I can't move anywhere else, they are living 75% of the time in the mountains so everything is fine most of the time BUT fiance is still attached I guess and when his dad asks him to come to the mountains for the weekend, it's done. I have no choice in the matter. Now that its the holidays, its worse. On thanksgiving, I went to my dads while he went to his sisters and they felt that I should have went with them even though I promised my dad first. Now it's Xmas and I told fiance I didn't want to go to the mountains but we're going since my family's parties are different days. Does this mean hes not ready for marriage if he doesnt want to spend a holiday alone with me?Also, I'm 20 wks preg. and want my kid to see my family too. How can I get the point across that my family isn't dead and isn't in another country and that seeing them is very important to me? I love him to death but I'm not ditching my whole life for him. What should I say and what should I do?
2007-12-13 11:14:35 · 4 answers · asked by templeowlchick06 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you and your child should be number one to him, he should want to make you happy, you need to talk to him and work out some sort of plan on seeing both families at the holidays, or an every other holiday schedule
2007-12-13 11:21:05 · answer #1 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i assume lit's in basic terms a technicality yet once you at the instant are not married, they don't seem to be your in-rules. Now to the query to hand. do not enable those people or your people dictate the place and once you will spend trip trips. I comprehend that mum and dad locate it complicated to enable bypass however the quicker you're taking the reins of your existence, the greater suitable. Be up front with them and your fiance and clarify which you have a toddler on the way and decide to settle right into a "homestead existence" earlier the babe arrives. they are going to be aggravated for awhile and can accuse you of attempting to thieve their toddler boy, yet save on along with your weapons. Take it from somebody who is conscious, existence is to short to sweat the small stuff.
2016-12-17 17:27:23 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk and work on how to see both families pretty evenly on holidays. If he does not want to talk about it then you will have to make him see like you are that your family is important to you.
2007-12-13 11:50:13 · answer #3 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a guy thing. I live next door to my husband's parents, for 4 years. He would never go out of his way to visit my family, I would have to go alone. I don't let it affect my marriage, It is just how he is.....
2007-12-13 12:15:23 · answer #4 · answered by ladonna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋