my girlfriend supports me in every way. It's not like I don't trust my girlfriend but it's on the back of every man's mind of what she is doing while you are away for an extended period of time. In the begining, I'll ge gone for about 4-5 months. How do I work with leaving the love of my life behind for such an ammount of time?
2007-12-13 12:21:58 · 31 answers · asked by on_point_07 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's one of those things that you just have to suck up and get through...the truth is, you're never going to know what she's doing while you're away. You just have to focus on the good things in your relationship and trust her. If it's meant to be, she will stay faithful to you and everything will work out when you are able to come home. There's not any easy way to deal with being away from your love for so long, especially when you're in the military and can't really control your schedule. You chose this career path for a reason, right? So try to focus on the positive and forget the negative. :) Good luck in the Air Force and in your relationship :)
2007-12-13 12:26:53 · answer #1 · answered by AnswerGirl43 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, don't worry the Airforce will make damn sure that you get your work done... :)
What about what YOU'LL be doing when you are gone???
My son is in the Airforce currently, and before he left he thought it was wise to get "engaged"...NOT!!! Now he is interested in a young lady at Tech School...(his tech school is 6 months long). They have way more in common!!!
I'm going to tell you what I told him...
Your life in the Airforce is just beginning...
You will travel a lot, I'm sure...
You will meet many fascinating people (women)...
These women will be falling all over you in your Uniform...
Sometimes you just have to "live in the moment".
And in the end, if your girlfriend & your relationship was meant to be, it WILL be.
GOOD LUCK entering the BLUE!!!
No worries, just take life as it comes, sometimes that's all you CAN do.
Hopefully this helps a little... :)
2007-12-13 20:39:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Awww this reminds me of what my love (now husband) and I went through when he first left 2 yrs ago to Basic.... It was hard for us both but in the end we got to be together , Trust & patience are the keys. What I can tell you that when he was away in basic he wasn't allowed to call me often (usually for like 2 min.) so I had to wait until he was in tech school to start getting calls from him... I wrote him alot and he use to tell me to send pics with my letters so that he'd get them faster (just a hint). You both be patient and I bet you'll end up marrying her.... we ended up getting married just a little after he graduated, I couldn't be more happier as an AF Wife!
2007-12-13 21:29:20 · answer #3 · answered by Thanks.Alot! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First let me say thank you for your service in the Armed Forces.
Sweetheart at some point you have to trust your girl. Whether you are here at home in boot camp or in some far off local.
If she is the kind to cheat then you are better off finding off now than latter.
But let me leave you with this. 99% of my husband and my courtship occurred while he was stationed in Darmstadt Germany, Vietnam and Ft Hood Texas. Was I faithful? You Bet I Was!
2007-12-13 20:27:38 · answer #4 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a military wife and I know it can be hard. The best thing is communication. Try not to get into alot of arguements while your gone. Remind her that she is everything to you, and your support while your gone. Letters, emails, phone calls, 1-800-flowers (great idea)... Just anything to make her feel like she is wanted... good luck.
2007-12-13 21:26:55 · answer #5 · answered by Les 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of us have been there. You have to trust each other, and if you do not have trust, you have nothing. Look forward to the good times you still have ahead of you. Both of you enjoy what you do during those months, and plan for your future. You can get through this.
2007-12-13 20:25:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't look at it like that. What you are doing is a very brave thing look at it like you are doing this for her, so she can be safe, your risking your life for her. Thinking she is cheating will only drive you insane. Just think how you love her and if she dose cheat then it is not fate. If you beleive your meant to be then you both will be fine.
2007-12-13 20:27:53 · answer #7 · answered by sarahgirl33 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you will find that she was just the love of your 'old life' - there's a big wide world out there - so it cuts both ways - she's probably thinking the same thing!
2007-12-13 20:24:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's all about trust brother. If you truly love someone then, in my experience you trust them fully. You'll miss her, just keep her in your mind and try to keep yourself in hers. Write, call and send photos. Tell her you love her every chance you get.
2007-12-13 20:26:32 · answer #9 · answered by jimstock60 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is also in the grils mind too (more than you may think) what you will be upto while you are away. so trust each other fully, and true love always works towards the best in life,
2007-12-13 20:24:10 · answer #10 · answered by Ash_Jx 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋