My boyfriend and I have done it twice and both times I had to make him stop because it was extremely painful. I'm really scared it's going to hurt a lot again. We use lubricated condoms and neither of us have any extra lube. What can I do to minimize the pain?
2007-12-13 11:00:56 · 13 answers · asked by sportzchick143 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Make sure that you are "ready for sex" and that he is not rushing or being to rough. Sometimes it helps if he makes you climax first, this makes the vaginal tissue softer and more pliable as well as lubricated and relaxed. Lubricated condoms may not be enough, I recommend astroglide.
Also you should consider seeing a doctor especially if you were not painful before with intercourse and this just started. It can indicated a myriad of problems including an ovarian cyst, an STD, fibroid etc....
IF he KNOWS that he is hurting you and he still wants to have sex... GET RID OF HIM!!!! Abstinence is a great option as well sweetie, you wont have to worry about any of this!!
I am a single mother and I abstain... just not worth the worries!
2007-12-13 11:07:19 · answer #1 · answered by c1nicolei 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, second, and third times are going to be painful for some but not everyone.
If you are young and turned on, there should be little problem allowing that one-eyed trouser trout in.
You should be dripping from being horny, not dry from being scared of impending pain.
Sounds to me you are not ready. That means you are more scared than turned on.
Love Dr. Roger prescribes at least an hour of oral sex to be given to you by your boyfriend with no expectation of intercourse.
That should lube your vajay-jay nicely and you will not have the fear of intercourse running in the back of your mind. Just lay there and enjoy. He'll want some pleasure and I'm sure you can take care of that another way for that day.
If he doesn't want to be patient with you then I'd look for another lover.
All of this is guess work unless his name is John Holmes or Mandingo.... then that's a whole different story.
2007-12-13 11:25:52 · answer #2 · answered by playa_surfer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah it is beautiful typical to have his factor to be too significant. I had a buddy who that equal situation occurred to her. It was once the one time she attempted to have intercourse along with her boyfriend that is now her ex. Well his dick was once too significant. no issues you don't seem to be on this predicament on my own. It's almost always occurred to many humans similar to my buddy. I would not fear an excessive amount of. It's bigger to have a decent personal parted subject then it's to have a large unfold one when you consider that it is well to preserve pee in. Tight=powerful muscle groups you've gotten that is a well factor. Now you're almost always greater and older so your personal facet is greater. Besides your new bf would have a smaller factor. You by no means recognize. At least it almost always must be equipped to suit. Try to suppose up approximately this situation no longer down. Even if it cannot are compatible. Just suppose of some thing else romantic to do. Life does not continuously have got to be approximately intercourse.
2016-09-05 12:45:44 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is as bad as that you may have a condition called vaginismus. You might need a numbing gel from your doctor for the first few times until you get over it. Make sure your boyfriend wears a condom though, or it might numb him too!
2007-12-13 11:11:22 · answer #4 · answered by DavinaOpines 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure that you are aroused before he enters you and get some lube. Maybe you really don't want to have sex and this is a way to not do it. Good luck!!
2007-12-13 11:05:44 · answer #5 · answered by ponygirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The pain is natural the first time (and sometimes the next few times afterwards), but if you're really uncomfortable, maybe you're really not ready.
2007-12-13 11:06:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some very serious health problems that could be causing the pain. Talk to your OB/GYN!
2007-12-13 11:10:25 · answer #7 · answered by Stacy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax....
You're stressed out and it's not helping. Now you're anxious about it too, which won't help. Maybe you're just not ready to have sex.
2007-12-13 11:05:09 · answer #8 · answered by naenae0011 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to be gentle, and you can buy extra lubrication.
If he can't make you enjoy it...Tell him NO.
2007-12-13 11:04:47 · answer #9 · answered by jalady 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
do yall forplay first.. this will get you loose and wet.. then it will reduce the pain.
2007-12-13 11:05:02 · answer #10 · answered by Maria D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋