after 3 yrs of being far from the person i love, i am finally with him. we r planning to get married. We both study in universities at grad level. Since our universities r close to each other, i come every day to work with him in his uni. I am not wanting to have friends coz i dont want them to take me from him. i just want to be with him. Since there isnt anything official between us yet, i sometimes feel bad that people always see me with him(due to cultural and religious reasons). i do tell my friends that we r gonna get engaged next yr.however i dont want to have a bad reputation..
do u think that i should stop meeting him everyday at his uni and be less frequent in seeing him? we usually study together in his office at his uni..
2007-12-13 08:09:48 · 5 answers · asked by sarah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you should live your life for you and not worry so much about what others think. How do you know they aren't doing worse things that you don't see?
Live the way that makes you both happy and don't fret about others.
Yoda out
2007-12-13 08:15:48 · answer #1 · answered by Yoda 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do not want his friends to take him away from you?? Sounds just a little possessive, doesn't it??? Can't you share??? Honey, you can be with him and have friends also, what are you going to do, take him away and keep him in a cave the rest of his life?? Does he know you are not planning on not having friends, does he know you are jealous of his friends, does he know what you intend to do once you two are together???? If not, he is in for a big suprise!!!!!!
Does he know YOU want to get engaged, is he planning on getting engaged, and what about the engagement party, you HAVE to have friends over there, or will it just be the two of you in a cave somewhere on some remote island?????
You will have a bad reputation if you do not "allow" him to have any friends.
Why should you stop meeting him at his university??? Why should you stop now???? You have everything planned out, you told us all about your little plan, now you have to tell him.
2007-12-13 08:19:07 · answer #2 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know...if you're happy why mess that up because of what someone else MIGHT think? If for some reason you thought you were losing your identity by running behind him, I would suggest distancing yourself a bit every now and then just so you can keep things straight in your own mind. But if you're both happy (and considering the fact that you have had to wait 3 years for this chance), I'd say if it isn't broken don't fix it.
2007-12-13 08:16:58 · answer #3 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
who are u livin for...urself or ur friends. i wish i was around when u let that good man slip away. i would scoop him right up. ok. seriously, if u let a good thing go, someone will be there to pick up the pieces. what about ur reputation? are u supposed to be better than him or somethin? u sound superficial. it sounds like he actually deserves better. not to sound mean but how would u feel if he was askin the same s*&^ ur askin right now.
2007-12-13 08:19:02 · answer #4 · answered by Audrean L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just a bit!
2007-12-13 08:12:41 · answer #5 · answered by notyochic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋