Why do some parents abuse their kids?

Question

Is there any phychological reasoning behind this?

Answer 1

Most parents who abuse have been abused when they were young, and their not strong enough to break the bad habits their former parents displayed. Anger and hatred are very two strong emotions, and if not dealt with properly can lead to very severe problems in later life. I had a cousin that was severely abused by his father, but he was able to forgive his father and not treat his children the same way.... In Fact he is the total opposite, he loves them and spoils them rotten... It just depends on the person. That's why I have always said that when people say that they cannot control their bad habits; because of what their parents did they are so wrong. your life is what u make of it...

Answer 2

Many parents today discipline their children as they were disciplined, they are not aware that emotional or physical punishment is now considered abuse, and also, there are just plain and simple some "mean" people in this world, and some people have problems of their own they have not addressed , then take it out on others, intervention by a family is a good way to bring this to someone's attention, and if this does not work, many times turning someone in to the police or a social worker will do the trick, but if abuse is witnessed and nothing is done then all suffer, it must be stopped and the person doing it needs to get some help, either voluntarily or by what ever means it can be accomplished. Abuse is against the law, The results of abuse can be life long, a lot of times that is what happened to the parent and that is why they are doing it, it is a vicious cycle that goes on for generations until stopped.

Answer 3

well, my dad doesn't know many things.
no, he's not special or anything....he's just not wise & does not have an open mind.
he doesn't care for others that much or either b/c he doesn't show it probably.
my dad had a bad childhood....his dad died when he was 12 yrs old & his mom would be at work most of the time so he often spent time doing things what other kids in his town did...using slang, doesn't know any manners....let's just say...with cheap people. he has anger management & alot of things happened in my life & it's connected to my mom's basicely.
i have alot of things to say & i can't type all this down so i'll just sorta cut to the chase.

my dad abused me because he doesn't know the right way to treat kids, he has anger management, he denies everything he did, & he's deff. not wise. he should learn a lesson someday but yet, he didn't.

i let him get away so many times, he almost got in jail & got in trouble but i "HAD" to let him get away & lie that he didn't & made me look bad instead & i almost went to juvenile b/c of that just because of him because my mom told me too or we would be living in the streets. he left me bleeding, with bruises, acky mucles & bones, ect.

i think he really has a bright side, i barely see it. i be kind to him as much as i can be so i can see if he'll change to a kind, bright person but i never do so i'm pretty much sick & tired right now. so is my mom.

my dad's such a....ugh, ya know?

i also vist a tharapist & a pshycologist every 2 weeks, the pills don't seem to work [it makes me dizzy & hard to concentrate at school but my mom forces me to stay at school] & the tharapist so i'm saving money to buy self-help books. while my dad keeps on fussing, screaming at me saying that i'm wasting his money going there even though the cause is because of him & if i didn't have any appointments or any pills, i'll be up in Heaven right now.

my mom & i are sorta like slaves to him, we do what he says or we get yelled & verbally abused while my dad just goes to work & comes home & do anything he wants & i know it can be tiring to work sometimes. my mom & i are very sensitive b/c our feelings get hurt easily.

Answer 4

I think it's because they either believe that their child is the reason that they are having some problems in their lives and that if they hurt their child then it would teach them not to do whatever the child did wrong or what the parent thinks the child did wrong. Or else, they want ot take their anger out on something or someone and their child is the only one they can take it out on. Or else, it could also be that they think that if they hurt their child bad enough that it would kill the child and then all the parents problems would just go away.

Answer 5

That's kind of the problem. If there were ONE reason behind it, we could do something about it. There are many. Mental illness...abuse in the parent's childhood...drugs etc... It's so, so incredibly sad that kids have to deal with things like that.

Answer 6

Some parents think that their children are to blame for their problem, or they had bad experiences in their childhood. Abusive parents channel their negative energy through violence and through their child. Abuse is never the solution to a problem.

Answer 7

Abusive parents are not really adults but seriously immature.When they have children, they don't have any patience, they expect the child to do things beyond their cognitive development, and just seeing a helpless child enrages them. They "identify with the aggressor" (their own parents) and cannot empathize with children who remind them of themselves as children. Ironically, it makes them angry. They can't tolerate their child having better care than they had! They are incapable of providing that care, anyway, and this angers them, too. Their immaturity makes them very envious of children getting what they didn't get, and they become enraged.

Answer 8

My Dad was abused as a child and he in turn abused us kids! The buck stopped there! As a physically, emotionally & sexually abused child I knew that was something I would never allow to happen to my children*

Answer 9

that they dont have enough knowledge of the effects which abuse can leave on the character of their children. they should have classes before giving birth a child if they need.Children are in their easy reach to get rid of their frustrations by abusing them.they dont love them enough also...its very sad.....I think its better for them not to have any rather doing this ....:(

Answer 10

Yeah, they saved up a large amount of stresses and burdens while they live and found no means to let it out (That's where art is important in life). When they saw someone (even their own child) weaker or in other words, an easy target, their subconscious whispered to them: "Maim him!" ;"Slap her head off!"; "Let him taste your belt!"; "Tear her apart!" and other creepy stuffs.

If you want to stop that, don't do that and that's enough.