How can women empower themselves to move on from an abusive relationship?

Question

emotional, psychological and manipulative

Answer 1

Gaining knowledge about abusive relationships...sometimes these women don't realize or acknowledge that what is happening to them is abuse. More often than not, emotional abuse is just a precursor for possible future physical violence.
Self-esteem is critical...abusive partners belittle their partners to the point that they blame themselves, don't think they are worthy of being respected in a relationship, etc.
Creating financial independence is also important. Many women in abusive relationships don't leave because they have nowhere else to go and no money to get away. They are most likely isolated from friends and family (supportive people in their lives).

Answer 2

First, to become empowered, they need a lot of information:

-To whom can they turn in times of crisis?
-What agencies will help them?
-Do they have a circle of family/friends, or a support group?
-Do they have a neighbor who will protect them, while they await help from family or an agency?
-Even if they have all of the above, are these services available 24/7-365?

Some women have been brainwashed by their abusers...told that they cannot survive without the abuser.
Some have been put-down, and believe that they cannot gain employment, care for their children, etc.
Some are threatened with the possibility that the abuser will gain custody of any children involved.

In answer to your question, women must know all the services that are available to them; what friends, relatives and neighbors are there for them; that, in some cases agencies will even get them out-of-town to a 'safe house' if the emergency is severe enough.

The types of services available to women can vary from state to state; city to city; town to town, etc. Women should seek out all necessary information BEFORE marrying or living with someone--they must know what they can do in case of emergency.

Answer 3

LEAVE! Get good counseling; find good supportive peer-group; get testing, if you need to find what you are good at; and GO FOR IT!!!!------PS, be aware that the most dangerous point in the relationship is when the woman is about to LEAVE the abuser!!!! I learned that the hard way! An abused woman is very valuable to the abuser, as an outlet for his rage! When she is threatening to take that outlet away from him, he escalates into very dangerous action!! Abused women are most often killed at this point in the relationship! For me, I found myself running for my life down the neighborhood street at midnight--with him in fast pursuit and carrying a long rope!! A wonderful older woman let me in as I was screaming and ringing her doorbell. I called the police; they came and escorted me back into the house to get our little girl and to pack a few things--never to return again!!! He was bright, educated, an alcoholic and crazy when drunk! I went back to college; became a Guidance and Counseling therapist with lots of good clinical training and worked for 26 years w/very troubled children and adolescents. I paid off my numberous sp? student loans the year I retired at 66! All well worth it!! My daughter in near 40 now; very bright and accomplished; in a good marriage and with three BEAUTIFUL DARLINGS--my Grandchildren and my life!!!

Answer 4

The first step is to recognize the value and self esteem of the woman. Those are the bases.

Answer 5

Self confidance.