I was searching on the internet about abortions and I just typed my question above in the search engine and I saw a link to Yahoo answers and signed up to get some answers. I have two children and I already aborted one pregnancy back in 2005 because we could not afford to support another child. With my first abortion my husband and I wasn't using any protection because I was breastfeeding and we thought I could not get pregnant. But this time we were using birth control and I got pregnant. I promised myself that I would never abort another baby but times are so hard for us right now. We have no help, daycare fees are high, cost of living, and food etc is so expensive. Adoption is not an option. I will always wonder how my baby is doing. Do you think God will punish me? Have I already been punished for aborting a baby?
2007-12-13 11:26:17 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I have no family but my husband, kids, Mother and my best friend. My husband and my friend said that they would support me either way. My Mother is totally against abortions and any kind of birth control. So I have never told her about my first abortion or my thoughts about aborting this baby not even that I was using birth control. I just wanted some advice. I know the internet is not the best place to resolve my problem. I was hoping for the best. I expected cruel and harsh answers. I would never use abortions as birth control. My life is really hard right now. Adoption is not an option because how would I know for sure that my baby would be in good hands? If I could visit my child once he or she is adopted will I grow attached and want my child back. Or even grow attachted to the baby while I am still pregnant and want to keep my baby once he or she is born. As far as God only he can judge me.
2007-12-14 12:32:10 · update #1
First of all don't listen to any answers these ******* on here may leave trying to make you feel bad. Second no one on here can judge how God feels about it, only God can do that. If you pray and talk to the Lord about it I guarantee you will feel a little better and regardless God is going to love you anyway. Third, this is something you and your husband need to decide on. Not your husband, and strangers on yahoo. Only you and your man knows what the best thing is to do. If you decide to keep the baby you'll be able to make it, I've seen single mothers with four kids do it. If you decide to abort, maybe try a stronger birth control like the shot and bottle feed the baby instead of breastfeed that way you wont get prego again. Good luck!
2007-12-13 11:38:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 4⤋
Getting pregnant while using birth control is one of those occurrences that is obviously truly unexpected. However, ultimately this very personal decision must be made between you and your husband. Neither God nor anyone else can tell you what to do. And neither God nor anyone else has the right to judge you and the choices you make.
Obviously your current life circumstance does not allow for another child to come into the fold and given you are internally torn up/carrying guilt about considering another termination, I am wondering why adoption is not an option for you. You are struggling with terminating a life but yet you are seemingly not wanting to give this child the chance to live within a household that can provide. Regardless, this is your decision and so you must do what is right for you and your husband.
The only punishment and guilt that can be handed down will come from within so whatever decision is made, you must come to peace with that choice for the mental well-being of all concerned.
I wish you well at this delicate time.
2007-12-13 11:46:26 · answer #2 · answered by LiverGirl98 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You said that adoption is not an option because you will always wonder how your baby is..... but with an abortion you won't wonder about the baby?
It is wrong that you would even think about aborting a child when you are married!! Grow up and take care of your responsibilities. An abortion is not birth control! If you can't handle another child then there are two options.... 1) don't have sex (but obviously this isn't an option) or 2) get fixed and stop killing children!!!
2007-12-13 11:43:10 · answer #3 · answered by ~They call me MOMMY~ 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You should do what you feel you need to do to support the family you do have. If you want to abort it do it soon so you dont get cold feet. There is always adoption too. Think of all those familys out there that cant have children but want to so bad. You would be giving them a blessing. You could really make them happy. The hard part is giving the baby up though. I know I could do an abortion but not an adoption because after going through the pregnancy im sure I would feel too close to the baby. You do what you feel is right. Im not a religious person but I know a little about your god and he is forgiving so if you do decide to get an abortion just ask for his forgiveness and he will forgive you. Hope this helps.
2007-12-13 11:34:18 · answer #4 · answered by lalala 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
The fact that you even wonder about God punishing you makes me think you know the answer. Some people will disagree with me, but I believe abortion is always wrong. I have been trying to get pregnant for 8 months now to no avail and reading your question makes me so sad. I would love to have another baby, and you are trying to get rid you yours. Would it really be easier to,live with knowing you killed a baby than to know that your baby is in a loving home? Adoption is always an option. I don't understand how anyone who has held a baby in their arms could even consider abortion as an option. The baby is innocent, please don't kill it. You are asking if God will punish you, that means you believe in God. If you put your trust in him, he will provide you with the right answer.Look at this site and be sure and watch the video before you make your choice.
site: http://www.abort73.com
video: http://www.abort73.com/video/AbortionHighWM.html
2007-12-13 11:41:12 · answer #5 · answered by DeAnna 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Adoption is a option, There are many people out there whow ant to have a child who cant, give them the chance. And You can meet many families, so that you can pick the right one. You could always pick a family in your state who will let you visit when you would like, that way you still can see your little one grow, and I do not think god will punish you as long as you ask him for forgivness, and give this child a chance. God bless and good luck.
2007-12-13 11:33:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but if you absolutely cannot afford to have any more children, then you really should look into a more permanent form of birth control (ie. vasectomy or getting tubes tied).
Aborting all these babies...... sigh. It doesn't make sense to me - you say adoption is not an option because you'll always wonder how your baby is doing. So aborting is better???
I truly think that when it comes to having a baby and the cost, when there is a will, there is a way.
2007-12-13 11:40:20 · answer #7 · answered by Mom 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Honestly I do not believe in abortion I think that it would be worse to kill and wonder what he or she could have been or become or brought to your life or the world instead of adoption where at least he or she will have a chance to live. You can always get help from clinics or WIC. Please don't be too proud to ask for help there is nothing wrong with that, God would prefer you to be poor and give everything than to give everything to be rich. What type of God would want women to kill the gifts he has bestowed upon you? Don't kill something so innocent that had nothing to do with being conceived into a family that was not prepared for him or her. You should really consider adoption or government aid if you truely feel you need it. I hope everything works out for you and I hope you make the best decision regardless of what it is.
2007-12-13 11:41:12 · answer #8 · answered by Beautiful 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
This is hard but adoption could be a good option....wont you always wonder what your baby could have been if you didn't abort it...instead of thinking hows my baby doing if you adopted it out....This is your choice completely and your body and just take in mind that these are just other peoples opinion's on here and you don't have to apply them to your life at all....and as far as the god question....in fact nobody can answer that cause they are not god............god aside....do you feel like your punishing yourself ,maybe???
2007-12-13 11:35:28 · answer #9 · answered by Kel Bee 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Adoption isn't an option because you will wonder how your baby is doing? What about abortion? Won't you wonder what kind of life your baby could have had? Do not punish this baby because you would be too selfish to give it up for adoption. You cannot possibly, in your heart, think an abortion is the right way to go.
No, I do not think God will punish you. But you will have to live with the guilt of knowing what you did for the rest of your life.
2007-12-13 11:35:07 · answer #10 · answered by N and A's Momma 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋