my husbands brother has had nothing to do with our family or his own family since our son was born. His wife seems to be upset that we had a boy.She sends a card to my husbands work in a brown envelope with no names on it just the last name, inside it is not labled with names just says have a great holiday. There is also a gift certificate for our son but not for our daughter in it..do we just send the card back? Any suggestions???
2007-12-13 08:36:04 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my husbands brother has had nothing to do with our family or his own family since our son was born. His wife seems to be upset that we had a boy.She sends a card to my husbands work in a brown envelope with no names on it just the last name, inside it is not labled with names just says have a great holiday. There is also a gift certificate for our son but not for our daughter in it..do we just send the card back? Any suggestions???..on a further note when they came over when my son was born they refused to hold our son and ignored my husband mothers who was in the room. Ever since our son was born all contact has been dropped from that end..we dont even get to see our nephew, they dont pick up the phone when we (including his mom and sister) call.
2007-12-13 08:58:00 · update #1
on a further note when they came over when my son was born they refused to hold our son and ignored my husband mothers who was in the room. They are really upset that she came over to help us out after the birth. We asked her to as my mom lives far away and could not be there. Ever since our son was born all contact has been dropped from that end..we dont even get to see our nephew, they dont pick up the phone when we (including his mom and sister) call.
2007-12-13 08:59:17 · update #2
I am only asking this because my husband wants to know what to do
2007-12-13 09:05:53 · update #3
I think it is very sad that this is how they deal with family issues...If I was you, I would not dwell on it...Life is too short to to try to figure out what may or may not be their problem...I would just send it back and not even bother...You and your family don't need anything from them...It's like why would she even bother in the first place to send anything..I was always taught to be the bigger person when it comes to things like this but, by sending the card back this will show her that if they choose to exclude themselves from the family that the truth is life goes on and no matter what you ALL will be fine without them.... Happy Holidays to you and to All in your family...
2007-12-13 09:15:11 · answer #1 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the card but send the gift certificate back.
I would simply state that you appreciate the gesture but you did not feel right giving your son a gift from his aunt and uncle and not your daughter.
While they are not required to give your kids Christmas gifts, if they do, they should include both children not just one
(so tacky). Or at least get a combined gift certificate they could have split.
2007-12-13 16:42:36 · answer #2 · answered by tinyavenger 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have two choices:
1. Take the high road and accept the gift card, use it for both children, and then send a thank you note with a thank you picture from the kids.
2. Be horrible back at them and assume that their intentions were malicious rather than, perhaps, misguided and stupid.
I think you should be better people than they are. You don't have to be best friends with them, but it is common courtesy to write a thank you note and accept a gift. I would be polite, but nothing more.
2007-12-13 16:47:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't. Why give her the satisfaction of knowing that she upset you. Instead, I would send a nice letter thanking her for including your family in her thoughts during this holiday season. Send her and her family your blessings. Make it a sappy as you can. Thank her for the gift for the children. She won't know then that it upset you. Tell her that you took the GC and bought the kid(s) something nice and they love it.
Then, have both of the kids sign the card thanking her for her gift.
Never let the other guy think he is winning. Be better, be strong and you won't go wrong!!
Kill them with kindness, it's the best way!
Yoda out
2007-12-13 16:44:41 · answer #4 · answered by Yoda 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why is it that it is always the women in the family who make a fuss out of things? Accept the X-Mas card in good faith and return one also by simply wishing them a good holiday and a thank you for the gift certificate. Why do you feel you need to make matters worse? Leave it alone, by you making more of it than it is you are only making the situation for your husband worse. Stop it and just be gracious in the spirit of Christmas!
2007-12-13 17:04:49 · answer #5 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send it back.....how sad they can't be happy for you....
Actually I think Yoda is right.....Keep both the card and split the gift certificate for the kids...they won't know the difference at this age.....Send her a thank you card and mention what the kids bought with the gift certificate.....Don't give her the satisfaction of knowing that she hurt you...because evidently that is exactly what she was trying to accomplish.....LOL...probably will piss her off more because she didn't get the reaction she was looking for...
2007-12-13 16:42:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the card, keep the gift certificate, spend it on BOTH kids, send a card back thanking them, tell and have all the kids sign it.
2007-12-13 16:48:43 · answer #7 · answered by Riley's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would!!! It is either the whole package or none at all, it is not fair to one child who does not get the gift certificate, and to the other one who does, think how the other child will feel??
Pretty left out, I presume.
Send it back!!!!!
2007-12-13 16:48:28 · answer #8 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt send it back....its possible that they made an extremely clumsy attempt to mend a bridge...... take the gift certificate and split between your children....send back a note thanking them for the card
2007-12-13 16:42:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'd send it back and tell them if they can't send a gift card for both kids, then don't send anything.
Too bad they don't hand out Frontal Lobotomy gift cards, and put their names on it.
2007-12-13 16:50:33 · answer #10 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋