Okay well..
I met this guy on msn and he said that he really liked me and I really like him too (more than a friend)
Then we decided to meet up.
And then after we went back home from our meeting... we spoke on msn and he said he only likes me as a friend =(
Do you think he doesn't like me anymore because of my looks?
2007-12-13 11:37:11 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well... My friend, the guy I like and myself were in the convo. and my friend asked him "hey do you like eachother?"
and the guy I like said "Only as friends"
So I thought after that day he doesn't like me anymore =(
2007-12-13 11:42:53 · update #1
If he does than he's a Jerk find someone else!
2007-12-13 11:40:26 · answer #1 · answered by rebecca b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I certainly can't read his mind, but most of the guys I know would admit that its not really all about looks, and that if they truly "clicked" with someone, they would stay with them. So, although I can't say for sure that it has nothing to do with your looks, I'm guessing there is another reason. Perhaps he just didn't feel that "thing" that people feel when they are truly looking for their other half. That would certainly have nothing to do with you at all, since not everyone can "click". Trust me, it takes a lot of duds to find the right one; heck, without the duds you'll never know when you've found the winner.
It's also possible that there is something going on in his personal life that has nothing to do with you that has him changing his mind about pursuing a relationship. It also must be considered that he might be a flat-out jerk - it's hard to say since I've never met him.
No matter what the reason, I wouldn't worry too much about it. I can tell you from experience that time makes things right again - or at least bearable. Having this guy get away might be the beginning of a series of events that will eventually find you the right one!
2007-12-13 11:44:52 · answer #2 · answered by agirlfromapollo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't necessarily have anything to do with your looks. Before you met have you discussed whether or not he likes you more then a friend? It could be that the terms under which you were meeting were different in both your minds, meaning, you thought you were meeting up to pursue a relationship, he thought he was meeting you as a friend. Also another thing is, people are a lot different in person then they are online, maybe online you acted more like yourself then you did in person because you were nervous. But if it turns out it's because of your looks (did you send him a picture beforehand?) then you don't need him anyway!
2007-12-13 11:42:14 · answer #3 · answered by Erica H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem with meeting people online is that our imagination is really stimulated by what the other person says, to the extent that we are filling in the gaps, and giving them all kinds of attributes that they don't actually have.
So when we meet up in real life and experience the real person, we don't get what we expect and are consequently disappointed. It doesn't mean that you are unattractive, it means that you are not what he expected, and the spark of passion just wasn't there, no matter how much you would have liked it. I think he might have done you a favour, because you are now free to pursue a guy you really like who likes you right back!
2007-12-13 11:42:12 · answer #4 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say your age but I'm guessing that you're way too young to be meeting guys on the Internet and meeting them. Do you parents know you met this guy? I'm much more concerned that you're too young and immature to be meeting guys on the net who could be real creeps than I am whether or not they like your appearance.
Please give some serious thought to the kind of danger you could have been in and reconsider meeting guys on the net. This is not the place for young girls to be meeting guys.
2007-12-13 11:56:51 · answer #5 · answered by AngelBleu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully, yes. Sweetie, this is not the way to meet a person. He could have kidnapped and murdered you. Also, his opinion of your looks are just that, his opinion. It means nothing in the long run. What counts is YOUR opinion. With the right attitude, you'll be amazed at the people you attract. Take care of yourself on the inside, [mind, body, and soul] and wait for anything external. Trust me on this,I was a late bloomer too and I'm so happy I waited to get serious. Email this Pimp if you need to talk further.
2007-12-13 11:42:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cyber-space offers imagination to work and to fantasize as to what one may look like which is not what love is built on. Ive been married to someone who was perfectly made on the outside and as the person came out of her shell she became one of the most ugly people i have ever known. My current wife isn't the most pretty person as far as looks go however she is the most beautiful person i have ever taken into my heart. So don't worry about what some immature guy thinks especially if he is only looking for an arm piece to show off. You and all ladies deserve better.
2007-12-13 11:47:58 · answer #7 · answered by Joe P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound a little inexperienced with relationships. The guy that you should choose for your boyfriend should appreciate you for who you are now. There are plenty of fish in the sea. It's not such a big deal to let one go. Let your inner beauty shine on the outside and you'll have more dates than you can imagine. Anyone who dates someone just for looks is superficial themselves and will never be very interesting.
2007-12-13 11:47:02 · answer #8 · answered by CDawg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be clinging to him to quick. Most guys don't like it when a chick wants to get serious right after they meet. Its a bad idea to get friends or let friends ask guys things you should be asking them, they don't like that kinda thing. Getting a girlfriend involved adds another 3 person and hes in to date you not both u and your friend. Give him his space and just get to know him don't seem to jumpy to get to know him. I know it can be fun and you get butterflys when you feel you click with a guy for the first time, but boys/men take longer than women to feel the connection. Good luck hope I helped.
2007-12-13 14:12:32 · answer #9 · answered by Bluemomma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not necessarily because of your looks. It may be other incompatible factors. In my opinion, it is safer to assume that the match is imperfect on many grounds, otherwise your feelings will remain hurt disproportionately.
As to what you can do, all anyone can do is keep trying and trying and trying. And remember that there are countless, repeat countless other people who will be interested in you. It never seems true, but it is true for everyone.
2007-12-13 11:45:59 · answer #10 · answered by cryany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahh thats scaryy
you met a guy on the internet
and then you met up with him??
eeeek what if he was like some
crazy rapist guy or sometyhing.
you could really get hurt.
but ummm.... idk
maybe you acted different in person.
but any guy that likes you only for your looks
is a faghet. and if he stops liking you
becuase of yuor looks
then he is NOT worth it.
2007-12-13 11:42:42 · answer #11 · answered by _annabelleâ?¥__ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋