My sister in law is dying of brain cancer, she is 31 and has three small children. I have already gotten her something, But we have a very big family and we are running out of ideas fast. Everyone on her side has bought her gowns, But we would like something that she would enjoy and could be passed on too her children as a keepsake. Any suggestions would be very appreciative at this point!!!!!!
2007-12-13 10:10:55 · 19 answers · asked by Good Witch of the South 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
a picture frame filled with pictures of family and friends to put by her bed....later this can be put next to a photo of her / or be buried with her / put next to her ashes...
i'm sorry about your loss =(
2007-12-13 10:17:22 · answer #1 · answered by alcmena 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Here are some of my ideas:
You can help her take pictures with her kids and other family members and friends.
Make a scrapbook out of them.
Help her write letters to her loved ones.Take videos of her talking to her family.
Make a coupon to bring dinner to her home once a week- or more.
Make sure she has a will. If not , make an appointment with an attorney to come to the house and write that up.
How about a colorful blanket or throw to use ? If the family made it, it would be very meaningful.
Extra pillows.Very soft sheets and pillow cases.
Lotion and back rubs.Perhaps professional massages ? Talk to the doctor and you may get a massage therapist to come to her home.
An appointment with an aromatherapist.They know what oils are beneficial to cancer patients and what oils to avoid.
Does she want to buy something for each child to have at a certain point in life ? A wedding ? A certain age ? The first baby ?
Offer to shop for her and put these gifts in a secure place for the kids.
I Hope that helps.
2007-12-13 10:33:01 · answer #2 · answered by Cammie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for all of you. How about some soothing music? Also, put together a scrap book of pictures of her life if you want something to pass on as a keepsake. This idea may be too painful, but how about a tape or video of all the kids individually telling her how much they love her and why they do, and (if they know she is dying) more importantly, that they will be okay without her.
2007-12-13 10:18:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about this. I think the things that you may do are to stay with her and make her know that she have been cherished by everyone in the family. As what some pals have mentioned, take some photos with her, bring her to her favourite place, do whatever she want to do but yet to have chance to fulfil. I think the main thing is let her go at the end of the day with no regret.
Hope my suggestion will help.
Regards
2007-12-14 05:00:33 · answer #4 · answered by jameslim060282 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Indulgent body lotions and a regular holistic masseuse to help her relax.
A scrapbook album of her photographs, and anyone else's photographs that include your sister in law in them, or of people or places related to her in some special way, so that she can look through it, read through other peoples memories and add her own comments to it.
Get the people who give you the photos and/or those who are in the photos to provide you with comments about your sister in law, with memories and thoughts about special times, jokes and events shared with her. (It may be worth telling people what size album you are working with.e.g. A5 so that they give you an appropriately sized bit of paper to stick in the album with the photos. ) Stick and paste these into an album and leave some space opposite the pages blank so that, if she is able, she can annotate the spaces in between with her own thoughts, comments, jokes, special memories of the people in the album. If she is not able to, make sure someone is with her as she goes through the album to jot down any comments she makes, so that they can be written down in the album when convenient.
I am sure that she will enjoy looking back at moments in her life, and contributing notes to it for her family to keep in the future as a valuable memory of her life.
It can be hard to collate photos together quickly but email and the internet can help considerably in this, and even if you only end up with 10 - 20 pictures and contributions from people, I am sure that it will be a special christmas present for her.
Good luck and I hope you have a special christmas with her.
2007-12-13 10:36:39 · answer #5 · answered by jilly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh God this is hard............ God bless your sister.
How about a beautiful crystal angel or a stained glass angel she can put in a window and let the sun's rays shine through.
A beautiful quilt with everyone's picture or name on it, and a favorite blessing or quote would be great for her.
Or a sweet little puppy like a pug or shitzu that can be comforting in her time of pain. With a cutesy little bow. That would help her when no one is around in the hospital or at home.
thoughts are with you.
2007-12-13 10:14:45 · answer #6 · answered by Born Valentine's Day 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This may sound weird but they have rings and stuff that have all the families birthstones in them. If you could get her a set - ring, bracelet and necklace I think she would like it and then each child could have a piece of the set after she passes.
I'm tearing up just imagining how hard this is for all of you. My heart goes out to you. God Bless.
2007-12-13 10:27:24 · answer #7 · answered by Choqs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry. Just bring yourself. Let everyone in the family sign a BIG card and bring her some roses aswell.
2007-12-13 10:18:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
something that would touch her heart.. a gown is pretty but what use is it to a dying woman.. scrapbooks/videos, memories, keepsakes.
2007-12-13 10:14:12 · answer #9 · answered by kyliebear? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a scrapbook or photo album of pictures and things of her and her family.
2007-12-13 10:18:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is a better gift for her right now than your love and caring for her and her family.
2007-12-13 10:18:28 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋