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2007-12-13 07:44:50 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he needs to understand that u have no interest in it, but u have to let him know. never allow anyone to force u or manipulate u into doing something u hate. he will have to compromise if he wants to keep u.
2007-12-13 07:52:41 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Kinda vague...If he wants to try something that you find distasteful you will either have to just tell him no freakin way or try to open up your mind and let it happen. It depends on how distaseful you feel about what he wants to do.
I will say this however, life is short and will change and new things can be scary, you will never know what you are missing until you try. If you still do not want that in your life anymore, then he should understand that at least you tried.
Yoda out
2007-12-13 15:49:36 · answer #2 · answered by Yoda 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Communicate. Talk about it. Tell him your opinions and feelings. You're going to share a life together, you need to be open and share everything - or it won't be an honest relationship.
Tell him you don't agree and won't feel comfortable with the 'thing'. You will have to accept him for who he is. You won't be able to change his mind or his likes, but you don't have to participate.
Also, try doing things you like - maybe he'll like them too and be less interested in the other 'things'
2007-12-13 15:50:08 · answer #3 · answered by kate K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That depends on how far out his interest is. Most fantasies can be compromised with, though. Example 1: a man into bondage might want to bind you in chains, but might settle for padded handcuffs. Example 2: a man who wants a threesome might be able to simulate it adequately with toys and/or roleplaying. See if you can come up with something you're OK with that might also help him out.
2007-12-13 15:50:24 · answer #4 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
everything in a marriage is about compromise. if you've tried this sexual thing and don't like it, or you have serious objections to it, then he can't force you or guilt you into doing it. but you have to be willing to compromise in some way, if you really love him. he also has to respect you, if he loves you.
2007-12-13 16:31:07 · answer #5 · answered by hh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to compromise. He has things that he likes, you have things you don't like - try to meet in the middle that way you are both getting what you want.
2007-12-13 16:22:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means you should have been able to COMMUNICATE before you got married and found these things out and decided whether you "agreed" with them or not BEFORE you got married.
2007-12-13 19:52:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all depends on the what the "interest" is. this answer can go both ways. if the "interest" isnt something horrible, then u should just accept it. but if its something thats completely unacceptable, he should understand that it bothers u and stop whatever it is he's doing.
2007-12-13 15:50:51 · answer #8 · answered by Joanna 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If his interest is sex in general and you aren't interested, then you have a problem that isn't going to get any better. If it's something in particular, he needs to realize that if it's something you don't feel comforatble doing, then he needs to let it drop.
2007-12-13 15:50:34 · answer #9 · answered by bikinkawboy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Compromise,,,,,if you love each other,,,you compromise. That doesn't mean do it! That means finding ways to satisfy both parties,,,good luck
2007-12-13 15:52:55 · answer #10 · answered by KingDavid 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋