That does seem pretty early. She is in what, 7th grade? Yeah, I would wait to high school at least or do chaperoned dates.
2007-12-13 12:49:28
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answered by Anonymous
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That entirely depends on what she means by dating.
If she means hanging out alone with a guy she likes and likes her back then 12 is far too early.
You can let her hang out with a larger co-ed group instead. Like a few of her own friends and a few of her boyfriend's friends going to the mall or the movies.
Ultimately it's up to you to decide what's right for your child. If you think she's mature enough to be dating then let her.
Also, tell her a story about a girl who started dating at 10 and was pregnant at the age of 15 with a 26 year old guy.
Kids are wanting to date younger and younger these days, they need to learn the negative aspects of it as well.
2007-12-13 14:45:15
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answered by cooliome 2
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No dating. Maybe going to the movies at the mall with you taking her and picking her up. Maybe school dances that are chaperoned or ball games with a group of kids, again being picked up and dropped off or with another parent that you KNOW is responsible. Do not allow her to claim to be at a friends house without you having talked to them, having numbers from the parent and able to talk to the parents ane her at the same number at any time. If she is giving you a hard time, take something away. It's worth the torment to ikeep her safe. Explain to her the worries, the things that can happen and try to have a dialogue and maybe compromise with the group dating at this age and have her earn responsibility by being responsible from now until 16. That is what I would do, then it may or may not work. If you take it all away they will do what they want when you don't even know anyway, but you can't allow them to be the boss and be free at that tender age. They need time to mature and learn. Have her talk to someone outside the family...an older cousin or someone that she respects that might be able to tell her things about why it is this way. That may help. To keep talking is important. Even if you have to take her and ner friends on your time....as long as she is getting something that she wants and not all, you are winning some and protecting her.
Good luck. Miss Mary
2007-12-13 12:56:35
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answered by MISS-MARY 6
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she is a kid, its stupid to date at that age, its not being overprotective but at that age kids dont know what theyre doing and if something turned out wrong she could get pregnant, just talk to her about sexual stuff and trust her, if shes a good kid then let her do that so she knows its not the right time to date
2007-12-13 14:29:56
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answered by Anonymous
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No!! She is way too young! No one under the age of 16 should date!!! I am a mom of two boys and I will not allow them to date or do anything else until they are 16. Put your foot down and say no! She has no reason to date at her age. Think about it! At 12 she is just a little girl!!
2007-12-13 13:45:54
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answered by Creative Memories 3
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Suggest a group date. That way you wont be smothering her and she still gets her "date". A group of 4 or 6 12 and 13 year olds could go to the movies, or bowling, or ice skating, mini golf, there are plenty of group activities for them to enjoy. I hope this helps.
2007-12-13 13:00:50
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answered by Shelbi =) 5
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12 is an eraly age to be dating, but I really shouldn't talk, my first boyfriend was in grade 2! lol. but you do have a right to be overprotective, you don't want to see your daughter get hurt by someone at that young of an age, try an talk to her in private aboutit, y'know mother/daughter talk
2007-12-13 13:36:50
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answered by Brittany Button Nose 2
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I dont think anyone that young needs to be dating, times have changed. You don’t want to become a grandmother when she's 14 do you? or god forbid younger then that. Plus she’s 12 years old how are kids that age going to pay for their “date” I suppose some saved up allowance, they cant drive so that means you’ll have to drive them on their “dates”
2007-12-13 13:07:23
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answered by Spread Peace and Love 7
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It depends on what you mean by date. My 13 year old daughter has a boyfriend. The go on group dates to the movies and to eat. He comes to our house for some parties. Other than that they talk on the phone a see each other at school.
2007-12-13 13:51:53
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answered by kim h 7
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Too Young. They can "like each other" in school, but no way is a boy taking my 12 y/o daughter out.
2007-12-13 13:50:30
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answered by okie 4
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I had boyfriends in middle school but I didn't ride in friends' cars or their older siblings' cars or anything like that. Mostly I was allowed to hang out with groups of friends and attend school dances. Occasionally I was allowed to go to the movies as long as my parents drove and they knew when the movie was over so they could be waiting (leaving us no time alone, lol)
If she is mature and trustworthy, I think now is a good time to start setting rules about dating. Meet the guy she likes and allow them to hang out at your house or his, if his parents are home.
2007-12-13 13:01:49
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answered by Shelly J 4
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