I'll try to be the least explicit i can and please help me out...
Me and this girl are both 14. It's a long story about everything but currently she loves me. She loves me sooooo much that i'm sure she'd do anything for me. If i ask her to blow me, she probably would! Since she would do anything for me, i've been thinking of asking her to do stuff like give me a hj or a bj, etc. I don't like her back, but i just like that i can control whatever she does to me! does that make me bad? Should i do it? 'm afraid something is wrong with me...
2007-12-13 11:46:46 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You shouldn't do it if you don't like her, because you're just leading her on. Tell her that you don't feel the same way, and you'll stop feeling badly. You're feeling this way because you know what you're doing is wrong and you're just using her for physical things even though you don't actually have feelings for her. Tell her how you actually feel.
2007-12-13 11:49:33 · answer #1 · answered by BrittneyS 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you were older, hell yeah that would make you bad! Right now you're just a walking antenna looking for an experience,(normal for your age) but try not to have unequal experiences...now or ever. If you don't have feelings for her, don't get her all wrapped up into hooking you up because it definitely has emotional significance to her. (She'll feel used, and she'll be right.) One day the tables will be turned; you'll love someone who doesn't really love you back, and you'll see how miserable that feels. But if you develop the habit of protecting your partners, it will serve you well all of your life. Good luck to you.
2007-12-13 11:57:38 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Andrew - you already know the answer to that question since you feel bad about asking it and think there is something wrong with you.
You DO NOT under any circumstances, take advantage of someone who cares for you. Especially when you don't return the feelings. Treat her with the respect she deserves as a person.
2007-12-13 11:52:18 · answer #3 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
THATS TERRIABLE!!
im sorry that im going to be the only person who will be hinest with you but thats just who i am.
when you get a serious girlfriend and you think that you might get married one day do you want to have to tell her that your first bj or hj was by some girl you took adventage of and it wasent even special?
if you make this girl now do that then she will think you love her back b/c girls have this unexplainable connection between love and sex.
its only human to think that this might be the way to go but i wont say your bad b/c you cared enough to think about this first.
your good hearted but maybe you need to put yourself in someone elses shoes every now and then.
tell her you dont feel the same way.
trust me ive been used by guys who only wanted to makeout with me or make someone jelous.
i really wish that they would have just told me they didnt love me b/c all the lies have changed who i am form the inside out and i dont want this to happen to someone who has enough of a heart to love
2007-12-14 09:56:38 · answer #4 · answered by !~pSyChO g1RL~! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taking advantage of her IS bad, especially if you don't like her back. If you were to take advantage of her, which I'm not saying you should, keep it non-sexual. You're both 14; that's way to young to being bj's and stuff.
2007-12-13 11:52:32 · answer #5 · answered by Supermatt100 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is completely messed up, a girl only 14 should not lose all of her innocence to someone who doesn't even like her back... And in some cases the girl could be suicidal if you hurt her like that sounds like a bad idea
2007-12-13 11:50:11 · answer #6 · answered by nick c 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're very mean and malicious. Real men do not use girls or women like that.
First, you're too young to be experiencing these type of things with girls. You could go to jail if she tells.
Just remember that every girl is someones sister, daughter, aunt and will be a mother one day.
Would you want someone to treat young girls and women in your family this way?
You're obviously are not ready for dating, so use your own hand.
2007-12-13 11:55:23 · answer #7 · answered by dtown 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This must be one of those little girls with no daddy. Look its more than obvious that you do not care about this girl because all you are concerned with is getting off. If a concubine is what you are looking for then use away. If you want a friend then I would suggest you sit her down and talk to her about why she wants your attention so badly!
2007-12-13 11:51:41 · answer #8 · answered by AJ R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a pig! And there is something wrong with you. Just remember "What goes around, comes around" and if you do wrong it will come back to bite you. Is this something you will really be proud of? Oh maybe you should ask your mom? I bet she would love to hear this question.
2007-12-13 11:53:39 · answer #9 · answered by Married Lady 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude, don't be like everyone else and just use someone because they worship the ground you walk on.
Manipulation isn't anywhere on the list of leadership traits, especially for stupid things just to get you off. Save that crap for a committed relationship post highschool.
2007-12-13 12:47:39 · answer #10 · answered by olpa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋