What is the fear of having nothing, owning no posessions or losing all your material posessions ?

Question

how can you overcome this fear ?

im 30 years old i dont own anything except an old computer, i live in a one bedroom flat on benifits, i dont even have carpets on my
floor.
im a borderline personality disorder sufferer....ive never been employed...never gained qualifications.

it feels as though im trapped here and im never going anywhere in my life.....a mental health record, a petty criminal one....ive been sectioned....i feel at a great disadvantage in life.
i exist in a lonely , isolated life, never having made any friends ever, never had a steady partner never been in a relationship......coping with bpd.

i feel like its over, no one will give me a chance. my goals of a happy life, living in a coastal town, with an ok job.....a loving partner are all very ' remote ' from me.

i have physical worries, torn ankle ligaments....2 missing teeth...front bottom row. a crooked little finger, an ' aged ' face. a bald head.
plus i own hardly no posessions, when others have lots

of posessions.......i feel unwanted, outcasted, neglected and isolated.
the only person i have in my life is my mum, whos 56 and has been loyal and
loving from start to finish.

what will i do ?

Answer 1

I'm afraid one of the biggest problems you have to face is yourself. Brutal honesty is maybe not what you want to know but unfortunately unless you face facts, wake up and smell the coffee you are going to continue to struggle with your life.
The bravest thing is the one you have already faced and that is to come on this site and admit you have problems, that takes a lot of guts. On that basis you are at least recognising your problems.
As far as being a petty criminal is concerned that depends on the nature of your record. What may be petty to you could have been very serious and damaging to your victims wether it's because you stole from them or damaged their property.
These things could have been carried out as a result of your mental health problems.
Don't beat yourself up about having been sectioned, you were obviously in need of help that could only be given and assessed whilst you were sectioned.
As for your physical health the things you mention are nothing that can't be put right and they are certainly not life threatening okay.
If you have been sectioned then you will hopefully have access to a CPN. Talk to them and tell them how much of an effect these issues are having on your confidence and more importantly your self esteem.
There are funds available for your dental treatment okay, when that is done you will feel more positive about smiling at people.
Your ankle ligaments can be corrected without the need for surgery in most cases.
Then you can start to think about taking courses for things that you are interested in. These are available through adult learning centres and in your financial situation they will be free.
Those are all things that you can control.
As far as having no possessions, so what, it won't matter to genuine people what you have or don't have. It's what you are yourself that counts and like I said at the start you have already crossed the line at starting to improve yourself.
Finding a partner to share your life with is not a pipe dream okay, it's something that is within your reach. Think it and want it and you will find it.
You think that people won't give you a chance, well that's up to you to show that they can trust you and that you won't let them down.
More importantly my friend, don't expect it to happen in a few days or weeks. The reality is, that it will take time and you need to take that time, don't try and rush, take all the time you need okay. Genuine people should understand that things are going to be a struggle for you but the honesty that you have shown in your statement shows that you have a lot going for you and I believe you will make something of your life. Give yourself some goals and just gently go for them okay.
On a final note, use the system for what it has been created for speak to your CPN if you don't have one, tell your doctor you want a referal to one also a social worker. These people are in place to help victims like you, I say victim, because you are just as much a victim as others okay. You didn't want to be in the situation you are in so you are entitled to all the help there is to get you out of it.
You clearly have a very caring mother my friend and that gives you a wealth that lots of people don't have.
AND just to put a smile on your face don't worry about your bald head, when my hair started thinning a little, my granddaughter said "grampy think of your head as a solar panel.......... for a sex god.
Keep your chin up my friend the very best of luck to you take good care of yourself and god bless you. Your going to be on here sometime in the future sending these same words to another reader who will benefit from your experiences.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

What are a few possessions? I have lost everything but my life a couple of times. Life gets boring if there are no trials. You get knocked down you get back up and try again, that is living. As for the rest you take what nature gives you, You're not a child who can call 'do overs' If I cried over what I have missed I'd be crying all the time. Thank God for what I have and go on.

Answer 4

When hurricane Katrina hit New Orleans, I lost literally everything. My house, my car, my job. I had to get government help for the first time in my life. I was depressed for one year, really depressed but I had to find a job and start all over, so I did. Now, I am back on my feet again. Life continues, the world doesnt stop for you. You have to rotate with the world.

Answer 5

youre giving up. you admit to suffering from a mental impairment/illness. You recognize that you have something wrong...You could always try meds..maybe that will help.. hate to say this but you will probably be the same even if you had these posessions. That wont solve everything.. you need some social support.

Its never too late to change your life.

Answer 6

ever thought of doing voluntary work? it's one way of getting experience to gain full time employment. you will also be able to ask for a reference from the people you are volunteering for - that will help you get a job. when you find full time employment will be able to buy the things you want to buy. There's lots of different types of voluntary work, from admin to conservation work. It will get you out and about and you will meet new people. ask at your local volunteer bureaux (in yellow pages) if you are worried about your teeth, talk to your dentist - I had a friend who lost all his front teeth. He now has replacements but you can't tell they're not real. try and find an evening class or something as well. you never know what it might lead to or who you will meet

Answer 7

You know is it funny, the Lord asked His followers, to sale everything they owned, and give the money to the poor, and to follow Him, and preach the gospel of God and Jesus...this of course was part parable, and part the truth...in other words, not to put your faith in material things all the time...but to put your faith in the One that can give you eternal life, just for believing, loving, and trying to live the life, for God and Jesus...all of those things you are sad about today, will mean nothing to you...when you first seek and find the truth...I am on I.M again, by the way, in case you would like to talk further. God Bless

Answer 8

Your time will come, think of it like you're waiting for good, things will change when the time is right. And as for posessions - well...we come into this world with nothing and we leave with nothing. All people do in between is collect posessions that are of no use, emotionally. People are more important and I believe there is someone for everyone, it's just not up to you when you get to meet them. Take care.

Answer 9

I dont own anything and it is not a problem or a worry.
You need to get a life.
Get a job,earn your money and you will feel better.
You come to this planet with nothing and leave with nothing so what you do in the middle is what counts.

Answer 10

Channel all your unhappiness into achieving something. Even if your goal is small one at first. Use any anger or grief that you have to fuel your desires and prove everyone, even yourself, wrong.

Nothing in this world is impossible. It's how much you want something which matters, nothing else. Never give up.

Good luck.