Have you ever been satisfied with yourself and then so happy and your life finally starts to come together with someone...you start your family, you love, you share-through the good and bad, and then realize that the person you are with is a prolonged liar, a phony, and not the person who you thought she/he was at all?
Now it is too late, you have a child, you are dependent, what do you do?
2007-12-13 08:41:33 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Re-check your senses.
Are they a magician? Did this just pop up? Or were you wearing blinders hoping for the best, because you wanted a relationship?
Most of the time we choose not to see the imperfections of others when we desire to have someone in our lives. This is not a wise thing to do, as you are now finding out.
You chose this, work with it or give it all up and start again a little smarter, it's up to you.
Yoda out
2007-12-13 08:47:51 · answer #1 · answered by Yoda 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's never too late. Tell yourself this everyday until you believe it. If you believe in prayer then you need to stay prayerful. You need to also get counseling for yourself. Dont worry about anyone but yourself and the child at this point. You can walk away from this with the child. You don't have to stay or be subject to remain in this relationship because it was built on lies. Only truth can stand lies always fall. Its unfortunate that this type of thing always happens to good people and the phony is never exposed until they have done considerable damage to other people they are sick and not to be trusted. You can leave this person-you wont be happy until you do. children perfer happy parents
2007-12-13 16:56:29 · answer #2 · answered by REALADY 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are never dependent on anyone, as long as you are healthy and able to hold your own! It's called self-esteem, and that explains how you feel about yourself..... You can delegate and take care of your children together still and the relationship side of things can can come to an end! It's never to late.....
I've been where you are where as you realize that someone is a liar and the relationship falls apart! But you pick yourself up dust yourself off and try again....
Good Luck and God Bless
2007-12-13 16:47:59 · answer #3 · answered by rita_hiemy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you get your education (grants, loans, parents supplying the money for now), maybe do some work at home (like Avon or jerkey or whatever suits your gender), and then build a savings account (one they are not aware of...never have it sent to your home...add your parent's name so in case you are ill "they" can get to your money to help you if needed, but don't put your spouse's name on it). In some states what you have is yours, what they have is theirs, and they have no right to what you own. Check to see if your state is like that. Sometimes in a divorce though whether it be the husband or wife, whoever earns the most pays, or the male pays. If you are the female then the spouse may have to pay alimony which is money to get you educated, and money for the child. Here where I live if the person with the money doesn't pay up they land in jail.
2007-12-13 16:54:37 · answer #4 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never too late. And shame on you for becoming "dependant" upon a man.
I'm so sorry you've come to this realization. It must be very hurtful and disappointing... but it's not "too late" to make something of your life and find happiness again. What do you want? Do you want to leave him? Do you want to work on it in couples therapy? Whatever it is you want you have the power to achieve it. Don't be a victim.
2007-12-13 16:46:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave. if you have family friends ask them to help you. don't waste 17 years of your life like i did. it's never too late to start over. you don't need to be dependent on that person. they might want you to think that but it's not true. so give you and your child a chance in life to be happy. kids can adapt to change.
2007-12-13 16:57:49 · answer #6 · answered by yak4the8car 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Glad you finally opened your eyes huh? It's never too late to correct a mistake. It will take changes on your part though. Good luck.
2007-12-13 17:53:47 · answer #7 · answered by Poppy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never to late, if u want out, u get out. Noone can force u to stay where u don't wanna be. Child or not, u do what makes u happy cuz it will then make that child happy!
2007-12-13 16:46:13 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Pure Evil♥ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yup been there done that with 3 kids! Work on your independence-go to school -get skills -whatever it takes and then free yourself of this loser.
2007-12-13 16:47:11 · answer #9 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
work on it, improve the situation what ever way possible.... partner for life, together you can work it out.....honesty is a HUGE step, thats why its so important, getting that right just once is a big milestone... but it isnt hopeless.
2007-12-13 16:46:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋