Menopause and RAGE?

Question

I'm 37, and had a partial hysterectomy last January removing everything but one sad dead ovary (wtf they didn't take it too is beyond me). I have always had night sweats since I was kid, sweating like roofer in New Mexico during a heatwave in August. Sometimes it would get so bad my Mom would change my sheets in the middle of the night. It has gotten noticibly worse. The problem is, the last few days I have been experiencing rage, without any sort of provocation. I won't harm myself or my kids, but am very wary of the next dumba$$ who wants to cut me off in traffic. I'm coming unhinged! This is soooo not like me, I'm very easy going and it usually takes alot to get me riled up. My sense of humor, my best trait is almost completely gone. I don't feel depressed, just pi$$ed the f.ck off. Is this a 'normal' menopausal symptom? I called my OB/GYN and they can't see me for a month. I'm scared that will be too long and I will be in jail by then. HELP!

I'm horrifed at taking any hormonal replacements due to all the new bad press about them, how they wind up opening a new can 'o worms. I guess I'll call the doc back and beg for an earlier appt! I pity da' foo' who tries messing with me right now....dang!

My family is shocked as well, I'm the nice sweet Mommy and wife! I want to rip someone's head off so bad it actually hurts! I could easily break every window in my home at the moment, but considering another freakin' ice storm is headed my way......

I had HORRID PMS, but never anything on this level. Reminds me of that woman who caught her dh cheating and ran him down with her car, and then did it a few more times for good measure, all the while laughing hysterically.....

Answer 1

This is Marjie, Wayne's wife. I am 67 and went through what you are going through. I was so angry all the time and now that I look back, I could cry for all the yelling I did at my children. I had no patience with other people (my mother,sisters etc.) Hot flashes really bothered me for a long time. Estrogen supplements were a real blessing and they were for 2 of my sisters. I also got some anti-depressants because I was mad all the time. The combination really helped me. Why not insist that you get into your doctor earlier and if you can't, go right down to the emergency. Sometimes that is the only help you will get until your apt. with your doctor.

Answer 2

My complete hysterectomy was at 37 also. They have left one ovary to try to give you a little natural estrogen. But it sounds like it isn't working.

You need Premarin (this has worked for me for 30 years.)
Without it you will be miserable.

I had, rage, hate, paranoia, hot flashes (that is the least part)
roaring PMS almost always. Crying at everything.

You are too young to be in surgical menopause without
HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy.) You will need it to have a civilized life and raise your children.

Get a box of the Soy supplement "Estevan" I think, that should give you some help.

Find an OB GYN that you can get Your family practitioner should be able to prescribe. I have only seen my Family practitioner since I had my Hysterectomy. He can handle everything, at a better price also. Remember all of the problems areas are gone.

Take plenty of vitamins to try to keep your body in good health and emotionally as balanced as possible.

Good Luck.

Answer 3

I don't know which hormones or lack of are responsible for this feeling of rage, but yeah I've been there too.
I think that it's the same hormones that are present in Pms and menopause that are causing this problem.
Most months when I get my monthlies, the week of so before I experience an absolute black rage, am literally seething and shaking with anger, all with no provocation, the last few days I've been on the pc, trying to relax yet I'm grinding my teeth and ready to rip anyone's head off. But then I am also suffering from major depression as well that's being treated with 60mgs paxil daily, only they don't have much effect at that time of month.
I think the feeling of rage will ebb and flow and for me it eases up and leaves fairly quickly and hopefully for you it should do the same too. :)

Answer 4

my mom is experiencing the same thing and it has gone on for years. it is not nearly as bad as it once was, but it could get pretty frightening. i mean, my mom is this tiny, sweet, funny lady and she was going around busting out windows!

what works for her is simply going to her room, having a cigarette and taking herself away from the situation. she also calls me a lot and i let her go on about how horrible the line at the grocery store was. I'm sorry i couldn't help more, but know you're not alone. my mom is 45.

i would try taking some kind of estrogen supplement. that will likely help. also get plenty of sleep.

Answer 5

Did your ob/gyn prescribe any estrogen supplements? I dated a woman who had her ovaries removed at 26 or 27 for medical reasons, and she had been on estrogen supplements ever since her surgery (and she had lived a normal life, minus the ovaries, since the surgery). If you can't get an appointment, hopefully you can get a prescription.

Answer 6

why not go to a good health food or supplement store and ask advise. we have one here called super supplements and they always help me with all kinds of questions. there might be something that could help the symptom you have. i'm sure it could very well be one of the many crappy menapausal side effects we are blessed with.

Answer 7

LOL i get this way, i think mostly when i am PMSing but it also is sooo unlike me, but its like i totally lose control of myself, i am not even myself when this happens. its really scary! good luck