ok my bff is a cheerleader im really jealous and now im losing her to the populars its killing me shes acting snobby and now i dont know what to do i would hate to end our friendship do you think i should shes so much prettier than i am and shes so good at cheer
2007-12-13 12:17:34 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think that you should talk to her in private about how you feel. Tell her that she has started to change. If she understands, then it's worth a shot to let her be happy and still be there for her. If she is too immature to understand, then I don't think she was a friend to begin with.
Talk to her and don't criticize her. Just tell her what's been bothering you and that you want to remain friends. But don't ask her to quit cheer. If she does it well, then at least she'll be happy doing it. Even if someone can't be a good friend to you, be the better person towards them.
2007-12-13 12:24:56 · answer #1 · answered by 7155_0 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody on the entire planet outside of those people at your school give a damn about cheer; that kind of life experience matters very little in the real world so you have nothing to feel jealous about. (Besides, jealousy is mostly about insecurity and everybody knows it, so even if you feel it for a minute, you shouldn't confess it to people...it arms them against you.) I hope your friend isn't "changing" on you, but you should know by now, the reality is many of your friends will change, and in some ways so will you. Some changes will be good ones, like growth and expansions in awareness of the world around you; others will be bad, like dividing into cliques, and studying affectations of shallowness and self-absoption. Every teen is going through it at roughly the same time, but different people make different choices. So over the next few years you get to see evidence in how those choices play out for everyone. In due course, friendships will be born and friendships will die. It's a bit scary and sad to think about in advance, but as it happens you'll be just fine with it. So don't take it any more seriously than you have to. How ever it plays out, you will gain more than you will lose. Good luck to you, and Happy Holidays.
2007-12-13 13:11:29 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This happens to almost everyone on middle/high school. Just move on for now....trust me, she will come crawling back to you wanting to pick up where things left off. The smart thing to do would be just to move on...you don't need this, especially since it sounds like you have low self-esteem. She is just going to bring you down more. Try talking to her and if she still acts like a stuck up snob, don't give her any more of your time.
2007-12-13 12:26:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to. you sould if she acts like she is better then you or if she makes fun of you. just ask her if you are still friends and if she says yes then tell her that you fell like you guys are seperated. or something like that. well that is a suggestion.
2007-12-13 12:21:45 · answer #4 · answered by needsadvice 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get her alone and tell her how u feel!!! and prove your point.
2007-12-13 12:20:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋