Recently divorced and have two children with her. I haven't bond with my 3month old and very close to my 3yr old. I live an hour and a half away from them and I commute to see my eldest every week. I pay child support and she uses the money for her family and very little goes to the kids. In the past I provided for her. She never went to work or recievced a higher education than high school. Her mom has always influenced her life alot. I miss my ex and wish things could be but I realize to much pain and burnt bridges. The trust is gone and I know if we ever got back I would be the one that carries all the weight and it's only a problem since she feels I have to do EVERYTHING! I want to find me a woman soon but I don't know if that would make life easire or worse
2007-12-13 11:08:54 · 10 answers · asked by Leonidas 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
DON'T BE SO QUICK TO JUMP INTO ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP. BEST TO BE ALONE FOR AWHILE, TAKE IT EASY AND FIND YOURSELF. YOU STILL HAVE RESPONSIBILITIES AS A FATHER, WHICH IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING RIGHT NOW-YOU YOURSELF STATE THAT YOU HAVE NOT BONDED WITH YOU YOUNGEST CHILD-BEGIN DOING THAT WHILE IT IS MOST IMPRESSIONABLE-AT THIS EARLY AGE. IF YOU AND YOUR EX ARE MEANT TO BE TOGETHER, THEN THIS TIME APART WILL BE A GOOD LEARNING EXPERIENCE FOR THE BOTH OF YOU-USE IT WISELY....HOW DO I KNOW? I GOT DIVORCED AFTER SEVERAL YEARS OF MARRIAGE, MOVED INTO AN APARTMENT BY MYSELF, BEGAN A LIFE OF MY OWN, LEARNED AGAIN HOW TO BE ON MY OWN, AND, EVENTUALLY, WHEN I LEAST EXPECTED IT-FELL IN LOVE-WITH SOMEONE MUCH MORE WONDERFUL THEN I COULD EVER THINK POSSIBLE. THIS COULD NEVER HAVE HAPPENED IF I HAD NOT "FOUND" OUT WHO I WAS BY LIVING ALONE FOR AWHILE...GOOD LUCK AND BEST WISHES....TO BOTH YOU, YOUR EX, AND YOUR KIDS.
2007-12-13 11:21:24 · answer #1 · answered by REVOLUTION 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well doesn't sound like the marriage thing or even a relationship would work too well with your ex.....Maybe try talking to a lawyer to see what the chances are of getting custody of the kids....You might be surprised and she would have to pay child support....As to meeting other women, that is something you would have to work out, but I could tell you that there are no shortage of women out there that would love to be with a single dad who takes care of his kids....Good luck man.
2007-12-13 19:28:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of your relationship with her, you will spend the rest of your life involved with your children and she is right there too. So, come to terms with what you want and then work towards finding peace with your kids and show them a good time. A man is never so big than when he bends down to help a child. Make it your passion to be the best Dad ever.
2007-12-13 19:48:46 · answer #3 · answered by folklore 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Bro' it sounds like you're still an angry man! Don't go finding another women until you are well and truly over your ex, it will just end in tears for all involved.
Dob your ex in to the welfare people, tell them she is using the money mostly for herself and not the kids, don't let the biarch get away with it.
Don't try to get back with her, it will never work, get over her and get on with life.
There are plenty of lovely happy ladies out there, go get em!
2007-12-13 19:27:49 · answer #4 · answered by Badass 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to an attorney and a counselor and tell them the same things you've told us. She shouldn't be using the child support money for anyone but the children.
2007-12-13 19:12:31 · answer #5 · answered by drshorty 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get her a big ****( perferably black) stick it in her and stir it around for 30 minutes. Then you start licking her toes(even if they stink, I know its hard to do this but, trust me she will like it) After that , start licking her shoes ( make sure she has them on) and leave them spotless. Then have sex with her for 44 minutes,no more,no less. After that, fart on her face and turn around and laugh at her( It is scientificaly proven that 89% of girls find this arousing, and your girlfriend wil be no exception). And finally, say, I love you so much doll face and follow it with an upercut to the Knees( make sure you hit her as hard as you can.) It will be the bestes present ever, She will forever remember it for years to come.
2007-12-13 19:19:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Go to counseling and work on your issues before you decide to enter into a new romantic relationship with anyone.
2007-12-13 19:19:34 · answer #7 · answered by I do 26.2 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont get another woman so that they can be your rebound ... get over your first wife first, then move on ... you and your future relationships will benefit from this
2007-12-13 19:13:18 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. Neil 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
errr...good luck with that.
did you have a question?
2007-12-13 19:58:24 · answer #9 · answered by tallcowboy0614 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bring her back it will be good for you and ur children
2007-12-13 19:40:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋