2007-12-13 08:08:33 · 64 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Because he doesn't want you to know that you are smarter than him.....He feels stupid compared to you and you make him feel bad about himself....
Try not to take it personally....it's really about him and his low self esteem.
2007-12-13 08:11:11 · answer #1 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 9⤊ 2⤋
Well you know sometimes people get so mad and they can't control there temper that they said the first thing that comes to mind. But if he also calls you stupid then yes that is abuse. Some people seem to think that abuse is only physical. Verbal abusive can sometimes be the worst abuse. Just stay focus and try to think more positive and do not what he say affect you. Him calling you stupid is a sign of weakness to me. Because it could be so simple and easy to not call you stupid, but he's too weak to sit down and think that the things he call you are hurtful. It will he ok though keep your head up and you will be ok Also maybe you should try sitting down talking to your dad when he is calm explaining to him how it makes you feel when he call you stupid. Godd Luck! I hope I've helped you.
2007-12-13 08:20:45 · answer #2 · answered by Crystal P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad is obviously frustrated by something. Are you doing your best at school? Do you help out at home?
Being a parent isnt the easy job most kids think it is, as pressures to bring home money and provide for everyone make it a difficult thing. If you are not performing to what your father believes to be the level you can work at then that may be causing him to lash out.
While it is not right for him to call you this, not every parent is going to be the next Dr. Phil.
Maybe sit down with him and find out what problems he has with you and then form a plan to work on these.
2007-12-13 08:14:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is this a recent thing? Is he abusive to your mum? How does she deal with it? What does she say when he calls you 'stupid'? does she side with him, you, or stay out of it? Is it when you argue he says it?
he is the adult and (presumably) you are not, so he is clearly, to me, in the wrong. We get the best from people by focussing on their good points, and praising good behavour, etc. You must feel hurt by this, but maybe he is just temporarily angry about something and taking it out on you? If its temporary, forgive him. If it is long term, you need to talk to another adult that you can trust.
What does 'stupid' mean anyway - he is just using it as an insult.
Good luck.
2007-12-13 08:20:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I guess it would depend largely on whether or not you ARE stupid. Do you keep making the same mistakes? Do you keep doing things that don't work? Suggest you examine your own behavior before you start questioning your father's behavior. If you find that you do not repeat mistakes, and you do not continually try to do things that are proven to not work, then you might have a talk with your dad and ask him why he keeps saying such things. But when it comes down to it, your dad is entitled to his opinion, and voicing his opinion is not abuse.
2007-12-13 08:15:12 · answer #5 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He might be saying that because something you think would be smart to do or say isn't exactly what he would do or say. You should try asking him why he calls you stupid and tell him that you don't like to be called stupid. And it is not exactly abuse unless he takes it a step further.
2007-12-13 08:13:23 · answer #6 · answered by mikepete7191 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe that's the only way he can express his disilike for the things you are doing. Before you go calling Social Service try to talk to him and let him know that it makes you feel insecure and you don't like it. That may not work right away but if you start to ignore him and don't let it get to you he will get the picture when he learns how address you properly then you answer him until then let him direct the question at the person it is meant to go to.
2007-12-13 08:15:50 · answer #7 · answered by classiclady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I admit that it is not a good idea to keep doing that. It messes with your self esteem.
There may be more to the story than you are telling, but that is your business.
Just ignore his comments, I know that will be hard to do, but you have to do it. Who knows, maybe Dad is trying to be funny or just kidding around with you. I doubt that your Dad really thinks that you are stupid.
Take a look at yourself, how are your grades? How is your social life? That should tell you, if you need to work on either one.
good luck to you
2007-12-13 08:15:31 · answer #8 · answered by Fordman 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's probably jealous, or he just doesnt know how to handle children or understand that you are young and prone to make mistakes due to inexperience. Go do something that will prove him wrong, I don't know how old you are to give you suggestions, but theres a range of things you can do to getting a part time job like washing cars or mowing lawns to doing the D of E awards and go do some expeditions.
I wouldnt call it abuse unless he was really affecting you and knowing he was. Speak to him about it.
2007-12-13 08:13:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have a chat with your Dad - I doubt that he thinks you're stupid at all. Probably he's irritated about something that you're doing that he doesn't agree with. Parents are strange like that - rather than talk it through they call you stupid or nag about everything else rather than get to the point. I bet he doesn't even realise it upsets you xxx
2007-12-13 08:12:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is emotional abuse. No parent should call a child stupid, EVER, EVER, EVER!!! How can a child get self esteem if their own parent calls them stupid. If this is a serious question, maybe you could talk to your mom, or some close relative, or even a minister.
2007-12-13 08:13:09 · answer #11 · answered by judyarb1945 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋