Do you give your spouse oral because my hubby complains that I don't do it enough. I think he's lucky he gets it at all because I have heard from many wives that they just "don't do that". What do you think?
2007-12-13 09:34:00 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I actually do enjoy it very much, but I am too tired to do it every other night.
2007-12-13 09:47:37 · update #1
Todd - you are ridiculous!!! haha!
2007-12-13 10:45:57 · update #2
I do it often and he loves it
2007-12-13 10:06:58 · answer #1 · answered by nikie_atkinson 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Personally, I love giving my hubby oral pleasure and if I could go without enjoyment myself everynight he would get it however I sometimes need to be taken care of too. So for the most part he gets oral everynight except when I need attention too, even then he gets what he wants! I work full time and so does he, I'm a full time mommy and I go to school full time but still find time to make him feel special!
Momma_Bear
2007-12-13 17:54:08 · answer #2 · answered by the_morris_bears 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband knows that I don't enjoy giving oral. He knew it when we were dating, and yet he still married me. I'm trying to "learn" to enjoy it, but he accepts that it's not going to be a regular thing with us. Does he wish I would do it more? Absolutely. But we make up for it in other ways.
By the way, Steph - we've been together for almost 15 years. So if that doesn't qualify as having a "great relationship" I'd be interested to know what does.
2007-12-13 17:45:43 · answer #3 · answered by Nandina (Bunny Slipper Goddess) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't because my love is too big in that department... It literally doesn't work. lol!
But our sex life more than makes up for it. And believe it or not, he's not like this super horny, selfish guy. When we make love, he's always all about pleasing me and I think that's what really makes him happy.
Not that he doesn't enjoy everything, but I don't think he would ever give me a hard time for not giving him oral and hasn't in the last 4 years.
2007-12-13 17:39:53 · answer #4 · answered by BTB{06.22.09} 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am not married, but I am engaged, and have been with my boyfriend for 3 years, living together for 1 and 1/2 years. He gets oral 1-2 times a week because I enjoy making him feel good. I get pleasure from giving him pleasure.
2007-12-13 17:42:35 · answer #5 · answered by Stark 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Firstly, who cares what other women do or don't do... he is unique and you should only address his needs.
secondly... imagine what he would think of you if you did it more often... he would adore you.
thirdly... the last thing you want to do is to start building a wall between the two of you sexually. For men, sex is pretty close to the top of our priorities. If that isn't good and satisfying... nothing else matters. It's only 99% of our relationship if it isn't satisfying.
I don't want to assume too much but from what I have seen most women have a TON of things that they do in a day, like phone calls and shopping, that the 'I'm too tired' excuse could be remedied with a cutting back on a few of these things... what is so important that you can't please the ONE person that you are stuck with for the rest of your life.
Is a 20 minute bj every few days THAT exhausting? I hope I can find a woman who can manage their personal resources better than that. Someone who takes good enough care of themselves to have 10 minutes at the end of the day for me.
2007-12-13 18:07:08 · answer #6 · answered by Mindlessfun 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yes I do, not only for him, but for me as well, it's kind of my way of reconnecting with him, blowing off some steam and it makes for some explosive experiences.
Many women will give oral when they are trying to land a husband, then they stop doing it because they got their prize. Ever wonder why the divorce rate is so high? Because another woman who LIKES giving oral will snatch up husbands' quicker than a burnt out star.
You have to enjoy it, I do because it not only drives him up the wall, it turns me on to turn him on.
2007-12-13 17:42:07 · answer #7 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes I love giving it too..............but I think it's something men want all the time. I have recently quit cause I don't get it like I give it to him - so now either gets it. Kinda sad. But yeah after a long day at work - it's not so fun to do. He should be lucky you do it at all!
2007-12-13 17:52:00 · answer #8 · answered by Hey now 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you don't then another just might. Sometimes after taking care of business at work, at home, getting kids settled and fed, etc We women do get tired; however, all u need to do is give him a taste unexpectedly here and there...I promise, a little tug at his pants as dinner's being prepared.....massages as you guys are chilling watching T.V. ...a lil tongue action right before you do the "do".... that's all it takes, just be consistent, flirty, inventive........he'll enjoy whatever you offer and won't complain about "not receiving often enough" either.
2007-12-13 18:04:20 · answer #9 · answered by 4everFaithful 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, your lucky your husband complains he don't get it enough. I love oral with my hubby, but he dosen't want it, or even ask me for it anymore. He does oral on me though. What the h%!! does that mean? If you ask me i think that's selfish. It makes me feel bad because i like to be able to please him too, and it turns me on when he's turned on.
2007-12-13 18:08:43 · answer #10 · answered by venusstar05 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There are some chicks who just don't do it. I'm one of those guys who just 'doesn't do that'. It's a choice. You're right, he should be happy, but he isn't. Look for a compromise in the matter. Maybe... do anal? Tell him to eat you out more? There are tons of ways to approach this. You've got to think about it.
Brandon
2007-12-13 17:37:59 · answer #11 · answered by El BrandO 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋