..have any other women had this problem?...does anyone have any suggestions to get him to stop? or rather to know when enough is enough?.
2007-12-13 12:50:31 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I Dont feel like he is abusing me..i would of left if i thought he was.. he thinks its just goofing around.. i have tried talking to him to get him to stop.. and yes i have gottn some tears going too, i am so frustrated
2007-12-13 12:56:32 · update #1
thanks everyone for you suggestions!
2007-12-13 12:57:37 · update #2
You just need to tell him seriously that you don't enjoy it. It sounds like you might have been trying to playfully ask him to stop, so that can be misinterpreted.
I guess I have had that kind of experience- my old BF was a wrestler and he would pin me and it would make me mad... I would then scream really loudly & he would stop, so maybe give that a try! Like, ear shattering. Give him some negative feedback when he hurts you (that's how you train a dog :P).
2007-12-13 12:56:02 · answer #1 · answered by Snugs 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since this is to the point where it is affecting you emotionally. You do need to tell him to stop, and I would try talking to him again. If it doesn't work... then threaten to leave him. If he really loves you then he will be there for you (and he will stop). He sounds like a very competitive man, and that may be the only way this gets solved. But it would be worth the outcome for you in the end, so you wouldn't have to worry about this anymore. good luck.
2007-12-13 13:07:53 · answer #2 · answered by Les 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he doesn't care if he hurts you or not seems how you have tried in so many ways to tell him and he hasn't stopped. Are you sure you don't have a bigger problem than you think?
2007-12-13 12:57:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You definately need to have a serious talk with him before u end up with a fracture!!!! Let him now how u feel and tell him that there are other ways u can play around.
2007-12-13 12:55:17 · answer #4 · answered by PiNkY DvA 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is being a real ******. Men know when to stop "playing" against women. If I were you, I'd tell him that he was straining the relationship. Let him wise up, or get out.
2007-12-13 12:55:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
well i hate to say this but it seems he is a bully maybe you need to tell him in front of friends and tell him if it dont stop you will go see the cops cause your sick of it good luck
2007-12-13 12:58:43 · answer #6 · answered by master 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is not play. That is abuse. If he will not get counseling, you must. You have to get your courage and self-esteem up enough to walk away.
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2007-12-13 12:55:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Go to karate school to learn to defend yourself. If you can't go to karate school buy a stun gun and use it on him.
2007-12-13 14:01:36 · answer #8 · answered by Goodhead 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him when you stay stop, it means stop!
Tell him this seriously upsets you, and if he does it again you will press assault charges.
That should get his attention.
2007-12-13 12:54:42 · answer #9 · answered by ~Christine~ 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
carry around a tranq gun, it should put the big guy right out
2007-12-13 12:53:47 · answer #10 · answered by jamiroquai fanatic 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋