ladies do you mind if your husband makes new/serious friendships with single women that he works with...and gentlemen, do you mind if your wives constantly make new/serious friends with single males...i mean friends that they constantly talk onthe phone with, go out with and work with....is this crossing the line of marriage? does it violate the marriage vows?
what do you think?
2007-12-13 09:11:54 · 13 answers · asked by hot black babe 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
so far, i agree with Barb Outhere...Just Me....i don't agree...
2007-12-13 09:35:19 · update #1
Stick hit the nail on the head....that's exactly what i'm sayiin'!
2007-12-13 10:55:14 · update #2
Hi Hot Black Babe
No, it does ot violate the marriage vows, nor "cross the line", as you put it, but what it certainly does is to in crease the temptation (and the "risk") to have sex with those "friends".
And the more often one indulges in hanging out with them, the more it will seem the natural thing to do. We're only human (and sexual beings, too), and those sex chemicals can lie dormant for a long time, and then be awakened by behaviour of this nature.
It could be fun, but could potentially end with devastating effects...
2007-12-13 18:45:07 · answer #1 · answered by 850se 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If their having this "friendship" means that they are unwilling to devote their time to their partners - then yes, it is a problem. If they are sharing things with this "friend" instead of their partners, then yes it is. If they are constantly on the phone, or going out with this "friend" then they are taking that time away from their partner. And why the "new" and "serious"? It could be construed as an emotional affair.
How the partner feels about it is as much to decide if its cheating or not too. If they are comfortable with it, it might be OK, but if they are not and you choose to do it anyway, then it may be pretty close to cheating, because you are putting this "friendship" above the marriage.
2007-12-13 09:21:56 · answer #2 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes it does violate the marriage, because when u marry u should not have to share your man with anyone, or his time. if they are constantly on the phone, go out with them, than they are taking away time from their spouse that their spouse is entitled to. when u marry one has the right to having an exclusive relationship with no others in it. i would have to question any relationship like this, because its only going to be a matter of time until it turns into more, and someone gets their heart broken.
2007-12-13 09:36:54 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see no reason for my husband to make new/serious friendships with woman at work....I am a SAHM and I know that he wouldn't appreciate me making serious friendships with male coworkers if I did work outside the home...Definitely would be crossing the lines in my marriage....
2007-12-13 09:18:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt mind, but i would be a bit jealous .. and i know he would feel the same the other way around .. I dnt think this violates our vows in anyway at all .. its life u gta deal with it ..
If u dont trust each other why the heck did u get married???
2007-12-13 09:18:13 · answer #5 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think it would be disrespectful to establish any kind of a meaningful friendship with anyone of the opposite sex especially if that person is single. You leave the door open to opportunity that should not be there. It is not a matter of jealousy. It is a matter of respect.
2007-12-13 10:36:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that if you are married you know where you stand, just because you are in a relationship with someone doesn't mean that you can't hang out with people of the oppisite sex. I think that it's okay to have friends that are single you probably already work with a couple of them. If you are christian you know what's right and wrong and the lord says " Thou shall not commit adultery
2007-12-13 09:18:33 · answer #7 · answered by Miss K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Making friends with people of the opposite sex does not in and of itself cause a problem. It does create temptation however. Enough temptation creates infidelity. It's an old recipe.
2007-12-13 09:49:28 · answer #8 · answered by Poppy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he can do as he plz's, I will trust him til he blows that. I'd be extremely jealous and he'd know that. It would be up to him on what to do w/ it. I will give him a rope but it will be up to him to hang himself w/ it. The way I see it don't do something u wouldn't want me doing.
2007-12-13 09:18:52 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Pure Evil♥ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the 2 of you have to draw your line. i would only be bothered if i didn't get any time. the friend's marital status is not the main issue.
2007-12-13 09:18:23 · answer #10 · answered by Voice of Reason 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋