I applied for government assistance and my case worker told me that the father of my children has to be placed on child support. The father of my children play an active role in their lives such as he gives me money when he has it, but like myself, he is in college and is also looking for a job to help support the children. We are very great friends and I do not need him to be on child support since he is already trying to make an effort. Is there a way that he does not have to be placed on child support after I get off government assistance?
2007-12-13 11:36:51 · 12 answers · asked by Candace M 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
I am only on government assistance so that I can support my children until I find another job because I just got laid off. I am not trying to use the government forever because I believe that is completely wrong! I just do not need the father of my children to be placed on it since I am not going to be on it for years, just for a couple of months.
2007-12-13 11:48:37 · update #1
A lot of answers that I am getting is not answering my question. I guess what I am trying to ask that when I get off government assistance, how does he get off paying child support?
2007-12-13 12:18:49 · update #2
Public assistance is available only when you have no other or insufficient resources. The father of the children is a resource for child support. Even if you receive public assistance, the state agency will seek reimbursement from the children's father. As parents, you both have the obligation to support your children. The public does not have any responsibility to support your family, without demanding something in return. Like it or not, that is just the way it is.
EVEN WHEN YOU GET OFF OF PUBLIC ASSISTANCE, the State will seek reimbursement from the father for any part or all of that assistance attributable to the children's support, education, health, and welfare.
2007-12-13 12:01:05 · answer #1 · answered by LUCKY 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd say take the money, I don't think much would change about the dad if he stopped paying. If you truly don't need it, because your financial situation changed for the better over the past six years while his didn't, then you can reduce the amount of support required, but I'd only do this if the support payments are really hurting him. But don't take money away from your kid just because you are tired of hearing your ex talk about the money he has to send you each month and how he's such a good father for it--when you hear a guy bragging like that the listener does one of two things--ignore him as a braggart, or they become interested and start trying to drag info and stories about him and the kid out, and when he doesn't have many, it will become clear that his words care more for the kid than his actions. Changing the garnishment would require going back into court, because it is a court order. Since you are giving your child's father something for nothing, he won't contest and it won't be that expensive, but you will probably still need to talk to your lawyer. Besides, six year olds are cheap compared to fifteen year olds--be sure you really don't need the money before you let him off the hook.
2016-05-23 11:03:40 · answer #2 · answered by rochelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you are saying about before and after but it really is all part of the same thing. First of all 4 months is not enough time to accomplish anything. 4 months will have come and gone before you get approved for assistance.
So say you have the cash to hire a lawyer, wait for the court date and have him absolved of ever paying child support. This would require him to give full and total custody. The judge is not going to buy it. Welfare won't as well because they will ask "why now"? You will have to prove that he is never around and never pays anything. But then again you had money for the lawyer.
So later you are off welfare and want to cancel any claim to support. It can be done w. a lawyer but the judge won't buy it. Because in normal cases a woman just doesn't claim support so he does not pay. But she reserves the right just in case something happens to you later.
In fact in signing his rights away he might be able in 10 years use this against you if he seeks custody. This happened to a family member of mine and I had to give her $25k to get it all worked out.
So at every step of the way the question will always be the same. So he is in college and says he will pay and help out later but be active in their life. But for now why could he not drop a few classes and work more now? Looking for a job now. He is going to school so he is not an idiot. Judge would go "he can't find anything doing ANYTHING"? Can't drop out in order to care for a child? You or he have no parent willing to help? That will raise a red flag.
They won't allow this even later as women just don't get all signed over unless you can prove he is horrible. The judge will probably order that he pays regardless of what you say. The court sees the childs future interests to be most important... not uninformed parental decisions.
2007-12-14 06:35:01 · answer #3 · answered by jackson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're on government assistance the state will go after the father to help repay some of the money you sponged off the taxpayers.
The saying goes if you can't feed 'em , don't breed em. I'm sorry - but that is reality. You BOTH have an obligation to pay for the raising your child.....the state and the taxpayers are just unwilling victims in all of this.
2007-12-13 11:51:20 · answer #4 · answered by Susie D 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Once you get off of government assistance, then it should be automatic, if its not though...you can go to the court and file modification paperwork to solve the problem. The court will be looking to get something regular set up, but it will be based on what your ex can afford. Its hard when you guys get along to have the court involved...but they DO have control over it in the end.
2007-12-15 11:00:32 · answer #5 · answered by butterflykisses83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but you are the one that has done it to him. By getting on government assistance you are the one that caused all this. They told you this when you got on it and you did it anyway.
2007-12-18 02:38:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as you are getting any assistance from the state then they will take his child support.
2007-12-14 08:03:40 · answer #7 · answered by Molly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish you all the luck in the world. My husband has been paying child support for 18 years. He is on soc. sec. disablility and they take half of his check every single month to pay for "back child support". He has paid since his divorce and now his children are over the age of 18 and one even has a child of her own. I am also on disablility due to a spinal reconstruction so our income is very limited. We can't even get help with medicaid or food stamps. I think that you should contact an attorney or legal aide and see if there is anything they can do to help you. GOOD LUCK TO YOU and wish us luck as well.
2007-12-13 11:46:50 · answer #8 · answered by Cindy M 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
The State puts him 'on child support`, but you
do not have to report it if he fails to pay.
2007-12-13 11:57:56 · answer #9 · answered by Irv S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Welcome to the real world! You can't get him off child support. You or both of you will have to hold down 2 jobs apiece to make it.
You didn't get those kids all by yourself right?
2007-12-13 11:50:50 · answer #10 · answered by cprucka 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋