I need more passion and and more sex in our marriage!?

Question

how can I get my husband to want more loving like me!

I enjoy sex and want to make it more spicy.

Answer 1

Angel L, Have you tried straight talk ? Silk and satin lingeria ?Stokings ! Candles and wine ?

Answer 2

You know... I see this more and more on here. And I also know people in my personal life who complain of this. When I was younger it was my male friends who made the complaint. Now it's the female who are complaining because they're not getting enough. Men peak at 18 or 19 and women peak at 40. It's a cruel hoax that life has played on women.

I'm not sure you can get your husband to want it more. Maybe if you were to work on the marriage and see what you can do to better meet each other's needs. See if you can cultivate better closeness. See if you can make more time to be together and to enjoy each other's company. It's hard to spend time with a spouse and sit across the table at a nice restaurant, have a nice meal and a nice glass of wine and not want her... big time.

Candles, wine, good foods. Romantic evenings by the fire and good conversation. If that doesn't do it, your man is just plain dead.

Answer 3

Assuming your relationship is otherwise good with your husband, it could be he's tired from work and/or otherwise unmotivated.

Communicate your feelings. Agree on and pick the right day and time, where you are able to dress hot for him and will not be interrupted.

Have the right ambiance (proper music, dimming of the lights, scented candles, perhaps having a bit of alcohol may help and maybe a visual aid such as a sexual CD or tape depending on your personal convictions).

Assuming that you are attractive and if he still doesn't respond or responds negatively, he may be having physical, emotional or medical problems that make him incapable.

A woman like yourself (with a healthy libido) should be greatly appreciated by her significant other. More power to ya, love.

Answer 4

Having the same problem. I will wait to see the answers because I need to know too.

I did read that men peak in their late teens and women late 30's to early 40's. We miss each other in the sex game. So by the time we're ready they're done. It's crazy!

My man is content with just being with me and for me I want to jump on him every chance I get but he's always not ready.

Answer 5

Right now, I suspect your husband just knows you want 'more, more, more!' and that's threatening. But if he knew that once a month or once every two weeks could be enough to satify you and bring back the closeness you once enjoyed, do you think he'd be willing to try that? Maybe arrange a standing 'date night' every so often? And with all of the drugs on the market now aimed at treating ED, it seems a shame to just give up...

Answer 6

A lot of different things go in to finding the proper answer to your question. Assuming that he is in good health, and not overworked, there are a few things you can do. First, forget the male stereotypical crap. Buy him flowers for no reason. Gift wrap your size "lacies" and give them to him as a gift. Run him a hot bubble bath, wash his back, and be there to towel dry all of him when the bath is over. Men like to feel desired too, and not just like a piece of meat.

Answer 7

I dont think there is a guy in this whole wide world, who would mind when his wife tells him that she wants more spice in her sex life. That is just good to hear. You should talk to him about it, tell him to get a little creative.

Read some books, try new things. I am sure everybody will be happy.

Answer 8

you are gonna get alot of other answers like adding this or subtracting this but the truth is ur married. you need to talk. get together tell him how you are feeling ask him if u have done anything wrong. treat this like a marrie couple not a week fliing. your in love trust in each other. growth will spice it up more then anythign else.

Answer 9

i am not sure i feel the same way but try playing out some fantasys doing spontaneous things if u can go away alone together spend some quality time, he may be feeling the same way. Buy toys or sexy outfits find out what he likes nd run with it

Answer 10

Introduce new things to him next time you two are about to hit the be. Tell him harder, faster, turn me over, put this leg here, let's do it over there. Let him know with moans and noises that you like those different things. Also when you guys are just chilling talk to him about it, Men do not read minds......he'll never know you want those things until you tell him.