Are the parents always to blame when a child goes bad?

Answer 1

No

Answer 2

8 times out of 10 I believe they are. If parents disciplined correctly in the begining then they would not have ended up with a problem child. And after a problem started occuring they didn't do a harsh enough punishment or the kid would have stopped being bad.

Just my opinion though. I've gathered it by watching parents basically twiddle their thumbs or try "I'm taking away your cell phone for a week because you are smoking meth" to a 16 year old. That just doesn't work. :( And those people are now the people that I see in the paper every week under the "arrests" section.

Parents now days would rather hand their kids cell phones and let them come home at all hours of the night. They would rather have them screwing their life up then to have the kid angry at them. It's horrible.... parents just don't want to be parents they want to be friends. And there is a HUGE line between "parent" and "friend" and that line shouldn't be blurred or crossed until the kid is 18. And if parents had taught the kid right in the first place (like getting drunk, stealing, and doing drugs is wrong) then the kid wouldn't be doing those things.

Answer 3

Why did this question suddenly become popular? It's been asked 2 or 3 times in as many days.

No, parents are not always to blame for a bad child any more than bad parents are the reason why they get a good child. While there is a TENDENCY that bad parenting will produce a poor result, there is no guarantee of it. Many killers in prison were raised in very good homes and were raised well Kids from the slums and really, piss poor homes, grew up to be major leaders and philanthropists. Still, others started off bad and turned their lives around (think actor Tim Allen as one example).

Answer 4

Hello,
Not at all.
Kids these days want equality. They want to be treated as grown up, they want, want, want. Without having to give,give,give.
So when they go "bad" they have to take the responsibilities of these "wants".

Kids need to quit blaming mommy and daddy for everything.

Do you notice a child is a child until 18, 21 if in school by the child support system. However a grown up when it comes to breaking the law, the law will see a 14 year old as a adult in some instances. Giving them a adult sentence. Though this same 14 year old can not go out and get a job, move out on his/her own and pay taxes, drive, etc. Of course in Oregon where we live.
Just does not make sense......

ADD,
Do you know in our state it is a felony to discipline your kid. If you spank them you can have the cops at your door. If you sit them in a chair for time out you can have the cps called on you. With parents hands tide how then can we raise our kids?

Answer 5

it times gone by i think the answer might have been yes, this was when society, andyouth in general, were different. today i think things are very different, there is no rhyme or reason for innocent good kids to go bad, but they do, all the time. it is not uncommon for kids from the mostloving, secure, and warm homes to start up with drugs alcohol etc. The outside pressures have backed parents in the corner, rendering them useless, and just waiting for their kid to come back into their open arms. so i say no, but this is based on the premise that the parents have shown absolute love and devotion to child.

Answer 6

well if parents were responsible for how a child turns out then i dont know what people would say about me. i grew up with a schizophrenic, drug addicted mother who barely gave a **** about me and i have no father. i'm in college, i've never wanted nor tried drugs, i've never gotten in trouble and i'm the first in my family to finish highschool and go to college. i think that in some cases parents are to blame, but only to an extent. children have their own minds and you cant control a mind no matter who you are. i think parents play a big role, but they are not always the reason kids turn out bad, especially in todays society. there are so many reasons kids make the decisions they make, and parents are only one of the reasons and i dont believe that's enough to blame parents for bad kids.

Answer 7

Yes and No. In some ways they are, and in other ways they aren't. If they do not bring the child up right, and by the time they go to school, they are bad then YES it is the parent's fault. If the child is good and the nthey go to school and turn bad, it could be the enviroment's problem.

Oh crap, I have to go sorry.
I would write more, but I have to go.

Answer 8

a child have their own personality which can be a factor when a child is bad. But it's not only the parents fault why the child is bad, the people around them, can also be a factor.

Answer 9

Parents play a vital role in ensuring success for their children. Of course they can get a good start by setting good examples for the children to follow and teach them about peer pressure and abstinence. Most of the time, though, it's the environment around the individual..friends drinking, doing drugs, having sex, etc. and it kind of "encourages" others to do it just because they are too.

Answer 10

No, genes have a lot to do with it. The best parents do not always have the best children and sometimes, the worst parents have kids that turn out awesome!

Answer 11

No, eventually parents no longer control children and the children must either mature enough to reach society's standard or go "bad". Children make their own decisions. Parents just influence them.